Lou

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Also can you host any of these gatherings? That way you are in your elements where you know nothing will set you off. I've had to do this many times, especially on the major holidays

Terry I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much. ~Mother Teddy Bear's Early Learning ProgramEstablished August of 1992

From: asthma [mailto:asthma ] On Behalf Of Terry Sent: Friday, August 29, 2008 7:24 AMTo: asthma Subject: Families not understanding

Try this Lou, can you go without going in the house? can you suggest the gathering be held in the yard like a big cook out? That's one way to avoid what ever is in the house that is triggering you. IF not you'll have to do what I do, hubby's aunt has a Golden Retriever that stays in the house, well when I use to go over it would set me off big time, so I would only go over if it was nice out and sit on the deck, one of my boys would make my plate and bring it out to me so I could eat. Hubby's aunt totally understands and is not at all offended, She knows how serious it is due to me having to let my Keycat go. If family can't try to understand there isn't much we can do about it. My Mom and Grandmother both have cats indoors, I can't be in their homes because of the asthma, and they both understand that. My grandmother's house is a bit easier on me as she has all hardwood floors so it's not embedded in the carpet, my mom burns candles, that set's me off as well.

Never put yourself in harms way, especially with asthma! you take care of you everything else will fall into place! Watch and see

Terry I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much. ~Mother Teddy Bear's Early Learning ProgramEstablished August of 1992

From: asthma [mailto:asthma ] On Behalf Of Lou DemplerSent: Friday, August 29, 2008 7:15 AMTo: asthmaSubject: Re: Fw: need help

Terry,

You are a sweetheart. I can always count on you for comforting, kind and caring words. It's like receiving a warm hug from a sister. Thank you for reminding me, I'm not alone and people in this group really do care.

This asthma is not only hard on our bodies, lifestyles, but most of all relationships. I really appreciate you reminding me again, I'm not alone.

My sister just bought her first home and has been living there for 5 weeks. She moved my mother in with her because she has RA and needed to live in a single level. My parent's home is as tri-level. Whenever I go see her, I start wheezing, shortness of breath and get all congested. This even happens when I wear double masks and stay for 5 minutes. My husband even has to take a zyrtec and he doesn't have allergies or asthma. I've tried to tell her it's a fabric softener, air freshener etc. She has made some changes and seems to be open to the fact I'm allergic to something in her home. NOW my mother is a different story. Se loves to tell me, I'm the only person that has said anything. Not one family member or any of their friends including several Priests, have commented what a "sweet" fragrance there is in the house. My mother has asked each person, supposedly, for each visitor's input. She is trying to make me feel odd. Now it's the holiday weekend and we are suppose to go there to celebrate. UGH! This disease is challenging enough with the drugs, feeling ill, every day with new obstacles, controlling my meds, symptoms, concerned about side effects etc. etc. Then on top of all of it, I have so called friends and real family members who don't understand.

Thanks for always being there with an encouraging word for me and everyone else too.

God Bless You, Terry! Breathe easy, my dear friend!

Lou