Throwing over the fence...Margaret

[Guest guest]

Hi Margaret

Can empathise here as like I said, threw bamboo canes, shoes,

stones, tennis rackets, wooden spoons etc over our fences last

summer. I was at my wits end and social services got wind of this and

sent around the behavioural peeps. They put together (over many phone

call and visits) a comprehensive 'throwing programme' whereby I

bought a Winnie the pooh tent and we had to get him to throw bean

bags into this tent at 20 min intervals throughout the day for 5 mins

at a time...thereby fulfilling his fetish to throw. We did this as

best we could last summer. It had alas no effect. Nothing could give

him the 'fix' he was getting from the throwing over the fence.

The only thing that stopped him was the arrival of winter. This

summer this behaviour has gone. It has been replaced by the hose, now

directing water at peoples fences. This is preferable (i think) to

missiles going over . What I am basically saying in a v long winded

way is that some kids are absolutely driven by an all consuming

overwhelming urge to do something and however much you try to change

it you just cant. It will burn itself out of its own accord only to

be replaced by something else.

I would still pursue the insurance line IMHO.

Bests

Helen x

[Guest guest]

Laughing away at this..

We have the same things

Footballs went over, trains , you name it over it went.

We built a 7ft fence.

I think it was all a game to him. A way of getting my attention and

funny to do.

Then it went to throwing things out of little bedroom windows.

The top openers.

Thank god that phase has passed now.

jo

>

> My Joe also had a throwing over the fence obsession a couple of

years

> ago. He particularly liked to throw our cutlery, but also the

contents

> of my purse, credit cards, the lot. Good job our neighbours were

> honest. I think it is part of his posting stim, he likes watching

> things disappear. The part of the neighbours garden he liked to

throw

> into is pretty overgrown and I know if they ever cut it back they

would

> find all sorts of things from our garden, even now.

> The advice I was given was to find him a fence that he can throw

things

> over. I then realised we had a fence between the back garden and

our

> side pathway which would do the job and every time he climbed on

the

> wall to post over the neighbours fence I would steer him to the

other

> side of the garden and encourage him to post there. Amazingly once

he

> had permission to throw, he stopped doing it.

> x

>