Guest guest Posted December 2, 2001 Report Share Posted December 2, 2001 << I replied with " Why the heck didn't you tell me that when I asked you what you wanted to do? I wouldn't have stopped at the store. " He goes " I didn't expect you to stop anywhere on the way home " . I said " That is the reason I asked you what you wanted to do, so I would know what to do! " He answered " I don't know why I didn't tell you I wanted to take you there " . And he wonders why I usually ask him 20 questions to make sure I understand what is going on..... Gail :-) >> Hi Gail, Part of the on-going comedy-dramas of marriage? I hope you two have had a good belly laugh about this since you first wrote this. Comedy-of-errors make for some of the best memories (and movies). Nanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 3, 2001 Report Share Posted December 3, 2001 >From: ViridianThumm@... >Reply-To: AutisticSpectrumTreeHouse >To: AutisticSpectrumTreeHouse >Subject: Re: I don't get this... >Date: Mon, 3 Dec 2001 07:54:43 EST > > > ><< > I replied with " Why the heck didn't you tell me that when I asked you >what > you wanted to do? I wouldn't have stopped at the store. " He goes " I >didn't > expect you to stop anywhere on the way home " . I said " That is the reason >I > asked you what you wanted to do, so I would know what to do! " He >answered > " I don't know why I didn't tell you I wanted to take you there " . > > And he wonders why I usually ask him 20 questions to make sure I >understand > what is going on..... > > Gail :-) > >> >Hi Gail, > Part of the on-going comedy-dramas of marriage? I hope you two have >had >a good belly laugh about this since you first wrote this. >Comedy-of-errors >make for some of the best memories (and movies). > Nanne This can seem funny but when two people get frustrated with this " who's on first? " type stuff, it can get out of control. It was one of the things that drove and I apart four years ago. We both have learned that if this kind of cycle appears to begin, it helps a lot of someone is sane enough to pause a few seconds and start from scratch, rather than escalate the situation. Jerry _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com/intl.asp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 3, 2001 Report Share Posted December 3, 2001 Nanne wrote: > > Part of the on-going comedy-dramas of marriage? I hope you two have > >had > >a good belly laugh about this since you first wrote this. > >Comedy-of-errors > >make for some of the best memories (and movies). Then Jerry wrote: > This can seem funny but when two people get frustrated with this > " who's on first? " type stuff, it can get out of control. It was one > of the things that drove and I apart four years ago. We both > have learned that if this kind of cycle appears to begin, it helps > a lot of someone is sane enough to pause a few seconds and start > from scratch, rather than escalate the situation. This is why I usually will ask Dick a lot of questions to make sure we both understand what is going on. I learned to do this early in our marriage (we have been married 10 years) It gets him a little annoyed at times, but it heads off a lot of trouble! I failed to do that in this instance. Normally I would have asked him " So we are not going out to lunch today? " If I had, then he would have told me that he wanted to take me to Rathbuns. Normally I also would have told him I planned to stop at the store since he made it sound like he just wanted to go home and wasn't hungry. Dick makes a lot of assumptions (like thinking that I would go straight home), but I try to not make assumptions, and make sure everything is understood. For some reason I didn't do it this time, but it did frustrate me that he couldn't just have told me he wanted to go to Rathbun's without my having to ask him all my clarifying questions. Anyway, he called Rathbuns and they were willing to wait for us because we didn't live far away. So we had lunch. :-) Gail :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 3, 2001 Report Share Posted December 3, 2001 >Then Jerry wrote: > > This can seem funny but when two people get frustrated with this > > " who's on first? " type stuff, it can get out of control. It was one > > of the things that drove and I apart four years ago. We both > > have learned that if this kind of cycle appears to begin, it helps > > a lot of someone is sane enough to pause a few seconds and start > > from scratch, rather than escalate the situation. > >This is why I usually will ask Dick a lot of questions to make sure we both >understand what is going on. I learned to do this early in our marriage (we >have been married 10 years) It gets him a little annoyed at times, but it >heads off a lot of trouble! I failed to do that in this instance. I think there is always one person who needs more clarification than the other. You have to find a balance. Normally I >would have asked him " So we are not going out to lunch today? " If I had, >then he would have told me that he wanted to take me to Rathbuns. Normally >I >also would have told him I planned to stop at the store since he made it >sound like he just wanted to go home and wasn't hungry. Dick makes a lot of >assumptions (like thinking that I would go straight home), but I try to not >make assumptions, and make sure everything is understood. That might drive me nuts to be around Jerry _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com/intl.asp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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