Guest guest Posted December 15, 1999 Report Share Posted December 15, 1999 In a message dated 12/15/99 5:26:10 PM Eastern Standard Time, litlrooh@... writes: << As I was reading my own post, I have to say thanks to all of you, because you are helping me to pin down what the problem is exactly. I think what might be going on is,that if he doesn't understand something, he'd rather look like it does'nt matter to him, than to look he doesn't understand it. Looking like he doesn't understand it makes him feel foolish. He'll go as far as to make fun of it because he'd rather do that and appear to be in control than to confront how foolish he feels bec. he really doesn't understand. Hmmmm...I hate psychoanalyzing him here, but hey, if it gets us where we need to be down the road, so be it. >> That is a really good assesment !! My fiance has some of those same tendancies...but luckily they are minor and only pop out once in a while. I turned him into a never try Chinese food or Tai guy to an egg roll loving fiend. It is really unfortunate that your husband doesn't feel close to God. Alot of times other problems spring up from a lack of spirituality. (keep in mind, I don't make it to church every sunday, I just have a great amount of respect for the big guy). Maybe you can get him to watch some veggie tale videos (joke) I can tell you that the good news is that if he's complaining then it's probably bothering him (I'm referencing the religion thing here) and maybe deep down inside he wants to find it too. I hope things turn out fot he better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 15, 1999 Report Share Posted December 15, 1999 As I was reading my own post, I have to say thanks to all of you, because you are helping me to pin down what the problem is exactly. I think what might be going on is,that if he doesn't understand something, he'd rather look like it does'nt matter to him, than to look he doesn't understand it. Looking like he doesn't understand it makes him feel foolish. He'll go as far as to make fun of it because he'd rather do that and appear to be in control than to confront how foolish he feels bec. he really doesn't understand. Hmmmm...I hate psychoanalyzing him here, but hey, if it gets us where we need to be down the road, so be it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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