Re: Re: Candy

[Guest guest]

Thanks Candy! I'm glad I found this place too.

nwohiopma wrote: MaC....

I'm so sorry...what a tragedy for you and your wife. I'm so grateful

you shared that with me. This board has so many compassionate people

willing to help others. It renews my belief in humanity.

I didn't know where to turn for help. I found it.

(((Hugs)))

Candy

>

> Candy,

> Just to touch base on what Bob posted about being evaluated. My

wifes doctors told me flat out she couldn't have a liver transplant

until she participated in an inpatient facility. Later, after she

passed away, I found out it wasn't their decision to make, it was the

transplant doctors at a transplant center which she never got the

chance to see. So my point is, he shouldn't be ruled out of a

transplant evaluation, especially if that advice is coming from an

internist. An internist may also not know the transplant procedures

and at the very least should be consulting with a hepatologist.

>

> MaC

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[Guest guest]

Debra, I think you are talking about five wishes. This is the link to five

wishes. Unfortunately these people are money grubbing or else they wouldn't

charge 5 dollars a piece for this form. Before Sharon had her brain surgery we

filled out one of these for her, and later I filled out one too. They provided

hers, but I had to pay 5 dollars for mine. Arrrrrg. If anybody cannot afford one

of these and is interested in having a copy, email me privately and I will send

you one. Bobby

http://www.agingwithdignity.org/5wishes.html

Re: Candy

> >

> > Abijan, I know that you mean well in this advice, but I am so

close

> > to my husband and he knows my wishes and even tho we do not

discuss

> > all my health issues with my family they are aware that I do not

want

> > to have a transplant if when that time comes. I would really be

> > upset if someone in my family, including my grown children tried

to

> > interfere with my health and even final wishes or try to overstep

my

> > husbands care of me. The wife may not be making all the right

> > decisions in the past or even now, its still her husband and

their

> > marriage that have to be respected. He is a grown man and he

made

> > these life choices on his own. Including whom he chose to marry.

I

> > agree that he should definitely been seen by a gastro or

> > hepatologist, and Candy may be able to approach her with this but

> > only as a suggestion. Im sure she is feeling just as overwhelmed

as

> > anyone is right now. God bless, Debra --- In

>

> Hi Debra,

>

> I know you were addressing Abijann, but I'd like to add that I wish

I

> could educate my brother on cirrhosis, he might change his mind

about

> treatment. I'm assuming his wife is protecting him by keeping him

in

> the dark, or she's in denial, or whatever. No matter how much I

> disagree with it, I'm going to have to let the blind lead the blind.

>

> He was referred to a gastroenterologist, but because he doesn't have

> health insurance, he wanted cash up front. My brother isn't willing

> to do that. My other brother and I offered to pay it for him, but

he

> refused, saying that, " A doctor is a doctor " . My brother is self

> destructive. We can't save him from himself, no matter how much

we'd

> like to.

>

> Thanks for your insights.

>

> Candy

>

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