Guest guest Posted October 25, 2002 Report Share Posted October 25, 2002 Dear Tess...Maybe you could say the same thing to them that I have heard you say before...I am trying to adopt a healthy lifestyle and move on to any other conversation...that way it is not about losing weight but becoming as well as you possibly can. That might take any weight loss notice and pressure off. You are a very strong woman and I know that you will sail through. I will be thinking of you. Hugs Iris --- tess_northwest@... wrote: > Dear Family...I am REALLY overweight, so it takes > quite a little time > before people notice any weight loss. I've come to > the place where > several people have commented that they think I've > lost weight. I > suppose the gracious thing would to be happy and > accept their comments > gratefully. But, they scare the peewadin out of me. > I wish with all my > heart that no one could see the changes until I get > to whatever > healthier weight I achieve. > > In the past I have truly fallen apart after awhile > of getting that kind > of attention...comments from men or women. I don't > feel I'm as fragile > as I once was, but in just getting these initial > comments my tension > level goes up. > > Tomorrow is my oldest daughter's 29th birthday > party, and all my family > will be there. I am really scared someone will say > something. I need > to understandand & deal with this...this is so > important for the rest of > my life. I'm scared. > > Love... > > Tess > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2002 Report Share Posted October 26, 2002 Thanks, dear Iris. Em said te same thing to me tonight. I appreciate your love & encouragement. I do believe I am a strong woman, but you know, some areas we are not as strong in as others. Thanks for being such a dear friend. Hugs & Love.... Tess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2002 Report Share Posted October 26, 2002 Try not to worry, Tess. I wish weight weren't such a favorite topic of conversation for so many people, but accept their comments as encouragement and nothing else. As Iris suggested, changing the topic is a good move (have an idea prepared). You're not doing this for anyone but yourself, so try to keep that in mind. I know you don't want them to keep tabs on your progress, and they shouldn't and probably won't, but it's probably very hard not to have anxiety over that. You can't necessarily influence what others think or say, but you can control how you react to them. Keep focused on yourself and your health and let any comments fall by the wayside. Your weight shouldn't be important to anyone but to you and only inasmuch that it adversely affects your health. I hope you, Christena, and the rest of your family have a great time at the party! Happy birthday to Christena! Hugs of courage, [ ] advice, prayer needed > Dear Family...I am REALLY overweight, so it takes quite a little time > before people notice any weight loss. I've come to the place where > several people have commented that they think I've lost weight. I > suppose the gracious thing would to be happy and accept their comments > gratefully. But, they scare the peewadin out of me. I wish with all my > heart that no one could see the changes until I get to whatever > healthier weight I achieve. > > In the past I have truly fallen apart after awhile of getting that kind > of attention...comments from men or women. I don't feel I'm as fragile > as I once was, but in just getting these initial comments my tension > level goes up. > > Tomorrow is my oldest daughter's 29th birthday party, and all my family > will be there. I am really scared someone will say something. I need > to understandand & deal with this...this is so important for the rest of > my life. I'm scared. > > Love... > > Tess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2002 Report Share Posted October 26, 2002 (((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))) All My Love... Tess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 26, 2002 Report Share Posted October 26, 2002 Hi Kathe...thank you for your sweet & supportive post. I do feel very accepted & supported here...you all are such a blessing to me. Much Love... Tess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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