Guest guest Posted July 23, 2008 Report Share Posted July 23, 2008 I need anyone's help today with a letter or something because after I asked my coworker to tone it down now I am in big trouble. Oh my God, take me now because I have no where to run anymore and no one can understand how hard it is to live with this problem. I am really thinking about suicide more and more. I am just about to quit. I had emailed my boss and now he is pissed at me and that I have ruined his vacation!! This girl just found out she has a thyroid problem and that is why she is the way she is. She gets sympathy for her behavior and I ALWAYS get in trouble instead of anyone trying to understand this life we live. Every six months or so I let myself slip (and I have come a long way from flipping out every week) but yet now I am being " looked at!! " I do my job and I do a good job!! This is not fair and I just want to die. I cannot lose this job because we need the money and I am 51. I have asked repeatedly to be put into a closet if need be so that I can have peace. They do not understand that we simply cannot concentrate when we get triggered and that sometimes we can't help but speak up. I swear on my parent's grave that I asked her nicely and quietly to tone it down a bit, please and even put my hands together. She is extremely confrontational and she slammed the phone and started up with me. If looks could kill... A lot of people know this about her so that after she shuts you up you never want to talk to her again because she just makes you shut up and she can turn on a dime. It was as if she really hated me and just looking at her got her going....she will not let you say one word, not one!! She is incapable of listening or having any regard about the people around her. She gets angry and accuses me of harassing her and I get into trouble. Isn't this f'd up somehow?? I then had the nerve to ask her why is she so mad at me?? Talk to the hand... So now she ends up doing what she wants because no one will confront her. All I have ever asked was for someone to understand that I and all of you are trying to figure out how we can get help for this and for the children who have this and have to deal with people in school when we cannot concentrate on our work. I would give anything not to be like this. It affects every aspect of our lives and I have just about had enough. Should'nt an office be quiet so people can get their work done without having to listen to someone talk to their friends all day every day. Am I wrong?? I couldn't possibly be wrong, but it is always me that gets that look from the bosses like I am a trouble maker. Please understand. PLEASE!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2008 Report Share Posted July 23, 2008 Girlfriend, are u wearing ear plugs at work? If not go buy some now! Your coworkers wil never understand – they will just think you are nuts. YOU ARE NOT NUTS though, we know! They never will though so u have to make a way to act normal at work or u are the one that is gonna get fired. DO not give up! There are ways to cope, u just need to try them all. Do not kill yourself. Please call 1-800-SUICIDE / 1- or1-800-273-TALK / 1- if u are really getting to that point Kim From: Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of Pia Levensteins Sent: Wednesday, July 23, 2008 7:11 AM To: Soundsensitivity Subject: trouble again.... I need anyone's help today with a letter or something because after I asked my coworker to tone it down now I am in big trouble. Oh my God, take me now because I have no where to run anymore and no one can understand how hard it is to live with this problem. I am really thinking about suicide more and more. I am just about to quit. I had emailed my boss and now he is pissed at me and that I have ruined his vacation!! This girl just found out she has a thyroid problem and that is why she is the way she is. She gets sympathy for her behavior and I ALWAYS get in trouble instead of anyone trying to understand this life we live. Every six months or so I let myself slip (and I have come a long way from flipping out every week) but yet now I am being " looked at!! " I do my job and I do a good job!! This is not fair and I just want to die. I cannot lose this job because we need the money and I am 51. I have asked repeatedly to be put into a closet if need be so that I can have peace. They do not understand that we simply cannot concentrate when we get triggered and that sometimes we can't help but speak up. I swear on my parent's grave that I asked her nicely and quietly to tone it down a bit, please and even put my hands together. She is extremely confrontational and she slammed the phone and started up with me. If looks could kill... A lot of people know this about her so that after she shuts you up you never want to talk to her again because she just makes you shut up and she can turn on a dime. It was as if she really hated me and just looking at her got her going....she will not let you say one word, not one!! She is incapable of listening or having any regard about the people around her. She gets angry and accuses me of harassing her and I get into trouble. Isn't this f'd up somehow?? I then had the nerve to ask her why is she so mad at me?? Talk to the hand... So now she ends up doing what she wants because no one will confront her. All I have ever asked was for someone to understand that I and all of you are trying to figure out how we can get help for this and for the children who have this and have to deal with people in school when we cannot concentrate on our work. I would give anything not to be like this. It affects every aspect of our lives and I have just about had enough. Should'nt an office be quiet so people can get their work done without having to listen to someone talk to their friends all day every day. Am I wrong?? I couldn't possibly be wrong, but it is always me that gets that look from the bosses like I am a trouble maker. Please understand. PLEASE!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2008 Report Share Posted July 23, 2008 Pia its not your fault, you need to be listened to and understood too. There seems to a situation brewing which could go wrong for you. I would suggest you ask to meet with your line manager to explain, yet again, your condition and present some facts from this site and to ask for help in dealing with this difficult situation. Then also ask for the manager to mediate between you two to agree a way forward and avoid complaints/grievance. It would seem you are not able to move rooms, so having an agreement about what occurs when you are triggered is important and if you are happy for that information to be shared and agreed with your colleagues, that would help. It means 'coming out' to lots of folk maybe, that you ahve a condition that means you have particular requirements for reasonable accomodations at work. But they will then know what to expect when you are triggered e.g you go for a short break, you tell the person you are triggered and by what. You could suggest that you do a short presentation on the condition or ask someone else to do that so that you are not the centre of attention. I think it is also important that the company say what kind of telephone and email use is permitted by staff and inform that the staff about this, and also say what happens if someone breaches the policy. It is not unusual for firms to have these policies maybe you could look up some as examples to show them. They could also monitor noise levels from time to time to prevent the stress shown on the videos we were sharing recently.In fact could those videos be useful for staff training and the site which talked about the causes of stress at work. I know it seems as if you are being seen as the problem, but others sound like they will have similar issues and it is clear that the company need to manage conflicts positively, they may need some external professionals to help them do this. Do you have such a body as occupational health doctors or government agencies that assist in health and safety at work? Don't give up, you have strength and determination Best wishes DiannePia Levensteins wrote: I need anyone's help today with a letter or somethingbecause after I asked my coworker to tone it down nowI am in big trouble. Oh my God, take me now becauseI have no where to run anymore and no one can understandhow hard it is to live with this problem.I am really thinking about suicide more and more.I am just about to quit.I had emailed my boss and now he is pissed at me andthat I have ruined his vacation!!This girl just found out she has a thyroid problem and that is why she is the way she is.She gets sympathy for her behavior and I ALWAYS get in trouble instead of anyone trying to understand thislife we live. Every six months or so I let myself slip(and I have come a long way from flipping out every week)but yet now I am being "looked at!!"I do my job and I do a good job!!This is not fair and I just want to die. I cannotlose this job because we need the money and I am 51.I have asked repeatedly to be put into a closet if needbe so that I can have peace. They do not understand thatwe simply cannot concentrate when we get triggered and thatsometimes we can't help but speak up. I swear on myparent's grave that I asked her nicely and quietly to toneit down a bit, please and even put my hands together.She is extremely confrontational and she slammed the phone and started up with me. If looks could kill...A lot of people know this about herso that after she shuts you up you never want to talk toher again because she just makes you shut up and she canturn on a dime. It was as if she really hated me and justlooking at her got her going....she will not let yousay one word, not one!! She is incapable of listeningor having any regard about the people around her.She gets angry and accuses me of harassing her and I getinto trouble. Isn't this f'd up somehow?? I then had thenerve to ask her why is she so mad at me??Talk to the hand...So now she ends up doing what she wants because noone will confront her. All I have ever asked was for someone to understandthat I and all of you are trying to figure out how wecan get help for this and for the children who havethis and have to deal with people in school when wecannot concentrate on our work. I would give anythingnot to be like this. It affects every aspect of our lives and I have just about had enough.Should'nt an office be quiet so people can get theirwork done without having to listen to someone talk totheir friends all day every day. Am I wrong??I couldn't possibly be wrong, but it is always methat gets that look from the bosses like I ama trouble maker. Please understand. PLEASE!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2008 Report Share Posted July 23, 2008 ** Low Priority ** I am so very sorry. Is there a personnel office or employee care where you work. You need some other resources to turn to, have you gone to counseling before? You need some documentation of your problem. If nothing else, for GOD sakes, print out some of these postings from us showing you do have a problem. >>> " Pia Levensteins " 7/23/2008 10:11 AM >>> I need anyone's help today with a letter or something because after I asked my coworker to tone it down now I am in big trouble. Oh my God, take me now because I have no where to run anymore and no one can understand how hard it is to live with this problem. I am really thinking about suicide more and more. I am just about to quit. I had emailed my boss and now he is pissed at me and that I have ruined his vacation!! This girl just found out she has a thyroid problem and that is why she is the way she is. She gets sympathy for her behavior and I ALWAYS get in trouble instead of anyone trying to understand this life we live. Every six months or so I let myself slip (and I have come a long way from flipping out every week) but yet now I am being " looked at!! " I do my job and I do a good job!! This is not fair and I just want to die. I cannot lose this job because we need the money and I am 51. I have asked repeatedly to be put into a closet if need be so that I can have peace. They do not understand that we simply cannot concentrate when we get triggered and that sometimes we can't help but speak up. I swear on my parent's grave that I asked her nicely and quietly to tone it down a bit, please and even put my hands together. She is extremely confrontational and she slammed the phone and started up with me. If looks could kill... A lot of people know this about her so that after she shuts you up you never want to talk to her again because she just makes you shut up and she can turn on a dime. It was as if she really hated me and just looking at her got her going....she will not let you say one word, not one!! She is incapable of listening or having any regard about the people around her. She gets angry and accuses me of harassing her and I get into trouble. Isn't this f'd up somehow?? I then had the nerve to ask her why is she so mad at me?? Talk to the hand... So now she ends up doing what she wants because no one will confront her. All I have ever asked was for someone to understand that I and all of you are trying to figure out how we can get help for this and for the children who have this and have to deal with people in school when we cannot concentrate on our work. I would give anything not to be like this. It affects every aspect of our lives and I have just about had enough. Should'nt an office be quiet so people can get their work done without having to listen to someone talk to their friends all day every day. Am I wrong?? I couldn't possibly be wrong, but it is always me that gets that look from the bosses like I am a trouble maker. Please understand. PLEASE!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2008 Report Share Posted July 23, 2008 OK guys, this is what happened now. I went upstairs to speak to a woman who has heard complaints about this woman before and I told her the whole story how I am the one getting into trouble. I was crying all morning so she asked me what was up! I told her I will probably get in more trouble talking to you about this... she said that it was time to tell my boss that this woman has lots of complaints about her (that is why she now sits with us because of fighting with other woman on another floor) and to have all 3 of us tell him that it is not ME but HER. My boss hates confrontation as well but we will see what happens on Monday. I feel better because she will talk to my boss!!! And yes, I have my Bose headphones on... To: Soundsensitivity From: P@...Date: Wed, 23 Jul 2008 12:28:14 -0400Subject: Re: trouble again.... ** Low Priority **I am so very sorry. Is there a personnel office or employee care where you work. You need some other resources to turn to, have you gone to counseling before? You need some documentation of your problem. If nothing else, for GOD sakes, print out some of these postings from us showing you do have a problem.>>> "Pia Levensteins" <pialevensteinshotmail> 7/23/2008 10:11 AM >>>I need anyone's help today with a letter or somethingbecause after I asked my coworker to tone it down nowI am in big trouble. Oh my God, take me now becauseI have no where to run anymore and no one can understandhow hard it is to live with this problem.I am really thinking about suicide more and more.I am just about to quit.I had emailed my boss and now he is pissed at me andthat I have ruined his vacation!!This girl just found out she has a thyroid problem and that is why she is the way she is.She gets sympathy for her behavior and I ALWAYS get in trouble instead of anyone trying to understand thislife we live. Every six months or so I let myself slip(and I have come a long way from flipping out every week)but yet now I am being "looked at!!"I do my job and I do a good job!!This is not fair and I just want to die. I cannotlose this job because we need the money and I am 51.I have asked repeatedly to be put into a closet if needbe so that I can have peace. They do not understand thatwe simply cannot concentrate when we get triggered and thatsometimes we can't help but speak up. I swear on myparent's grave that I asked her nicely and quietly to toneit down a bit, please and even put my hands together.She is extremely confrontational and she slammed the phone and started up with me. If looks could kill...A lot of people know this about herso that after she shuts you up you never want to talk toher again because she just makes you shut up and she canturn on a dime. It was as if she really hated me and justlooking at her got her going....she will not let yousay one word, not one!! She is incapable of listeningor having any regard about the people around her.She gets angry and accuses me of harassing her and I getinto trouble. Isn't this f'd up somehow?? I then had thenerve to ask her why is she so mad at me??Talk to the hand...So now she ends up doing what she wants because noone will confront her. All I have ever asked was for someone to understandthat I and all of you are trying to figure out how wecan get help for this and for the children who havethis and have to deal with people in school when wecannot concentrate on our work. I would give anythingnot to be like this. It affects every aspect of our lives and I have just about had enough.Should'nt an office be quiet so people can get theirwork done without having to listen to someone talk totheir friends all day every day. Am I wrong??I couldn't possibly be wrong, but it is always methat gets that look from the bosses like I ama trouble maker. Please understand. PLEASE!!!!! Use video conversation to talk face-to-face with Windows Live Messenger. Get started. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2008 Report Share Posted July 23, 2008 Good news indeed! I hope for the best resolution with you and this situation about the woman. It is NOT YOU but HER. I would say living with 4S and still doing a GOOD JOB at work should be highly valued by your employer. Pia Levensteins wrote: > > > OK guys, this is what happened now. I went upstairs to speak to a woman > who has heard complaints about this woman before and I told her the > whole story how I am the one getting into trouble. > I was crying all morning so she asked me what was up! > I told her I will probably get in more trouble talking to you about this... > she said that it was time to tell my boss that this woman has lots > of complaints about her (that is why she now sits with us because of > fighting with other woman on another floor) and to have all 3 of us > tell him that it is not ME but HER. > My boss hates confrontation as well but we will see what happens > on Monday. I feel better because she will talk to my boss!!! > And yes, I have my Bose headphones on... > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > To: Soundsensitivity > From: P@... > Date: Wed, 23 Jul 2008 12:28:14 -0400 > Subject: Re: trouble again.... > > > ** Low Priority ** > > I am so very sorry. Is there a personnel office or employee care where > you work. You need some other resources to turn to, have you gone to > counseling before? You need some documentation of your problem. If > nothing else, for GOD sakes, print out some of these postings from us > showing you do have a problem. > > >>> " Pia Levensteins " <pialevensteins@... > > 7/23/2008 10:11 AM >>> > I need anyone's help today with a letter or something > because after I asked my coworker to tone it down now > I am in big trouble. Oh my God, take me now because > I have no where to run anymore and no one can understand > how hard it is to live with this problem. > I am really thinking about suicide more and more. > I am just about to quit. > I had emailed my boss and now he is pissed at me and > that I have ruined his vacation!! > This girl just found out she has a thyroid problem > and that is why she is the way she is. > She gets sympathy for her behavior and I ALWAYS get in > trouble instead of anyone trying to understand this > life we live. Every six months or so I let myself slip > (and I have come a long way from flipping out every week) > but yet now I am being " looked at!! " > I do my job and I do a good job!! > This is not fair and I just want to die. I cannot > lose this job because we need the money and I am 51. > I have asked repeatedly to be put into a closet if need > be so that I can have peace. They do not understand that > we simply cannot concentrate when we get triggered and that > sometimes we can't help but speak up. I swear on my > parent's grave that I asked her nicely and quietly to tone > it down a bit, please and even put my hands together. > She is extremely confrontational and she slammed the phone > and started up with me. If looks could kill... > A lot of people know this about her > so that after she shuts you up you never want to talk to > her again because she just makes you shut up and she can > turn on a dime. It was as if she really hated me and just > looking at her got her going....she will not let you > say one word, not one!! She is incapable of listening > or having any regard about the people around her. > She gets angry and accuses me of harassing her and I get > into trouble. Isn't this f'd up somehow?? I then had the > nerve to ask her why is she so mad at me?? > Talk to the hand... > So now she ends up doing what she wants because no > one will confront her. > All I have ever asked was for someone to understand > that I and all of you are trying to figure out how we > can get help for this and for the children who have > this and have to deal with people in school when we > cannot concentrate on our work. I would give anything > not to be like this. It affects every aspect of our > lives and I have just about had enough. > Should'nt an office be quiet so people can get their > work done without having to listen to someone talk to > their friends all day every day. Am I wrong?? > I couldn't possibly be wrong, but it is always me > that gets that look from the bosses like I am > a trouble maker. Please understand. PLEASE!!!!! > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Use video conversation to talk face-to-face with Windows Live Messenger. > Get started. > <http://www.windowslive.com/messenger/connect_your_way.html?ocid=TXT_TAGLM_WL_Re\ fresh_messenger_video_072008> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2008 Report Share Posted July 23, 2008 Anyone know a spell to afflict non-believers with 4S/Hyperacusis??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2008 Report Share Posted July 23, 2008 OH MAN, INVISIBLE RUBBER BANDS..... To: Soundsensitivity From: mail@...Date: Wed, 23 Jul 2008 11:25:30 -0700Subject: Re: trouble again.... Anyone know a spell to afflict non-believers with 4S/Hyperacusis??? Stay in touch when you're away with Windows Live Messenger. IM anytime you're online. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2008 Report Share Posted July 23, 2008 Not without getting bad karma back from something similar. = M-F. >----- Original Message ----- > >To: <Soundsensitivity >> Anyone know a spell to afflict non-believers with 4S/Hyperacusis??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 24, 2008 Report Share Posted July 24, 2008 You are right. I just want people to understand what I go through. The only way is for them to experience it. I really don't wish this condition on anyone. -Randall Multi-Facets Wolfu-chan wrote: > > > Not without getting bad karma back from something similar. > > > = M-F. > > > > >----- Original Message ----- > >> > >To: <Soundsensitivity > <mailto:Soundsensitivity >> > > Anyone know a spell to afflict non-believers with 4S/Hyperacusis??? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 Hey, I am the lady who is in the process of getting disability retirement and I did ask you to wait to see what happens. Well group, I got my letter of approval in the mail saying I was accepted by PERS for retirement for my problem the problem we all have. I think this is a first, comments are welcomed, Dr. ?>>> Pia Levensteins 9/16/2008 9:20 AM >>> Hey, that is an old post....since that incident the offender was finally askedto keep it down...and I act as if she does not exist and that is working forme right now...there is one woman trying to get disability so we will have towait and see how that goes...I have my big headphones on and do my job...this is a day to day thing...full moon...pms...menopause...all make it worseon certain days...so far it seems that every six months or so I have to letout some of the steam I have been holding inside and then I am ok again...not a good thing to do at a job but I have no other choice right now butto get these people to understand this condition however strange it may seemto everyone else. To: Soundsensitivity From: geoff.oldinghotmail (DOT) co.ukDate: Tue, 16 Sep 2008 12:52:42 +0000Subject: Re: trouble again.... I understand.I am not a lawyer (and not an American), so please don't act on my advice without seeking legal opinion, but aren't you covered by the "Americans with Disabilities Act?".In particular, I believe your employer has a duty to make "resonable accommodations" for your condition. Surely this must include instructing your co-workers not to make sounds which exacerbate your condition and which are not necessary for them to be able to do their job.My best wishes to you>> I need anyone's help today with a letter or something> because after I asked my coworker to tone it down now> I am in big trouble. Oh my God, take me now because> I have no where to run anymore and no one can understand> how hard it is to liv e with this problem.> I am really thinking about suicide more and more.> I am just about to quit.> I had emailed my boss and now he is pissed at me and> that I have ruined his vacation!!> This girl just found out she has a thyroid problem > and that is why she is the way she is.> She gets sympathy for her behavior and I ALWAYS get in > trouble instead of anyone trying to understand this> life we live. Every six months or so I let myself slip> (and I have come a long way from flipping out every week)> but yet now I am being "looked at!!"> I do my job and I do a good job!!> This is not fair and I just want to die. I cannot> lose this job because we need the money and I am 51.> I have asked repeatedly to be put into a closet if need> be so that I can have peace. They do not understand that> we simply cannot concentrate when we get triggered and that> som etimes we can't help but speak up. I swear on my> parent's grave that I asked her nicely and quietly to tone> it down a bit, please and even put my hands together.> She is extremely confrontational and she slammed the phone > and started up with me. If looks could kill...> A lot of people know this about her> so that after she shuts you up you never want to talk to> her again because she just makes you shut up and she can> turn on a dime. It was as if she really hated me and just> looking at her got her going....she will not let you> say one word, not one!! She is incapable of listening> or having any regard about the people around her.> She gets angry and accuses me of harassing her and I get> into trouble. Isn't this f'd up somehow?? I then had the> nerve to ask her why is she so mad at me??> Talk to the hand...> So now she ends up doing what she wants because no > one will confront her. > All I have ever asked was for someone to understand> that I and all of you are trying to figure out how we> can get help for this and for the children who have> this and have to deal with people in school when we> cannot concentrate on our work. I would give anything> not to be like this. It affects every aspect of our > lives and I have just about had enough.> Should'nt an office be quiet so people can get their> work done without having to listen to someone talk to> their friends all day every day. Am I wrong??> I couldn't possibly be wrong, but it is always me> that gets that look from the bosses like I am> a trouble maker. Please understand. PLEASE!!!!!> Get more out of the Web. Learn 10 hidden secrets of Windows Live. Learn Now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 WOW!! Tell us everything...how old are you again???? To: soundsensitivity From: P@...Date: Wed, 17 Sep 2008 12:29:18 -0400Subject: RE: Re: trouble again.... Hey, I am the lady who is in the process of getting disability retirement and I did ask you to wait to see what happens. Well group, I got my letter of approval in the mail saying I was accepted by PERS for retirement for my problem the problem we all have. I think this is a first, comments are welcomed, Dr. ?>>> Pia Levensteins 9/16/2008 9:20 AM >>> Hey, that is an old post....since that incident the offender was finally askedto keep it down...and I act as if she does not exist and that is working forme right now...there is one woman trying to get disability so we will have towait and see how that goes...I have my big headphones on and do my job...this is a day to day thing...full moon...pms...menopause...all make it worseon certain days...so far it seems that every six months or so I have to letout some of the steam I have been holding inside and then I am ok again...not a good thing to do at a job but I have no other choice right now butto get these people to understand this condition however strange it may seemto everyone else. To: Soundsensitivity From: geoff.oldinghotmail (DOT) co.ukDate: Tue, 16 Sep 2008 12:52:42 +0000Subject: Re: trouble again.... I understand.I am not a lawyer (and not an American), so please don't act on my advice without seeking legal opinion, but aren't you covered by the "Americans with Disabilities Act?".In particular, I believe your employer has a duty to make "resonable accommodations" for your condition. Surely this must include instructing your co-workers not to make sounds which exacerbate your condition and which are not necessary for them to be able to do their job.My best wishes to you>> I need anyone's help today with a letter or something> because after I asked my coworker to tone it down now> I am in big trouble. Oh my God, take me now because> I have no where to run anymore and no one can understand> how hard it is to liv e with this problem.> I am really thinking about suicide more and more.> I am just about to quit.> I had emailed my boss and now he is pissed at me and> that I have ruined his vacation!!> This girl just found out she has a thyroid problem > and that is why she is the way she is.> She gets sympathy for her behavior and I ALWAYS get in > trouble instead of anyone trying to understand this> life we live. Every six months or so I let myself slip> (and I have come a long way from flipping out every week)> but yet now I am being "looked at!!"> I do my job and I do a good job!!> This is not fair and I just want to die. I cannot> lose this job because we need the money and I am 51.> I have asked repeatedly to be put into a closet if need> be so that I can have peace. They do not understand that> we simply cannot concentrate when we get triggered and that> som etimes we can't help but speak up. I swear on my> parent's grave that I asked her nicely and quietly to tone> it down a bit, please and even put my hands together.> She is extremely confrontational and she slammed the phone > and started up with me. If looks could kill...> A lot of people know this about her> so that after she shuts you up you never want to talk to> her again because she just makes you shut up and she can> turn on a dime. It was as if she really hated me and just> looking at her got her going....she will not let you> say one word, not one!! She is incapable of listening> or having any regard about the people around her.> She gets angry and accuses me of harassing her and I get> into trouble. Isn't this f'd up somehow?? I then had the> nerve to ask her why is she so mad at me??> Talk to the hand...> So now she ends up doing what she wants because no > one will confront her. > All I have ever asked was for someone to understand> that I and all of you are trying to figure out how we> can get help for this and for the children who have> this and have to deal with people in school when we> cannot concentrate on our work. I would give anything> not to be like this. It affects every aspect of our > lives and I have just about had enough.> Should'nt an office be quiet so people can get their> work done without having to listen to someone talk to> their friends all day every day. Am I wrong??> I couldn't possibly be wrong, but it is always me> that gets that look from the bosses like I am> a trouble maker. Please understand. PLEASE!!!!!> Get more out of the Web. Learn 10 hidden secrets of Windows Live. Learn Now See how Windows connects the people, information, and fun that are part of your life. See Now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 I am 55 years old and would have had 5 more years to go before I retired normally. I talked to many therapist, many psychiatrist, put on all kinds of anxiety/depression medications, spoke to my bosses. Until one day they all listened. My irritability with the office staff was making everyone uncomfortable. My boss pulled me into her office (one of many times) and told me how none of us could continue dealing with me. My current psychiatrist got permission from me to speak to my boss and my boss let it all hang out convincing my psychiatrist to follow up on my request to start the paperwork recommending me for disability retirement. I had to see the state's recommended psychiatrist and had to pass his assessment of me and if he agreed with my doctor's diagnosis and he did. Next their was a PERS (Public Employees Retirement System) board of doctors who approved me across the board and here I am free from my daily hell. The doctors diagnosed me with a hearing distortion, in other words I hear things in a distorted view others do not, whatever, I am happy. I could not continue another month, I am at my wits end and yes, there is a GOD. I do not know if I will continue with this group participation or not (I get this off of my work email). You guys got me through some rough times, and I thank you. I will be moving to North Carolina to be with my daughters and six grandchildren who I miss dearly. GOD bless and protect you all. By the way, my last day of work is this Friday, September 19, 2008!! I would like to do some volunteer work sharing my skills and in an environment that is healthy for me. My choice!!>>> Pia Levensteins 9/17/2008 12:30 PM >>> WOW!! Tell us everything...how old are you again???? To: soundsensitivity From: Pmcohio (DOT) orgDate: Wed, 17 Sep 2008 12:29:18 -0400Subject: RE: Re: trouble again....Hey, I am the lady who is in the process of getting disability retirement and I did ask you to wait to see what happens. Well group, I got my letter of approval in the mail saying I was accepted by PERS for retirement for my problem the problem we all have. I think this is a first, comments are welcomed, Dr. ?>>> Pia Levensteins <pialevensteinshotmail> 9/16/2008 9:20 AM >>> Hey, that is an old post....since that incident the offender was finally askedto keep it down...and I act as if she does not exist and that is working forme right now...there is one woman trying to get disability so we will have towait and see how that goes...I have my big headphones on and do my job...this is a day to day thing...full moon...pms...menopause...all make it worseon certain days...so far it seems that every six months or so I have to letout some of the steam I have been holding inside and then I am ok again...not a good thing to do at a job but I have no other choice right now butto get these people to understand this condition however strange it may seemto everyone else. To: Soundsensitivity From: geoff.oldinghotmail (DOT) co.ukDate: Tue, 16 Sep 2008 12:52:42 +0000Subject: Re: trouble again.... I understand.I am not a lawyer (and not an American), so please don't act on my advice without seeking legal opinion, but aren't you covered by the "Americans with Disabilities Act?".In particular, I believe your employer has a duty to make "resonable accommodations" for your condition. Surely this must include instructing your co-workers not to make sounds which exacerbate your condition and which are not necessary for them to be able to do their job.My best wishes to you>> I need anyone's help today with a letter or something> because after I asked my coworker to tone it down now> I am in big trouble. Oh my God, take me now because> I have no where to run anymore and no one can understand> how hard it is to liv e with this problem.> I am really thinking about suicide more and more.> I am just about to quit.> I had emailed my boss and now he is pissed at me and> that I have ruined his vacation!!> This girl just found out she has a thyroid problem > and that is why she is the way she is.> She gets sympathy for her behavior and I ALWAYS get in > trouble instead of anyone trying to understand this> life we live. Every six months or so I let myself slip> (and I have come a long way from flipping out every week)> but yet now I am being "looked at!!"> I do my job and I do a good job!!> This is not fair and I just want to die. I cannot> lose this job because we need the money and I am 51.> I have asked repeatedly to be put into a closet if need> be so that I can have peace. They do not understand that> we simply cannot concentrate when we get tri ggered and that> som etimes we can't help but speak up. I swear on my> parent's grave that I asked her nicely and quietly to tone> it down a bit, please and even put my hands together.> She is extremely confrontational and she slammed the phone > and started up with me. If looks could kill...> A lot of people know this about her> so that after she shuts you up you never want to talk to> her again because she just makes you shut up and she can> turn on a dime. It was as if she really hated me and just> looking at her got her going....she will not let you> say one word, not one!! She is incapable of listening> or having any regard about the people around her.> She gets angry and accuses me of harassing her and I get> into trouble. Isn't this f'd up somehow?? I then had the> nerve to ask her why is she so mad at me??> Talk to the hand...> So now she ends up doi ng what she wants because no > one will confront her. > All I have ever asked was for someone to understand> that I and all of you are trying to figure out how we> can get help for this and for the children who have> this and have to deal with people in school when we> cannot concentrate on our work. I would give anything> not to be like this. It affects every aspect of our > lives and I have just about had enough.> Should'nt an office be quiet so people can get their> work done without having to listen to someone talk to> their friends all day every day. Am I wrong??> I couldn't possibly be wrong, but it is always me> that gets that look from the bosses like I am> a trouble maker. Please understand. PLEASE!!!!!> Get more out of the Web. Learn 10 hidden secrets of Windows Live. Learn Now See how Windows connects the people, information, and fun that are part of your life. 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Guest guest Posted September 17, 2008 Report Share Posted September 17, 2008 Congratulations....I am 52 in January....Best of Luck to you!!!!! To: soundsensitivity From: P@...Date: Wed, 17 Sep 2008 13:03:05 -0400Subject: RE: Re: trouble again.... I am 55 years old and would have had 5 more years to go before I retired normally. I talked to many therapist, many psychiatrist, put on all kinds of anxiety/depression medications, spoke to my bosses. Until one day they all listened. My irritability with the office staff was making everyone uncomfortable. My boss pulled me into her office (one of many times) and told me how none of us could continue dealing with me. My current psychiatrist got permission from me to speak to my boss and my boss let it all hang out convincing my psychiatrist to follow up on my request to start the paperwork recommending me for disability retirement. I had to see the state's recommended psychiatrist and had to pass his assessment of me and if he agreed with my doctor's diagnosis and he did. Next their was a PERS (Public Employees Retirement System) board of doctors who approved me across the board and here I am free from my daily hell. The doctors diagnosed me with a hearing distortion, in other words I hear things in a distorted view others do not, whatever, I am happy. I could not continue another month, I am at my wits end and yes, there is a GOD. I do not know if I will continue with this group participation or not (I get this off of my work email). You guys got me through some rough times, and I thank you. I will be moving to North Carolina to be with my daughters and six grandchildren who I miss dearly. GOD bless and protect you all. By the way, my last day of work is this Friday, September 19, 2008!! I would like to do some volunteer work sharing my skills and in an environment that is healthy for me. My choice!!>>> Pia Levensteins 9/17/2008 12:30 PM >>> WOW!! Tell us everything...how old are you again???? To: soundsensitivity From: Pmcohio (DOT) orgDate: Wed, 17 Sep 2008 12:29:18 -0400Subject: RE: Re: trouble again....Hey, I am the lady who is in the process of getting disability retirement and I did ask you to wait to see what happens. Well group, I got my letter of approval in the mail saying I was accepted by PERS for retirement for my problem the problem we all have. I think this is a first, comments are welcomed, Dr. ?>>> Pia Levensteins <pialevensteinshotmail> 9/16/2008 9:20 AM >>> Hey, that is an old post....since that incident the offender was finally askedto keep it down...and I act as if she does not exist and that is working forme right now...there is one woman trying to get disability so we will have towait and see how that goes...I have my big headphones on and do my job...this is a day to day thing...full moon...pms...menopause...all make it worseon certain days...so far it seems that every six months or so I have to letout some of the steam I have been holding inside and then I am ok again...not a good thing to do at a job but I have no other choice right now butto get these people to understand this condition however strange it may seemto everyone else. To: Soundsensitivity From: geoff.oldinghotmail (DOT) co.ukDate: Tue, 16 Sep 2008 12:52:42 +0000Subject: Re: trouble again.... I understand.I am not a lawyer (and not an American), so please don't act on my advice without seeking legal opinion, but aren't you covered by the "Americans with Disabilities Act?".In particular, I believe your employer has a duty to make "resonable accommodations" for your condition. Surely this must include instructing your co-workers not to make sounds which exacerbate your condition and which are not necessary for them to be able to do their job.My best wishes to you>> I need anyone's help today with a letter or something> because after I asked my coworker to tone it down now> I am in big trouble. Oh my God, take me now because> I have no where to run anymore and no one can understand> how hard it is to liv e with this problem.> I am really thinking about suicide more and more.> I am just about to quit.> I had emailed my boss and now he is pissed at me and> that I have ruined his vacation!!> This girl just found out she has a thyroid problem > and that is why she is the way she is.> She gets sympathy for her behavior and I ALWAYS get in > trouble instead of anyone trying to understand this> life we live. Every six months or so I let myself slip> (and I have come a long way from flipping out every week)> but yet now I am being "looked at!!"> I do my job and I do a good job!!> This is not fair and I just want to die. I cannot> lose this job because we need the money and I am 51.> I have asked repeatedly to be put into a closet if need> be so that I can have peace. They do not understand that> we simply cannot concentrate when we get tri ggered and that> som etimes we can't help but speak up. I swear on my> parent's grave that I asked her nicely and quietly to tone> it down a bit, please and even put my hands together.> She is extremely confrontational and she slammed the phone > and started up with me. If looks could kill...> A lot of people know this about her> so that after she shuts you up you never want to talk to> her again because she just makes you shut up and she can> turn on a dime. It was as if she really hated me and just> looking at her got her going....she will not let you> say one word, not one!! She is incapable of listening> or having any regard about the people around her.> She gets angry and accuses me of harassing her and I get> into trouble. Isn't this f'd up somehow?? I then had the> nerve to ask her why is she so mad at me??> Talk to the hand...> So now she ends up doi ng what she wants because no > one will confront her. > All I have ever asked was for someone to understand> that I and all of you are trying to figure out how we> can get help for this and for the children who have> this and have to deal with people in school when we> cannot concentrate on our work. I would give anything> not to be like this. It affects every aspect of our > lives and I have just about had enough.> Should'nt an office be quiet so people can get their> work done without having to listen to someone talk to> their friends all day every day. Am I wrong??> I couldn't possibly be wrong, but it is always me> that gets that look from the bosses like I am> a trouble maker. Please understand. PLEASE!!!!!> Get more out of the Web. Learn 10 hidden secrets of Windows Live. Learn Now See how Windows connects the people, information, and fun that are part of your life. 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Guest guest Posted September 18, 2008 Report Share Posted September 18, 2008 Congratulations, ette! Best of luck to you. It will be such a relief to walk out of that office for the last time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2008 Report Share Posted September 18, 2008 Yes, yes it will>>> Hardenbergh 9/18/2008 12:16 PM >>> Congratulations, ette! Best of luck to you. It will be such a relief to walk out of that office for the last time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2008 Report Share Posted September 18, 2008 Pia, I know it doesn't amount to much but I understand. I feel like I'm going crazy too. It hurts me to know other people have to suffer like I do... worse, it sounds like, in your case. But know that I'm behind you and I think of all of you often throughout my day. I'm pulling for you all. Please don't give up hope. While this group exists, while we're connected to each other, there's hope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2008 Report Share Posted September 18, 2008 Oh, haha, it WAS an old post. But I stand by what I said! > > Pia, I know it doesn't amount to much but I understand. I feel like > I'm going crazy too. It hurts me to know other people have to suffer > like I do... worse, it sounds like, in your case. But know that I'm > behind you and I think of all of you often throughout my day. I'm > pulling for you all. Please don't give up hope. While this group > exists, while we're connected to each other, there's hope. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2008 Report Share Posted September 19, 2008 thanks To: Soundsensitivity From: cherrydoom@...Date: Fri, 19 Sep 2008 03:00:57 +0000Subject: Re: trouble again.... Oh, haha, it WAS an old post. But I stand by what I said!>> Pia, I know it doesn't amount to much but I understand. I feel like> I'm going crazy too. It hurts me to know other people have to suffer> like I do... worse, it sounds like, in your case. But know that I'm> behind you and I think of all of you often throughout my day. I'm> pulling for you all. Please don't give up hope. While this group> exists, while we're connected to each other, there's hope.> See how Windows connects the people, information, and fun that are part of your life. See Now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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