Re: SSRI sexual dysfunction and just married

[Guest guest]

I can't imagine what you're going through as a newlywed with this condition. I'm

really sorry man.

Let me throw out one idea. I'm afraid it will make your anxiety worse, but if

you take Methylphenidate (Ritalin, Concerta, Adderall) it should make some

difference with arousal and interest. It certainly did for me, and I've tried

everything else, with no effect at all. The ED is a different story I'm afraid,

but look into this. It is the only thing I have found that really seems to

increase arousal and sexual interest. 2-3 doses and you should start feeling

more than you are currently.

Talk to your wife very openly and be very physical even if it's not as sexual as

you both might would like. Almost all women can be reassured with lots of

non-sexual physical intimacy.

This condition does change and adjust over time. Keep trying things, and

something will make a difference.

>

> I don't know how to start this. I will summarize it as this. I was dx with

depression in july 2011. I started taking citalopram and I did get better from

my depression. However, I noticed that it retarded my ejaculation, (which at

the time was amazing). But then the nightmare began. My libido started to go

down, really down. To the point that not even cialis or viagra will work. I

got married in April of this year and I have been struggling with this shit

since then. The girl I married is the nicest girl I ever met, I love her like I

have loved no one else before, but now she feels that I am just not attracted to

her. Folks, the shame and humiliation I feel are beyond words. Our

relationship is getting very tense now and I feel like she will leave me soon.

I tried getting better with bupropion but it only made me have more anxiety. Is

anyone in the same position? I am really starting to think that I am nobody, my

self esteem is almost none and I am feeling the depression is getting back

because of this.

>

[Guest guest]

Oh one more thing I would try. I take Dostinex (Cabergoline), and it does help -

both with depression/anxiety, and with pssd. If you can get the brand name

Dostinex (you can buy this online overseas - just Google it) it's better than

Cabaser (the brand you can get in the states).

This drug is definitely worth looking at both for emotional problems and for

PSSD.

Good luck my friend.

>

> I don't know how to start this. I will summarize it as this. I was dx with

depression in july 2011. I started taking citalopram and I did get better from

my depression. However, I noticed that it retarded my ejaculation, (which at

the time was amazing). But then the nightmare began. My libido started to go

down, really down. To the point that not even cialis or viagra will work. I

got married in April of this year and I have been struggling with this shit

since then. The girl I married is the nicest girl I ever met, I love her like I

have loved no one else before, but now she feels that I am just not attracted to

her. Folks, the shame and humiliation I feel are beyond words. Our

relationship is getting very tense now and I feel like she will leave me soon.

I tried getting better with bupropion but it only made me have more anxiety. Is

anyone in the same position? I am really starting to think that I am nobody, my

self esteem is almost none and I am feeling the depression is getting back

because of this.

>

[Guest guest]

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>> I don't know how to start this. I will summarize it as this. I was dx with depression in july 2011. I started taking citalopram and I did get better from my depression. However, I noticed that it retarded my ejaculation, (which at the time was amazing). But then the nightmare began. My libido started to go down, really down. To the point that not even cialis or viagra will work. I got married in April of this year and I have been struggling with this shit since then. The girl I married is the nicest girl I ever met, I love her like I have loved no one else before, but now she feels that I am just not attracted to her. Folks, the shame and humiliation I feel are beyond words. Our relationship is getting very tense now and I feel like she will leave me soon. I tried getting better with bupropion but it only made me have more anxiety. Is anyone in the same position? I am really starting to think that I am nobody, my self esteem is almost none and I am feeling the depression is getting back because of this.>

[Guest guest]

if you only took one kind of antidepressnt and only for 1 yearyou will eventually get better.just learn the lesson and never take antidepressants for the rest of your life no matter what.btw citalopram is less worse than other ADs

[Guest guest]

Thank you su much folks. I see this group is really supportive. I went to my

psychiatrist last week and she kind of convinced me that it was not ssri sexual

induced dysfunction but performing anxiety. It makes sense logically (but when

you are in that situation you know it is hard to believe in any hope). Anyway,

I went home after my session with her and talked to my wife and suddenly it

happened!! It was a short lived sex (about 5 mins) but I was in heaven!! After

a month of nothing and feeling this freaking anxiety every time I touched her

this was a major breakthrough. The day after I took a tranquilizer as she

instructed me to and then a Cialis. It worked perfectly!! 2 times, 2 orgasms

for her! The day after we did it once but the anxiety came back and killed it

when I was already inside her. Anyway, we didn't make a big deal out of it.

The next day I took a tranquilizer maybe about 40 mins before and no cialis and

it worked again!! I couldn't believe it. So now I know that my issue is

performing anxiety. I don't know how many of you folks may have this on top of

the ssri dysfunction, but maybe you could talk to your docs or therapists and

see what you can come up with. I WANT EVERYBODY TO KNOW THAT THERE IS HOPE AND

DON'T WANT ANYONE OUT THERE TO GIVE UP!! Thank you for your quick replies.

>

> if you only took one kind of antidepressnt and only for 1 year

> you will eventually get better.

> just learn the lesson and never take antidepressants for the rest of your

> life no matter what.

> btw citalopram is less worse than other ADs

>

[Guest guest]

Be careful with Adderall.

It can make the heart race.

Only take one.

> >

> > I don't know how to start this. I will summarize it as this. I was dx with

depression in july 2011. I started taking citalopram and I did get better from

my depression. However, I noticed that it retarded my ejaculation, (which at

the time was amazing). But then the nightmare began. My libido started to go

down, really down. To the point that not even cialis or viagra will work. I

got married in April of this year and I have been struggling with this shit

since then. The girl I married is the nicest girl I ever met, I love her like I

have loved no one else before, but now she feels that I am just not attracted to

her. Folks, the shame and humiliation I feel are beyond words. Our

relationship is getting very tense now and I feel like she will leave me soon.

I tried getting better with bupropion but it only made me have more anxiety. Is

anyone in the same position? I am really starting to think that I am nobody, my

self esteem is almost none and I am feeling the depression is getting back

because of this.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hm...but I think performing anxiety is not the same as having no libido. Do you

have physically the will to have sex? For me this is completely gone.

> >

> > if you only took one kind of antidepressnt and only for 1 year

> > you will eventually get better.

> > just learn the lesson and never take antidepressants for the rest of your

> > life no matter what.

> > btw citalopram is less worse than other ADs

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Adderall seemed to get me close to pre-ssri. I don't take regularly at all and I took small dose. Also sulbutiamine worked well. I was having to mastur--- in the bathroom at work twice a day while on it sometimes. Take it with a shot of lime juice as well. All of these are dopamine related (like wellbutrin) and canwork for arousal. But this was drive/arousal , not erection problems for me ( after ssri's).

[Guest guest]

My libido is still lower than I would want it to be but I am trying to get

around like that

> > >

> > > if you only took one kind of antidepressnt and only for 1 year

> > > you will eventually get better.

> > > just learn the lesson and never take antidepressants for the rest of your

> > > life no matter what.

> > > btw citalopram is less worse than other ADs

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Why did you stop taking Sulbutamine?

>

> Adderall seemed to get me close to pre-ssri. I don't take regularly at all and

I took small dose. Also sulbutiamine worked well. I was having to mastur--- in

the bathroom at work twice a day while on it sometimes. Take it with a shot of

lime juice as well. All of these are dopamine related (like wellbutrin) and

canwork for arousal. But this was drive/arousal , not erection problems for me (

after ssri's).

>

[Guest guest]

They called them major tranquilizers because they seemed to slow mad

people down making them more manageable. If a doctor prescribed enough

of them a person would become 'chemically straightjacketed' and then

they would be unable to move as their muscles would become locked up

with tension. In either case, the victim would feel restless with a

constant need to move around (akathia) but those chemically

straightjacketed would be unable to do so. Doctors invented the term

major tranquilers but the patient would often suffer unbearable anxiety

and inner restlessness which is biological torture.

Doctors get used to causing people unbearable suffering and so most

don't give a shit when someone gets PSSD. To them, all drugs have side

effects, it's just one of those things.

Kv

>

> Psychiatrists like to call anti-psychotic drugs 'tranqaulizers'.

> I hope you don't end up with worse problems.

> Good luck.

>

>

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>

> " All that is required for evil to prevail is for good men to do

nothing. "

>

[Guest guest]

I still take sulb and anaracetam now and then but as with all stimulants, they don't work 2 days in a row so I have to cycle. As far as PSSD I think my libido is as good as it can get for a 35 year old now, and will probably discontinue this list soon.>Why did you stop taking Sulbutamine?

[Guest guest]

Does Adderal and Sulbutamine cure or help genital anesthesia. To: SSRIsex Sent: Friday, June 29, 2012 10:47:28 AM Subject: Re: SSRI sexual dysfunction

and just married

Why did you stop taking Sulbutamine?

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> Adderall seemed to get me close to pre-ssri. I don't take regularly at all and I took small dose. Also sulbutiamine worked well. I was having to mastur--- in the bathroom at work twice a day while on it sometimes. Take it with a shot of lime juice as well. All of these are dopamine related (like wellbutrin) and canwork for arousal. But this was drive/arousal , not erection problems for me ( after ssri's).

>

[Guest guest]

A sulbutamine and adderall helped with sensitivity quite a bit for me. Wellbutrin was weird, some of the feeling was similar but oveall didnt help. Also, if you take too much adderall it will stimulate too much adrenaline / norepinephrine and that will work against you. Try sulb with lime juice, that is relatively easy and safe to get.

[Guest guest]

Thank for all your responses. I am trying not to take aderall or anything else.

What I have realized is that I get very anxious whenever we start foreplay with

my wife. I have been taking 1 mg of lorazepam right before sex and it has

worked 80% of the times. I am a little better and optimist that I will

eventually get back to baseline.

>

> I don't know how to start this. I will summarize it as this. I was dx with

depression in july 2011. I started taking citalopram and I did get better from

my depression. However, I noticed that it retarded my ejaculation, (which at

the time was amazing). But then the nightmare began. My libido started to go

down, really down. To the point that not even cialis or viagra will work. I

got married in April of this year and I have been struggling with this shit

since then. The girl I married is the nicest girl I ever met, I love her like I

have loved no one else before, but now she feels that I am just not attracted to

her. Folks, the shame and humiliation I feel are beyond words. Our

relationship is getting very tense now and I feel like she will leave me soon.

I tried getting better with bupropion but it only made me have more anxiety. Is

anyone in the same position? I am really starting to think that I am nobody, my

self esteem is almost none and I am feeling the depression is getting back

because of this.

>

[Guest guest]

I get nervous during kissing sometimes. Instead of enjoying the moment, I will be thinking "I'm not getting hard. I'm not into this, is she noticing? She is loving this. I feel used. This sucks." But a few times lately, I have been able to not have those thoughts and just enjoy the moment, and my arousal and enjoyment has been better. Although I still have reduced semen and its very watery and reduced sensation/numbness (although maybe I feel a little improved sensitivity lately), I am trying to be hopeful here. I have been off Zoloft for 14 months after being on for 2 years.

[Guest guest]

Hi Angelo I am going to try Fresh Royal Jelly from the Bee, heard great things about it, hope I am not allergic. I want to try this before I try the powerful stimulants. All the best , Adam To: "SSRIsex " <SSRIsex > Sent: Tuesday, July 3, 2012 8:21:45 PM Subject: Re: SSRI sexual dysfunction and just married

A sulbutamine and adderall helped with sensitivity quite a bit for me. Wellbutrin was weird, some of the feeling was similar but oveall didnt help. Also, if you take too much adderall it will stimulate too much adrenaline / norepinephrine and that will work against you. Try sulb with lime juice, that is relatively easy and safe to get.