RE: Couple time!

[Guest guest]

Dear Prabha,

Dads always do! Ashok doesn't even like Aisha to go for a sleepover even at my

brother's....

He feels lost without kids..... I don't know what is the scene everywhere

else, but we hardly

have any couple time ( that's what they call it here) as weekdays are busy and

weekends are full of chores and kids activities. We keep on postponing

dissussions regarding some important topics like which health insurance to chose

or should Aisha take honors English....leave aside going for movies or out for

dinner...

Shyam, Malini and is it same with you guys too? How about you Prabha? I

konw life's changed in India too!

Everybody is welcome to chip in this discussion!

Renuka '84

Prabha Desikan wrote:

Yes, Shyam. We saw off Divya at Bhopal Airport last night, and she

called up at 2:45 AM this morning saying that she was boarding the flight to NY.

She should be nearing Brussels now - they stop there and then continue to NY

from there.

Kishoreda, there was plenty of pyaar and penty of magic woven by the MGIMS group

to see her on her way. Thanks, everybody.

BTW - Malini, , Renuka and Aasawari, she eventually took white Swarowsky

crystals to wear with the suit, because the opals were many shades lighter than

the suit. And I packed a chudhidar anyway. Her Bharatanatyam outfit and

accessories occupied plenty of space - I hope they reach there in good shape.

Shyam, I know, all moms of teenage daughters think alike - but dad here is

already missing his daughter :-)

Take care, all,

Prabha'84

Subject: Re: Gosh!!..What..a flurry of lovely mails...

To: mgims

Date: Wednesday, July 2, 2008, 8:14 AM

Oh Shyam,

Your digest of MGIMS activities seem to have missed my short story " Thoda

Pyar, Thoda Magic. " :-(

Kishore Shah 1974

Gosh!!..What. .a flurry of lovely mails...

> ..on clothes,..and. .those..about invincible.. parenting. .

> But firstly,congrats. .to Sana Amreliwala.. for an excellent performance. .in

> 10th grade..and an equally great performance. .in English.

> Now armed..with so many..infos. .on Girls Hostel...in Pune..,I

> think..Murtaza. .will..be. ..at ease..to relocate..Sana, ..to Pune..

>

> I feel all Moms..think alike..with their teen daughters..and Dads r a

> bit.of free..to let them, enjoy their life..

> BTW...we don't let our kids..roam.. out in the open...as this isn't the

> norm out here..and mostly it's with some guardian..if in a group,..or

> mostly,Sohana still likes to..shop.... with..us, knowing all

> too,well..that. .her...2 personal..assistant s..who double up, as Live

> Credit Cards..will be able to buy...anything. .she wants..in a mall..

>

> So,finally,dresses packed..by the MGIMS..ladies. .I guess,Divya Trivedi, is

> off..to USA..

> We wish her all the very best..and hope...she has a a great time.

>

> Yeah,Aasawari, with the summer fest on,Dubai is the place to be,..for

> Indians...particula rly the weary Mumbaikars.. not used to seeing..sun, these

> days..with rains..making their life...miserable. .

> I..begin to wonder..is it..OK..to.. have..rains. ..floods. .,cause.. so much

> of destruction to life,and property..each single year..in India..and

> yet..not have enough..water. .to last the remaining 8months..,not have

> enough to harvest..not have enough to use..it for..running water generated

> turbines..to generate..electrici ty..or better..to have..a

> country..like. .Saudi Arabia..and the Gulf..where. .solely.. on the basis..of

> petrol..and excellent governance.. they have been able..to.overcome. .this

> water shortage problem,...and we continue..to have 24x7x365days. .of

> uninterrupted water and electricity supply..out here..

>

> Lastly,Ravin. .that was a nice adult(U mean...some kids..also.. read..these

> emails..of our group??)humour. .On..Adam. ..and Eve..

>

> ..

> Bye.

> Shyam(84)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I am going to join..this discussion....inspite..of Renuka...taking up...the

topic a bit late..now that..Divya..is already due back, homebound..I guess.

Well,I beg..to differ..on this aspect..of sharing " Couple Time " ,Renuka..

Thanx..to..a nice Gulf work culture..and..persistence..by my dear

biwi..to..break away..from TV,often..we do share..quality time..pretty much more

than our Indian counterparts...and .u,Renuka..as described..in ur mail.

After..our daily family dinner.,.we have kept 15mins aside..each day..,..to

table..our..important topics,

Be it..concerning...Sohana's school,dance..or..our..financial

related..activities etc etc,..where..we try..and..address the issue..and solve

it..and move on..

Mornings,each day..after..Sohana..goes to

school,..we..try..and...spend..our..time,..planning..for..the day..discussing

about the emails..that have..come thru....etc..

and..afternoons..I join Seema..in helping..with..cooking..and..clearing..up..the

kitchen..each single day!!

(U can ask..her..during the reunion...if..I do help or not)

So,as many couple......coming out from India..often..happily remark..

" Gulf mein..aa ke..hi..humne..apne..pati/patni...ko...teekh

se..jaana. " .(Thanx..all due..to..quality time..we all get...with our

partners..and family)..

On an ending note..it is simple.Equation of Life.....Renuka..

One has.to balance..between more..Family Life..or a Great Flourishing Career.

The fine..DIVIDE..exists,..but..often..we..tend..to overshoot it...resulting

in..getting more of one..and less of the other..

Yehi hain..Zindagi...

(No..I permit Sohana..for sleepover parties..if her gang of friends..r

good,..and..the parents.of the hosting..girl..r..equally, as caring..like us..)

(For a moment..I thought..the tile read.. " Coupling Time " ...,which came as bit of

shocker..)

Bye

Shyam(84)

Gosh!!..What. .a flurry of lovely mails...

> ..on clothes,..and. .those..about invincible.. parenting. .

> But firstly,congrats. .to Sana Amreliwala.. for an excellent performance.

..in

> 10th grade..and an equally great performance. .in English.

> Now armed..with so many..infos. .on Girls Hostel...in Pune..,I

> think..Murtaza. .will..be. ..at ease..to relocate..Sana, ..to Pune..

>

> I feel all Moms..think alike..with their teen daughters..and Dads r a

> bit.of free..to let them, enjoy their life..

> BTW...we don't let our kids..roam.. out in the open...as this isn't the

> norm out here..and mostly it's with some guardian..if in a group,..or

> mostly,Sohana still likes to..shop.... with..us, knowing all

> too,well..that. .her...2 personal..assistant s..who double up, as Live

> Credit Cards..will be able to buy...anything. .she wants..in a mall..

>

> So,finally,dresses packed..by the MGIMS..ladies. .I guess,Divya Trivedi, is

> off..to USA..

> We wish her all the very best..and hope...she has a a great time.

>

> Yeah,Aasawari, with the summer fest on,Dubai is the place to be,..for

> Indians...particula rly the weary Mumbaikars.. not used to seeing..sun,

these

> days..with rains..making their life...miserable. .

> I..begin to wonder..is it..OK..to.. have..rains. ..floods. .,cause.. so much

> of destruction to life,and property..each single year..in India..and

> yet..not have enough..water. .to last the remaining 8months..,not have

> enough to harvest..not have enough to use..it for..running water generated

> turbines..to generate..electrici ty..or better..to have..a

> country..like. .Saudi Arabia..and the Gulf..where. .solely.. on the

basis..of

> petrol..and excellent governance.. they have been able..to.overcome. .this

> water shortage problem,...and we continue..to have 24x7x365days. .of

> uninterrupted water and electricity supply..out here..

>

> Lastly,Ravin. .that was a nice adult(U mean...some kids..also.. read..these

> emails..of our group??)humour. .On..Adam. ..and Eve..

>

> ..

> Bye.

> Shyam(84)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Wow Shyam! I am impressed! You take only 15 minutes to solve your family

problems AND your financial planning! Normally, in the Shah household, these

occupy the whole day and at midnight we reluctantly decide to postpone the

discussions for tomorrow. I think that I must migrate to the Gulf....only

they will not take a male Gynaecologist... even if he is old. (I think they

should appoint you as official PRO of the Saudi Kingdom.)

Shyam, tumne kya Renuka ko Kishore Shah samjha kya, that she should write

about 'coupling times'?

Kishore Shah 1974

Re: Couple time!

>I am going to join..this discussion....inspite..of Renuka...taking up...the

>topic a bit late..now that..Divya..is already due back, homebound..I guess.

> Well,I beg..to differ..on this aspect..of sharing " Couple Time " ,Renuka..

> Thanx..to..a nice Gulf work culture..and..persistence..by my dear

> biwi..to..break away..from TV,often..we do share..quality time..pretty

> much more than our Indian counterparts...and .u,Renuka..as described..in

> ur mail.

> After..our daily family dinner.,.we have kept 15mins aside..each

> day..,..to table..our..important topics,

> Be it..concerning...Sohana's school,dance..or..our..financial

> related..activities etc etc,..where..we try..and..address the issue..and

> solve it..and move on..

>

> Mornings,each day..after..Sohana..goes to

> school,..we..try..and...spend..our..time,..planning..for..the

> day..discussing about the emails..that have..come thru....etc..

> and..afternoons..I join Seema..in

> helping..with..cooking..and..clearing..up..the kitchen..each single day!!

> (U can ask..her..during the reunion...if..I do help or not)

>

> So,as many couple......coming out from India..often..happily remark..

> " Gulf mein..aa ke..hi..humne..apne..pati/patni...ko...teekh

> se..jaana. " .(Thanx..all due..to..quality time..we all get...with our

> partners..and family)..

>

> On an ending note..it is simple.Equation of Life.....Renuka..

> One has.to balance..between more..Family Life..or a Great Flourishing

> Career.

> The fine..DIVIDE..exists,..but..often..we..tend..to overshoot

> it...resulting in..getting more of one..and less of the other..

> Yehi hain..Zindagi...

> (No..I permit Sohana..for sleepover parties..if her gang of friends..r

> good,..and..the parents.of the hosting..girl..r..equally, as caring..like

> us..)

> (For a moment..I thought..the tile read.. " Coupling Time " ...,which came as

> bit of shocker..)

>

> Bye

> Shyam(84)

[Guest guest]

Shyam we do not have 'coupling time' here. Life is too hectic. Often if at

all we r all at home - too tired to make an effort to chat. Kids contribute

to the general hassle. Housework/day to day shopping etc takes ages along

with holding down the job etc.

Has got me thinking about lifestyle choices but are doomed for the next few

years till kids get independent and financial pressures decrease.

Malini

From: mgims [mailto:mgims ] On Behalf Of

shyamkamath

Sent: 07 July 2008 16:04

To: mgims

Subject: Re: Couple time!

I am going to join..this discussion....inspite..of Renuka...taking up...the

topic a bit late..now that..Divya..is already due back, homebound..I guess.

Well,I beg..to differ..on this aspect..of sharing " Couple Time " ,Renuka..

Thanx..to..a nice Gulf work culture..and..persistence..by my dear

biwi..to..break away..from TV,often..we do share..quality time..pretty much

more than our Indian counterparts...and .u,Renuka..as described..in ur mail.

After..our daily family dinner.,.we have kept 15mins aside..each day..,..to

table..our..important topics,

Be it..concerning...Sohana's school,dance..or..our..financial

related..activities etc etc,..where..we try..and..address the issue..and

solve it..and move on..

Mornings,each day..after..Sohana..goes to

school,..we..try..and...spend..our..time,..planning..for..the

day..discussing about the emails..that have..come thru....etc..

and..afternoons..I join Seema..in

helping..with..cooking..and..clearing..up..the kitchen..each single day!!

(U can ask..her..during the reunion...if..I do help or not)

So,as many couple......coming out from India..often..happily remark..

" Gulf mein..aa ke..hi..humne..apne..pati/patni...ko...teekh

se..jaana. " .(Thanx..all due..to..quality time..we all get...with our

partners..and family)..

On an ending note..it is simple.Equation of Life.....Renuka..

One has.to balance..between more..Family Life..or a Great Flourishing

Career.

The fine..DIVIDE..exists,..but..often..we..tend..to overshoot it...resulting

in..getting more of one..and less of the other..

Yehi hain..Zindagi...

(No..I permit Sohana..for sleepover parties..if her gang of friends..r

good,..and..the parents.of the hosting..girl..r..equally, as caring..like

us..)

(For a moment..I thought..the tile read.. " Coupling Time " ...,which came as

bit of shocker..)

Bye

Shyam(84)

Gosh!!..What. .a flurry of lovely mails...

> ..on clothes,..and. .those..about invincible.. parenting. .

> But firstly,congrats. .to Sana Amreliwala.. for an excellent performance.

..in

> 10th grade..and an equally great performance. .in English.

> Now armed..with so many..infos. .on Girls Hostel...in Pune..,I

> think..Murtaza. .will..be. ..at ease..to relocate..Sana, ..to Pune..

>

> I feel all Moms..think alike..with their teen daughters..and Dads r a

> bit.of free..to let them, enjoy their life..

> BTW...we don't let our kids..roam.. out in the open...as this isn't the

> norm out here..and mostly it's with some guardian..if in a group,..or

> mostly,Sohana still likes to..shop.... with..us, knowing all

> too,well..that. .her...2 personal..assistant s..who double up, as Live

> Credit Cards..will be able to buy...anything. .she wants..in a mall..

>

> So,finally,dresses packed..by the MGIMS..ladies. .I guess,Divya Trivedi,

is

> off..to USA..

> We wish her all the very best..and hope...she has a a great time.

>

> Yeah,Aasawari, with the summer fest on,Dubai is the place to be,..for

> Indians...particula rly the weary Mumbaikars.. not used to seeing..sun,

these

> days..with rains..making their life...miserable. .

> I..begin to wonder..is it..OK..to.. have..rains. ..floods. .,cause.. so

much

> of destruction to life,and property..each single year..in India..and

> yet..not have enough..water. .to last the remaining 8months..,not have

> enough to harvest..not have enough to use..it for..running water generated

> turbines..to generate..electrici ty..or better..to have..a

> country..like. .Saudi Arabia..and the Gulf..where. .solely.. on the

basis..of

> petrol..and excellent governance.. they have been able..to.overcome. .this

> water shortage problem,...and we continue..to have 24x7x365days. .of

> uninterrupted water and electricity supply..out here..

>

> Lastly,Ravin. .that was a nice adult(U mean...some kids..also..

read..these

> emails..of our group??)humour. .On..Adam. ..and Eve..

>

> ..

> Bye.

> Shyam(84)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Trust u kishoreda to put everything so succinctly....

Malini

From: mgims [mailto:mgims ] On Behalf Of Shah

Sent: 08 July 2008 05:29

To: mgims

Subject: Re: Couple time!

Wow Shyam! I am impressed! You take only 15 minutes to solve your family

problems AND your financial planning! Normally, in the Shah household, these

occupy the whole day and at midnight we reluctantly decide to postpone the

discussions for tomorrow. I think that I must migrate to the Gulf....only

they will not take a male Gynaecologist... even if he is old. (I think they

should appoint you as official PRO of the Saudi Kingdom.)

Shyam, tumne kya Renuka ko Kishore Shah samjha kya, that she should write

about 'coupling times'?

Kishore Shah 1974

Re: Couple time!

>I am going to join..this discussion....inspite..of Renuka...taking up...the

>topic a bit late..now that..Divya..is already due back, homebound..I guess.

> Well,I beg..to differ..on this aspect..of sharing " Couple Time " ,Renuka..

> Thanx..to..a nice Gulf work culture..and..persistence..by my dear

> biwi..to..break away..from TV,often..we do share..quality time..pretty

> much more than our Indian counterparts...and .u,Renuka..as described..in

> ur mail.

> After..our daily family dinner.,.we have kept 15mins aside..each

> day..,..to table..our..important topics,

> Be it..concerning...Sohana's school,dance..or..our..financial

> related..activities etc etc,..where..we try..and..address the issue..and

> solve it..and move on..

>

> Mornings,each day..after..Sohana..goes to

> school,..we..try..and...spend..our..time,..planning..for..the

> day..discussing about the emails..that have..come thru....etc..

> and..afternoons..I join Seema..in

> helping..with..cooking..and..clearing..up..the kitchen..each single day!!

> (U can ask..her..during the reunion...if..I do help or not)

>

> So,as many couple......coming out from India..often..happily remark..

> " Gulf mein..aa ke..hi..humne..apne..pati/patni...ko...teekh

> se..jaana. " .(Thanx..all due..to..quality time..we all get...with our

> partners..and family)..

>

> On an ending note..it is simple.Equation of Life.....Renuka..

> One has.to balance..between more..Family Life..or a Great Flourishing

> Career.

> The fine..DIVIDE..exists,..but..often..we..tend..to overshoot

> it...resulting in..getting more of one..and less of the other..

> Yehi hain..Zindagi...

> (No..I permit Sohana..for sleepover parties..if her gang of friends..r

> good,..and..the parents.of the hosting..girl..r..equally, as caring..like

> us..)

> (For a moment..I thought..the tile read.. " Coupling Time " ...,which came as

> bit of shocker..)

>

> Bye

> Shyam(84)

[Guest guest]

Nahi aisi baat nahi Kishoreda...... ek bharpur zindagi ke liye nav rasoki

zaroorat hai...

But I am a simple ordinary person, not a talented writer like you who can

write anything with a flair........

Renuka '84

Shah wrote:

Wow Shyam! I am impressed! You take only 15 minutes to solve your

family

problems AND your financial planning! Normally, in the Shah household, these

occupy the whole day and at midnight we reluctantly decide to postpone the

discussions for tomorrow. I think that I must migrate to the Gulf....only

they will not take a male Gynaecologist... even if he is old. (I think they

should appoint you as official PRO of the Saudi Kingdom.)

Shyam, tumne kya Renuka ko Kishore Shah samjha kya, that she should write

about 'coupling times'?

Kishore Shah 1974

Re: Couple time!

>I am going to join..this discussion....inspite..of Renuka...taking up...the

>topic a bit late..now that..Divya..is already due back, homebound..I guess.

> Well,I beg..to differ..on this aspect..of sharing " Couple Time " ,Renuka..

> Thanx..to..a nice Gulf work culture..and..persistence..by my dear

> biwi..to..break away..from TV,often..we do share..quality time..pretty

> much more than our Indian counterparts...and .u,Renuka..as described..in

> ur mail.

> After..our daily family dinner.,.we have kept 15mins aside..each

> day..,..to table..our..important topics,

> Be it..concerning...Sohana's school,dance..or..our..financial

> related..activities etc etc,..where..we try..and..address the issue..and

> solve it..and move on..

>

> Mornings,each day..after..Sohana..goes to

> school,..we..try..and...spend..our..time,..planning..for..the

> day..discussing about the emails..that have..come thru....etc..

> and..afternoons..I join Seema..in

> helping..with..cooking..and..clearing..up..the kitchen..each single day!!

> (U can ask..her..during the reunion...if..I do help or not)

>

> So,as many couple......coming out from India..often..happily remark..

> " Gulf mein..aa ke..hi..humne..apne..pati/patni...ko...teekh

> se..jaana. " .(Thanx..all due..to..quality time..we all get...with our

> partners..and family)..

>

> On an ending note..it is simple.Equation of Life.....Renuka..

> One has.to balance..between more..Family Life..or a Great Flourishing

> Career.

> The fine..DIVIDE..exists,..but..often..we..tend..to overshoot

> it...resulting in..getting more of one..and less of the other..

> Yehi hain..Zindagi...

> (No..I permit Sohana..for sleepover parties..if her gang of friends..r

> good,..and..the parents.of the hosting..girl..r..equally, as caring..like

> us..)

> (For a moment..I thought..the tile read.. " Coupling Time " ...,which came as

> bit of shocker..)

>

> Bye

> Shyam(84)

[Guest guest]

Malini,

You should make time for some couple time at least (if not coupling time).

Time just flies and you will be left with regrets.

Anyways just wanted to ask you if Neha helps you with the chores like vacuum,

clearing the dishwasher, setting the table for melas etc... Aisha will do it if

she is in the right mood of if she realises that I am extremely tired. Otherwise

my request/orders hit the wall..

Hope she realises her responsibility as she grows up...

Renuka '84

lp k wrote:

Shyam we do not have 'coupling time' here. Life is too hectic. Often

if at

all we r all at home - too tired to make an effort to chat. Kids contribute

to the general hassle. Housework/day to day shopping etc takes ages along

with holding down the job etc.

Has got me thinking about lifestyle choices but are doomed for the next few

years till kids get independent and financial pressures decrease.

Malini

From: mgims [mailto:mgims ] On Behalf Of

shyamkamath

Sent: 07 July 2008 16:04

To: mgims

Subject: Re: Couple time!

I am going to join..this discussion....inspite..of Renuka...taking up...the

topic a bit late..now that..Divya..is already due back, homebound..I guess.

Well,I beg..to differ..on this aspect..of sharing " Couple Time " ,Renuka..

Thanx..to..a nice Gulf work culture..and..persistence..by my dear

biwi..to..break away..from TV,often..we do share..quality time..pretty much

more than our Indian counterparts...and .u,Renuka..as described..in ur mail.

After..our daily family dinner.,.we have kept 15mins aside..each day..,..to

table..our..important topics,

Be it..concerning...Sohana's school,dance..or..our..financial

related..activities etc etc,..where..we try..and..address the issue..and

solve it..and move on..

Mornings,each day..after..Sohana..goes to

school,..we..try..and...spend..our..time,..planning..for..the

day..discussing about the emails..that have..come thru....etc..

and..afternoons..I join Seema..in

helping..with..cooking..and..clearing..up..the kitchen..each single day!!

(U can ask..her..during the reunion...if..I do help or not)

So,as many couple......coming out from India..often..happily remark..

" Gulf mein..aa ke..hi..humne..apne..pati/patni...ko...teekh

se..jaana. " .(Thanx..all due..to..quality time..we all get...with our

partners..and family)..

On an ending note..it is simple.Equation of Life.....Renuka..

One has.to balance..between more..Family Life..or a Great Flourishing

Career.

The fine..DIVIDE..exists,..but..often..we..tend..to overshoot it...resulting

in..getting more of one..and less of the other..

Yehi hain..Zindagi...

(No..I permit Sohana..for sleepover parties..if her gang of friends..r

good,..and..the parents.of the hosting..girl..r..equally, as caring..like

us..)

(For a moment..I thought..the tile read.. " Coupling Time " ...,which came as

bit of shocker..)

Bye

Shyam(84)

Gosh!!..What. .a flurry of lovely mails...

> ..on clothes,..and. .those..about invincible.. parenting. .

> But firstly,congrats. .to Sana Amreliwala.. for an excellent performance.

..in

> 10th grade..and an equally great performance. .in English.

> Now armed..with so many..infos. .on Girls Hostel...in Pune..,I

> think..Murtaza. .will..be. ..at ease..to relocate..Sana, ..to Pune..

>

> I feel all Moms..think alike..with their teen daughters..and Dads r a

> bit.of free..to let them, enjoy their life..

> BTW...we don't let our kids..roam.. out in the open...as this isn't the

> norm out here..and mostly it's with some guardian..if in a group,..or

> mostly,Sohana still likes to..shop.... with..us, knowing all

> too,well..that. .her...2 personal..assistant s..who double up, as Live

> Credit Cards..will be able to buy...anything. .she wants..in a mall..

>

> So,finally,dresses packed..by the MGIMS..ladies. .I guess,Divya Trivedi,

is

> off..to USA..

> We wish her all the very best..and hope...she has a a great time.

>

> Yeah,Aasawari, with the summer fest on,Dubai is the place to be,..for

> Indians...particula rly the weary Mumbaikars.. not used to seeing..sun,

these

> days..with rains..making their life...miserable. .

> I..begin to wonder..is it..OK..to.. have..rains. ..floods. .,cause.. so

much

> of destruction to life,and property..each single year..in India..and

> yet..not have enough..water. .to last the remaining 8months..,not have

> enough to harvest..not have enough to use..it for..running water generated

> turbines..to generate..electrici ty..or better..to have..a

> country..like. .Saudi Arabia..and the Gulf..where. .solely.. on the

basis..of

> petrol..and excellent governance.. they have been able..to.overcome. .this

> water shortage problem,...and we continue..to have 24x7x365days. .of

> uninterrupted water and electricity supply..out here..

>

> Lastly,Ravin. .that was a nice adult(U mean...some kids..also..

read..these

> emails..of our group??)humour. .On..Adam. ..and Eve..

>

> ..

> Bye.

> Shyam(84)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

saudia arabia has its share of male gynaec consultants of all nationalities

.....very much active n operating...so you are welcome here kishoreda....... i

really appreciate the opportunity god has given me...to be close to my

family.... here in saudi... as much as i appreciate the close knit circle of

friends who meet almost every weekend ....... unlike my initial impressions of

this place.... i actually like living here...... varsha 92

--- Original Message ----

To: mgims

Sent: Tuesday, July 8, 2008 4:49:51 PM

Subject: Re: Couple time!

Nahi aisi baat nahi Kishoreda... ... ek bharpur zindagi ke liye nav rasoki

zaroorat hai...

But I am a simple ordinary person, not a talented writer like you who can write

anything with a flair....... .

Renuka '84

Shah <kshahskygmail (DOT) com> wrote:

Wow Shyam! I am impressed! You take only 15 minutes to solve your family

problems AND your financial planning! Normally, in the Shah household, these

occupy the whole day and at midnight we reluctantly decide to postpone the

discussions for tomorrow. I think that I must migrate to the Gulf....only

they will not take a male Gynaecologist. .. even if he is old. (I think they

should appoint you as official PRO of the Saudi Kingdom.)

Shyam, tumne kya Renuka ko Kishore Shah samjha kya, that she should write

about 'coupling times'?

Kishore Shah 1974

Re: Couple time!

>I am going to join..this discussion.. ..inspite. .of Renuka...taking up...the

>topic a bit late..now that..Divya. .is already due back, homebound..I guess.

> Well,I beg..to differ..on this aspect..of sharing " Couple Time " ,Renuka. .

> Thanx..to..a nice Gulf work culture..and. .persistence. .by my dear

> biwi..to..break away..from TV,often..we do share..quality time..pretty

> much more than our Indian counterparts. ..and .u,Renuka..as described..in

> ur mail.

> After..our daily family dinner.,.we have kept 15mins aside..each

> day..,..to table..our.. important topics,

> Be it..concerning. ..Sohana' s school,dance. .or..our. .financial

> related..activities etc etc,..where. .we try..and..address the issue..and

> solve it..and move on..

>

> Mornings,each day..after.. Sohana..goes to

> school,..we. .try..and. ..spend.. our..time, ..planning. .for..the

> day..discussing about the emails..that have..come thru....etc. .

> and..afternoons. .I join Seema..in

> helping..with. .cooking. .and..clearing. .up..the kitchen..each single day!!

> (U can ask..her..during the reunion...if. .I do help or not)

>

> So,as many couple...... coming out from India..often. .happily remark..

> " Gulf mein..aa ke..hi..humne. .apne..pati/ patni...ko. ..teekh

> se..jaana. " . (Thanx..all due..to..quality time..we all get...with our

> partners..and family)..

>

> On an ending note..it is simple.Equation of Life.....Renuka. .

> One has.to balance..between more..Family Life..or a Great Flourishing

> Career.

> The fine..DIVIDE. .exists,. .but..often. .we..tend. .to overshoot

> it...resulting in..getting more of one..and less of the other..

> Yehi hain..Zindagi. ..

> (No..I permit Sohana..for sleepover parties..if her gang of friends..r

> good,..and.. the parents.of the hosting..girl. .r..equally, as caring..like

> us..)

> (For a moment..I thought..the tile read.. " Coupling Time " ...,which came as

> bit of shocker..)

>

> Bye

> Shyam(84)

[Guest guest]

Internet shopping once a week and a cleaner(comes 5 hrs a week-does all cleaning

and ironing) -best 40 quid a week I ever spent in my life-has changed the way I

live.Milk/bread sos extras shop while filling in petrol once a week. At least it

lets me have a life.Nahi to weekends were simply drudgery and more!!I have also

found a bai to come and cook for me-3 times a week-she does the basic sabzis-for

the first time in 14 yrs am savouring some one else's cooking.

I firmly believe life is what we choose it to be-Our wants-a bigger house -a

flashier car a luxury holiday One more gold set-the latest computer-it never

ends.

Do you know Rahul's birth changed a lot for me.Perhaps becoz I had him preety

late he made me sit up and realise what I wanted in my life.Yes money/ambition

is important but it is not everything.I took a career change-am going parttime

again-shall earn enough to keep us well-okay I am lucky-have Atul providing us

the cushion and the moolah but he is doing it on the back of realising his home

and son will be sorted out.And I dont regret it at all.I see all the high

powered people out there every one has paid a price-family time/health/personal

relationships- kabhi kissi ko mukammal jahan nahi miltaa.Now after all these

years and being the daughter of a full time GP mum-I have realised how valuable

homemakers are and what a grt job they do.All my son wants to know when he goes

to school in the morning is who will pick him up that day.

I am all admiration for women who juggle job and home and do them well-kudos to

them. Coz they are doing something that I struggle to do.As for me time with my

child is paramount-I am torn all day to get home on time-and when I do to be in

a state to interact with him rather than collapse on the sofa...therefore Malini

try my advice You wont miss the money and it will change the way you live.

82

To: mgims@...: lakora@...: Tue, 8 Jul 2008 14:27:59

+0100Subject: RE: Couple time!

Shyam we do not have 'coupling time' here. Life is too hectic. Often if atall we

r all at home - too tired to make an effort to chat. Kids contributeto the

general hassle. Housework/day to day shopping etc takes ages alongwith holding

down the job etc. Has got me thinking about lifestyle choices but are doomed for

the next fewyears till kids get independent and financial pressures

decrease.MaliniFrom: mgims [mailto:mgims ] On

Behalf OfshyamkamathSent: 07 July 2008 16:04To: mgims@...:

Re: Couple time!I am going to join..this discussion....inspite..of

Renuka...taking up...thetopic a bit late..now that..Divya..is already due back,

homebound..I guess.Well,I beg..to differ..on this aspect..of sharing " Couple

Time " ,Renuka..Thanx..to..a nice Gulf work culture..and..persistence..by my

dearbiwi..to..break away..from TV,often..we do share..quality time..pretty

muchmore than our Indian counterparts...and .u,Renuka..as described..in ur

mail.After..our daily family dinner.,.we have kept 15mins aside..each

day..,..totable..our..important topics,Be it..concerning...Sohana's

school,dance..or..our..financialrelated..activities etc etc,..where..we

try..and..address the issue..andsolve it..and move on..Mornings,each

day..after..Sohana..goes

toschool,..we..try..and...spend..our..time,..planning..for..theday..discussing

about the emails..that have..come thru....etc..and..afternoons..I join

Seema..inhelping..with..cooking..and..clearing..up..the kitchen..each single

day!!(U can ask..her..during the reunion...if..I do help or not)So,as many

couple......coming out from India..often..happily remark.. " Gulf mein..aa

ke..hi..humne..apne..pati/patni...ko...teekhse..jaana. " .(Thanx..all

due..to..quality time..we all get...with ourpartners..and family)..On an ending

note..it is simple.Equation of Life.....Renuka..One has.to balance..between

more..Family Life..or a Great FlourishingCareer.The

fine..DIVIDE..exists,..but..often..we..tend..to overshoot

it...resultingin..getting more of one..and less of the other..Yehi

hain..Zindagi...(No..I permit Sohana..for sleepover parties..if her gang of

friends..rgood,..and..the parents.of the hosting..girl..r..equally, as

caring..likeus..)(For a moment..I thought..the tile read.. " Coupling

Time " ...,which came asbit of shocker..)ByeShyam(84) Gosh!!..What. .a

flurry of lovely mails...> ..on clothes,..and. .those..about invincible..

parenting. .> But firstly,congrats. .to Sana Amreliwala.. for an excellent

performance..in > 10th grade..and an equally great performance. .in English.>

Now armed..with so many..infos. .on Girls Hostel...in Pune..,I > think..Murtaza.

..will..be. ..at ease..to relocate..Sana, ..to Pune..>> I feel all Moms..think

alike..with their teen daughters..and Dads r a > bit.of free..to let them, enjoy

their life..> BTW...we don't let our kids..roam.. out in the open...as this

isn't the > norm out here..and mostly it's with some guardian..if in a

group,..or > mostly,Sohana still likes to..shop.... with..us, knowing all >

too,well..that. .her...2 personal..assistant s..who double up, as Live > Credit

Cards..will be able to buy...anything. .she wants..in a mall..>>

So,finally,dresses packed..by the MGIMS..ladies. .I guess,Divya Trivedi,is >

off..to USA..> We wish her all the very best..and hope...she has a a great

time.>> Yeah,Aasawari, with the summer fest on,Dubai is the place to be,..for >

Indians...particula rly the weary Mumbaikars.. not used to seeing..sun,these >

days..with rains..making their life...miserable. .> I..begin to wonder..is

it..OK..to.. have..rains. ..floods. .,cause.. somuch > of destruction to

life,and property..each single year..in India..and > yet..not have

enough..water. .to last the remaining 8months..,not have > enough to

harvest..not have enough to use..it for..running water generated> turbines..to

generate..electrici ty..or better..to have..a > country..like. .Saudi

Arabia..and the Gulf..where. .solely.. on thebasis..of > petrol..and excellent

governance.. they have been able..to.overcome. .this> water shortage

problem,...and we continue..to have 24x7x365days. .of > uninterrupted water and

electricity supply..out here..>> Lastly,Ravin. .that was a nice adult(U

mean...some kids..also..read..these > emails..of our group??)humour. .On..Adam.

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