Re: My Own Personal Hell

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Hi andra,

Yes that is exactly how it is. Most of the time I prefer to be left

in peace. I am lucky though as my mum and sisters have been sending

me articles they have found to try and help me. Years ago when the

problem first ocurred (22 years now) nobody really knew what was

going on or what could be done to help but now there is more

information out there and they're doing what they can which is great.

Maybe you're right and my feelings toward him began to change and

that's when his noise bothered me. I really couldn't tell you now but

it does worry me that I could make somebody's life miserable because

of my problem. I never have a problem with intimacy in that respect.

That noise does not bother me at all. It's not something I generally

talk about as the majority don't understand where I'm coming from but

my friends know that I hate to hear others eat etc but they put it

down to me liking good manners. I also don't want people to feel on

edge around me or that they have to walk on egg shells. All that does

is draw even more attention to it. A couple of very close friends now

know about it and have been really understanding which is good.

Happy holidays to you too

> > > >

> > > > My story is rather a long one so I'll try and break it down

as

> > much

> > > > as possible so as not to bore. The beginning is a bit sketchy

> as

> > > this

> > > > problem emerged when I was only 5 years old. My dad left when

I

> > was

> > > > about 4 1/2 years old and according to my mum, my issues with

> > > people

> > > > eating began very soon after. I have 3 older sisters and and

1

> > > > younger. All of a sudden it was unbearable for me to eat with

> my

> > > > family because of the noise they made chewing. In the end, I

> > > confined

> > > > myself to the kitchen while the rest of the family ate in the

> > > dining

> > > > room. They couldn't understand it so my mum took me to a

child

> > > > psycologist, not that it did any good. Her solution was a

> > cleaning

> > > > rota for the family!!!

> > > >

> > > > The problem grew increasingly worse especially where my

younger

> > > > sister is concerned and I cannot stand the sound of people

> > eating,

> > > > chewing gum, breathing heavily, snoring (ironic as I also

> snore),

> > > > swallowing loudly and animals licking themselves. There are

> > > probably

> > > > more that at this moment I can't think of. I would stick my

> > fingers

> > > > in my ears so as not to hear them and became quite good at

> doing

> > > > things with one hand as one finger would be in my ear and I

> would

> > > > lower my head to my shoulder so as to cover the other ear. As

I

> > got

> > > > older it became apparant that I couldn't do that without

being

> > > > interrogated by people who wondered what on earth I was

doing.

> > Over

> > > > the years I have tried to become more tolerant or not so

> obvious

> > > but

> > > > there are certain people I cannot bear to be around when

> they're

> > > > eating so I try to avoid them as much as possible. Obviously

> this

> > > > problem is interfering and disrupting my life and basically

> > making

> > > me

> > > > miserable. I thought I was a freak of nature as I'd never

come

> > > across

> > > > anybody with the same problem as me. After a bit of

> investigation

> > I

> > > > found out that I suffer from misophonia. Not wanting to self

> > > diagnose

> > > > I am going to try and get counselling in order to improve.

> > > >

> > > > I foolishly thought I had gotten a lot better and decided to

do

> > > > a " good " thing and rescue a dog from my local pound. You can

> > > imagine

> > > > how much I regret doing that as I am now wearing ear plugs at

> > home

> > > > all the time to avoid the frustration of having to put up

with

> > him

> > > > licking himself or smacking his lips. What kills me the most

is

> > > that

> > > > I love animals and have grown so attached to my dog in a

short

> > > space

> > > > of time but I am going out of my mind and no amount of love

for

> > him

> > > > is going to allow me to live " normally " inside my own house

so

> > > today

> > > > I have decided to find a good home for him. I have never

> smacked

> > > him

> > > > or anything but unfortunately his noise is turning me into a

> > > nervous

> > > > wreck and a ball of nerves. This is what has really made me

> think

> > > > that I need some type of therapy to at least relieve this

> problem

> > > > even if it doesn't totally disappear. I am glad to know that

> > there

> > > > are so many others that are going through the same as me, not

> > that

> > > > I'm glad you have the same issues but now I don't feel so

> > isolated

> > > > and feel that these groups can help to deal with this problem.

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

>

>

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Hi ,I'm glad that you have so much support from your friends and family ) That makes a world of a difference.Everyone here understands how painful this condition can be, I feel so fortunate to have you all in my life. Finding this group has been an amazing support and turning point for me.Love,andraTo: Soundsensitivity Sent: Monday, December 29, 2008 4:10:05 AMSubject: Re: My Own Personal Hell

Hi andra,Yes that is exactly how it is. Most of the time I prefer to be left in peace. I am lucky though as my mum and sisters have been sending me articles they have found to try and help me. Years ago when the problem first ocurred (22 years now) nobody really knew what was going on or what could be done to help but now there is more information out there and they're doing what they can which is great. Maybe you're right and my feelings toward him began to change and that's when his noise bothered me. I really couldn't tell you now but it does worry me that I could make somebody's life miserable because of my problem. I never have a problem with intimacy in that respect. That noise does not bother me at all. It's not something I generally talk about as the majority don't understand where I'm coming from but my friends know that I hate to hear others eat etc but they put it down to me

liking good manners. I also don't want people to feel on edge around me or that they have to walk on egg shells. All that does is draw even more attention to it. A couple of very close friends now know about it and have been really understanding which is good.Happy holidays to you too> > > >> > > > My story is rather a long one so I'll try and break it down as > > much > > > > as possible so as not to bore. The beginning

is a bit sketchy > as > > > this > > > > problem emerged when I was only 5 years old. My dad left when I > > was > > > > about 4 1/2 years old and according to my mum, my issues with > > > people > > > > eating began very soon after. I have 3 older sisters and and 1 > > > > younger. All of a sudden it was unbearable for me to eat with > my > > > > family because of the noise they made chewing. In the end, I > > > confined > > > > myself to the kitchen while the rest of the family ate in the > > > dining > > > > room. They couldn't understand it so my mum took me to a child > > > > psycologist, not that it did any good. Her solution was a > > cleaning > > > > rota for the family!!! > > > > >

> > > The problem grew increasingly worse especially where my younger > > > > sister is concerned and I cannot stand the sound of people > > eating, > > > > chewing gum, breathing heavily, snoring (ironic as I also > snore), > > > > swallowing loudly and animals licking themselves. There are > > > probably > > > > more that at this moment I can't think of. I would stick my > > fingers > > > > in my ears so as not to hear them and became quite good at > doing > > > > things with one hand as one finger would be in my ear and I > would > > > > lower my head to my shoulder so as to cover the other ear. As I > > got > > > > older it became apparant that I couldn't do that without being > > > > interrogated by people who wondered what

on earth I was doing. > > Over > > > > the years I have tried to become more tolerant or not so > obvious > > > but > > > > there are certain people I cannot bear to be around when > they're > > > > eating so I try to avoid them as much as possible. Obviously > this > > > > problem is interfering and disrupting my life and basically > > making > > > me > > > > miserable. I thought I was a freak of nature as I'd never come > > > across > > > > anybody with the same problem as me. After a bit of > investigation > > I > > > > found out that I suffer from misophonia. Not wanting to self > > > diagnose > > > > I am going to try and get counselling in order to improve.> > > > > > > > I

foolishly thought I had gotten a lot better and decided to do > > > > a "good" thing and rescue a dog from my local pound. You can > > > imagine > > > > how much I regret doing that as I am now wearing ear plugs at > > home > > > > all the time to avoid the frustration of having to put up with > > him > > > > licking himself or smacking his lips. What kills me the most is > > > that > > > > I love animals and have grown so attached to my dog in a short > > > space > > > > of time but I am going out of my mind and no amount of love for > > him > > > > is going to allow me to live "normally" inside my own house so > > > today > > > > I have decided to find a good home for him. I have never > smacked > > >

him > > > > or anything but unfortunately his noise is turning me into a > > > nervous > > > > wreck and a ball of nerves. This is what has really made me > think > > > > that I need some type of therapy to at least relieve this > problem > > > > even if it doesn't totally disappear. I am glad to know that > > there > > > > are so many others that are going through the same as me, not > > that > > > > I'm glad you have the same issues but now I don't feel so > > isolated > > > > and feel that these groups can help to deal with this problem.> > > >> > >> >> > > > ------------------------------------> > PLEASE BE AWARE THIS IS A STRICTLY CONFIDENTIAL GROUP AND NO MESSAGES ARE TO BE USED FOR ANY PURPOSE

OUTSIDE OF THE YAHOO GROUP MEMBERSHIP SITE OR REPRODUCED OR COPIED AND MAILED FOR ANY PURPOSE. > > ALSO DO NOT SHARE MEMBER EMAIL ADDRESSES OR NAMES WITH ANYONE.> Thank you. MJ