...I don't feel like hurting anyone

[Guest guest]

I too am a 4S sufferer. I have been a member of this group for only a

few months and have appreciated all of your comments. When I hear my

trigger sounds (gum, loud breathing, chewing, coughing, etc) I too get

extremely aggitated but I don't feel like hurting anyone. Many of the

comments have referred to visions of " stabbing someone's eyes out "

or " bashing their brains in " but I can honestly say thoughts of

violence have not been one of my desires. I do have feelings such

as, " I can't believe how disgusting this person is " or " how in the

world can they be doing this " or " I have to get away imediately. " I

guess I have noticed that most of my trigger people are those people I

love most such as my husband or one of my five kids. I have struggled

with this since I was a teen-ager (I am 36) and my family growing up

would make fun of me (ask me to wear those ear headsets they use for

target practice) or couldn't understand why it bothered me SO much.

Anyway, I thought I would just see if the majority of 4S sufferers out

there had more violent thoughts than what I described.

[Guest guest]

Mine aren't usually that violent at all. I very much wonder why no

one else finds it as disgusting as I do, about the same as you. Some

of the more " violent " desires I have is to grab their gum and snap it

back at their face (especially the people who have the tendency

to " show " their gum a lot).

>

> I too am a 4S sufferer. I have been a member of this group for

only a

> few months and have appreciated all of your comments. When I hear

my

> trigger sounds (gum, loud breathing, chewing, coughing, etc) I too

get

> extremely aggitated but I don't feel like hurting anyone. Many of

the

> comments have referred to visions of " stabbing someone's eyes out "

> or " bashing their brains in " but I can honestly say thoughts of

> violence have not been one of my desires. I do have feelings such

> as, " I can't believe how disgusting this person is " or " how in the

> world can they be doing this " or " I have to get away imediately. "

I

> guess I have noticed that most of my trigger people are those

people I

> love most such as my husband or one of my five kids. I have

struggled

> with this since I was a teen-ager (I am 36) and my family growing

up

> would make fun of me (ask me to wear those ear headsets they use

for

> target practice) or couldn't understand why it bothered me SO

much.

>

> Anyway, I thought I would just see if the majority of 4S sufferers

out

> there had more violent thoughts than what I described.

>

[Guest guest]

I too feel violent towards people, I would like to slap them at least, or hurt them in return, but I dont act on this emotion, although I did when I was a child. I used to kick my sisters. Now one of them understands why and forgives me. I certainly have to control the urge to be extremely rude to people chewing, sniffing etc, I do stare at and imitate people, but they dont understand why, so it is a waste of my time and energy. Anyway they are just the usual noises that I make too so they are just normal human behaviours and complaining about repetitive movements which really get to me seems irrational. I have found on explaining 4s to people I know that they are helpful, but they forget or dont realise it is them making the offensive noise. So it is best for me to remove myself, avoid those particular people who hurt me if I can and work hard with those close to me to negotiate the difficult times using

earplugs and headphones when I need them. Best wishes Dianneheytar wrote: I too am a 4S sufferer. I have been a member of this group for only a few months and have appreciated all of your comments. When I hear my trigger sounds (gum, loud breathing, chewing, coughing, etc) I too get extremely aggitated but I don't feel like hurting anyone. Many of the comments have referred to visions of "stabbing someone's eyes out" or "bashing

their brains in" but I can honestly say thoughts of violence have not been one of my desires. I do have feelings such as, "I can't believe how disgusting this person is" or "how in the world can they be doing this" or "I have to get away imediately." I guess I have noticed that most of my trigger people are those people I love most such as my husband or one of my five kids. I have struggled with this since I was a teen-ager (I am 36) and my family growing up would make fun of me (ask me to wear those ear headsets they use for target practice) or couldn't understand why it bothered me SO much. Anyway, I thought I would just see if the majority of 4S sufferers out there had more violent thoughts than what I described.