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If we can squeeze in one microsecond of self awareness into that

emotional choo choo train, we can find some balance, I am convinced,

i.e., one tiny moment of WHAT AM I DOING NOW? This forces you out of

your emotional and reactive rollercoaster into a position of

observation with the brain. Forcing that gap to occur is the trick

and it takes practice.

When that gap is present though, then you can CHOOSE your reactions.

You can choose to seriously insult or hurt someone or you can choose

to move away.

Handing off all responsibility for one's actions is life is, in a

sense, a choice. Yes, you might disagree with me, but we do choose

to use our bodies or words in harmful hurtful ways. We can clamp our

jaws shut so tight that they ache, and say nothing. We can leave, we

can move on, we can find other work and other housing and we CAN

sculpt our lives to suit us without hurting other people.

I believe this very much. It hurts us when we cannot attend family

events or special moments, but we can also create OTHER moments not

immersed in the toxic sounds of eating noises.

We can go skiing, swim, hike, bowl, dance, and play badminton! We

can walk the dogs, sew a quilt, play the guitar, and more. Eating

dominates American lives and more than half of us are just plain fat

now, and we can join in the healthy family and friends movement and

Move rather than EAT all the time.

Ok. Force the gap, and force the movement towards happy

interactions.......the dining room is only ONE room in a house.

Marsha