Guest guest Posted December 16, 2002 Report Share Posted December 16, 2002 Merry Christmas, Carol I hope that you have a wonderful holiday with your family and drive carefully. I think that there is nothing that men hate worse than having to get a gift on a certain day. They feel like they are being forced to remember and being put on the spot to please. Sounds like a performance issue that they don't want to be less than perfect so they just don't do it. It still doesn't make it easy to take as we are planners and want to show our love by remembering our special day. I am sorry that this has hurt you and I hope that your trip serves to lift your spirits. A zillion hugs for you, Iris. --- Carol <carol@...> wrote: > Hi Friends, > > I’m going on digest version today, because I’m > heading to Atlanta to start > my Christmas vacation. I’m not starting it out on a > very joyous note, > though. Today is my wedding anniversary and my > husband left town last night > to see a client. He didn’t even get me a card. He > said he didn’t have time > to get a gift or card, but my heck he certainly > could have planned in > advance. It’s not like our anniversary mysteriously > pops up on a day out of > the blue, it’s the same day every year. Needless to > say I’m really hurt. > In my eyes, it just goes to show how little he > values our marriage. > > Then, he gives me a hundred dollar bill. Duh! That > really makes it better. > Give me a little cash. It certainly shows a lot of > love and thought. What > a cad! > > He called this morning and didn’t even think to tell > me “happy anniversary”. > Doesn’t he have time for that, either? > > Otherwise, our marriage isn’t bad. I mean, > sometimes I think it’s like we > share a home but that’s about it. We live very > separate lives lately. But > when we’re together we have a nice time, and we’re > best friends. (Although > he’s not feeling like a best friend right now). > Last night I was thinking > if this is what I really want out of a marriage, but > with the RA it isn’t > worth going out on my own and struggling. If it > were bad I would, but not > for so-so. Thank you, RA, for entering into every > aspect of my life. > > Oh well. There’s nowhere for the week to go but up > from here. Thanks for > letting me vent. > > I love you guys, and appreciate your friendship. I > hope each of you has a > Happy Holiday season. > > Tons of love, > Carol > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 16, 2002 Report Share Posted December 16, 2002 Wow, Iris. I think you're right about that. He said " you're not going to train me to give a gift when you think I should. " I thought that was the weirdest thing, but I guess that's how he thinks. Thanks for the great insight and the hugs. ((((((((((((((((((((((Iris)))))))))))))))))))) Holiday hugs back to you. Lots of love, Carol Re: [ ](((((((Carol))))))) Merry Christmas, Carol I hope that you have a wonderful holiday with your family and drive carefully. I think that there is nothing that men hate worse than having to get a gift on a certain day. They feel like they are being forced to remember and being put on the spot to please. Sounds like a performance issue that they don't want to be less than perfect so they just don't do it. It still doesn't make it easy to take as we are planners and want to show our love by remembering our special day. I am sorry that this has hurt you and I hope that your trip serves to lift your spirits. A zillion hugs for you, Iris. --- Carol <carol@...> wrote: > Hi Friends, > > Im going on digest version today, because Im > heading to Atlanta to start > my Christmas vacation. Im not starting it out on a > very joyous note, > though. Today is my wedding anniversary and my > husband left town last night > to see a client. He didnt even get me a card. He > said he didnt have time > to get a gift or card, but my heck he certainly > could have planned in > advance. Its not like our anniversary mysteriously > pops up on a day out of > the blue, its the same day every year. Needless to > say Im really hurt. > In my eyes, it just goes to show how little he > values our marriage. > > Then, he gives me a hundred dollar bill. Duh! That > really makes it better. > Give me a little cash. It certainly shows a lot of > love and thought. What > a cad! > > He called this morning and didnt even think to tell > me happy anniversary. > Doesnt he have time for that, either? > > Otherwise, our marriage isnt bad. I mean, > sometimes I think its like we > share a home but thats about it. We live very > separate lives lately. But > when were together we have a nice time, and were > best friends. (Although > hes not feeling like a best friend right now). > Last night I was thinking > if this is what I really want out of a marriage, but > with the RA it isnt > worth going out on my own and struggling. If it > were bad I would, but not > for so-so. Thank you, RA, for entering into every > aspect of my life. > > Oh well. Theres nowhere for the week to go but up > from here. Thanks for > letting me vent. > > I love you guys, and appreciate your friendship. I > hope each of you has a > Happy Holiday season. > > Tons of love, > Carol > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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