Guest guest Posted October 7, 2002 Report Share Posted October 7, 2002 Hi Family...Recently you might remember my son came to visit after being far away both geographically & emotionally. He called 2 nights ago and said he may be moving back to the Portland area after the holidays. When Em heard this she said she would be hiding or perhaps we should move back to our hometown (something we have been thinking about.) My other 2 daughters are not happy about it either. is moderately learning disabled with a mental illness. When he was in his mid teens he was extremely innapropriate with my 2 youngest daughters and several other children their ages between 2 - 6 years younger than him. I discovered this and immediately got into counseling (the girls & I went through counseling with a different therapist.) 's counseling and testing was very extensive...the upshot being was not a predator, but his discernment about appropriateness was way off. I went to counseling with him for 2 years. The Dr. said he did not know even in maturing if would ever totally " get it. " To say all this was hell would be an understatement. The girls love very much, as do I. In some ways he is a sweetheart with a heart of gold, but as Em aptly puts it " ...I love my brother but I can't trust him. " We adopted when he was 4..he thought his name was actually " Dummy " from what he had been called so long. When helping him with his first shower at our home I found evidence of severe and chronic sexual abuse. I took him to the Dr. who confirmed that. The adoption folks either didn't know or didn't tell us. Now he is 27, a 6 ft. tall grown man who has had a pretty bizarre life the past few years. I know the Lord will help us through this, but if you would, PLEASE keep all of us in prayer. I feel very torn and sick to my stomach. Last night I binged for the first time in a great long time....I did write it all down, thank God. All my kids are adults now, and I know there is never total safety in this world. But I will do alI can to protect my girls and grandkids. Then there is , who needs to be loved as well. If things were black & white and he was just a rotten human being it would be so different. But, he isn't. That doesn't mean I trust him either. I'm sorry ths was a heavy post and I pray it didn't hurt anyone. We really do need your prayers. I love you all.... Tess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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