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They sell a wide range of soft comfy potty's, but one thing to

consider is an insert that fits over the regular toilet seat, and

allows little ones to sit on the big toilet. But at 20 months, you

are probably better with starting with a comfy potty so that her feet

will rest on the floor which is better for bearing down. When they

sit on the bigger toilet and their feet dangle, it's hard to bear

down. So if you go with the toilet seat insert type, then try to

also get a foot stool to push up near the toilet so that she has a

place to put her feet when she's up on the big toilet.

Also, don't be afraid to use babylax (or now, pedilax) liquid

glycerin suppositories as you need to. My dd as I mentioned used

them daily for years... she was not 'addicted'. Once we got some

things into her body that were helping her, then her body's natural

desire to have a bowel movement kicked in. I saw the same thing with

her older brother, who was the one who had the bad reaction to

miralax. Post miralax, he was not able to go, and he complained of

burning stools. He ASKED us to put in a cool squirt of water, in

order for him to go. We went along with it, but of course we worried

that this would create a physical, or at least a mental, dependency.

It went on for probably a year. WHEN his body was helped with some

magnesium and other things, THEN his body WAS able to go. Boom, like

that. So that's why I don't put a lot of stock into the witholding

theories that so many docs and psych's ascribe to. I think that

later on, a child might begin to withhold if they are dealing with a

lot of battles surrounding bowel movements and they psychologically

feel that they need to do this but I believe that all of that starts

with the body's imbalances... I mean, when you have a stool that is

on it's way out, it's virtually impossible to hold it. I've had to

make a mad dash to many a store restroom. Large stools especially

are coming out, no matter what. I feel that the fact that a child

appears to be witholding, is a sign that their gut just isn't working

properly. It's mother nature to make the stuff come through... so we

must fix the underlying cause and then, THEN the child WILL go. Of

course, the sit time is just helping provide them with the

opportunity TO go. We lead such busy lives, it is so different than

decades past where each day was more predictable and so these kids do

need to learn to have a time of day when they CAN go. So all of the

things that you will do, will help get to the bottom of things. no

pun intended!

maryW

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> So glad to hear that things are going better for your daughter!

& nbsp; And my pediatrician had said that it would be a good idea to

do exactly as you said with the potty. & nbsp; Now I just have to find

a potty chair that seems good....any suggestions?! & nbsp; My daughters

are so small for their age that I am sure they will do better with a

little potty & nbsp;first.

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> Thanks,

> Sandy

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