Guest guest Posted November 25, 2008 Report Share Posted November 25, 2008 I am sending along my sincere wishes and hopes for a pleasant holiday time for each of you. Remember to assert yourself gently so that your needs can be met as well as others' needs. Remember that holidays are not just about EATING. Get everyone up and outside and go hiking, biking, skiing, swimming, whatever it takes. Bowling is always popular and wonderfully noisy! Eating should be a minor part of these family events. I find it helps 4S patients to take along some serious hand-work, i.e., knitting, embroidery, crochet, something to busy their hands and eyes. Bring a jigsaw puzzle and set it up on a card table...keep you busy and focused. If possible, invite musical people, play guitar, piano, and sing along to have an enjoyable time with family. With children with 4S, make accomodations easy for them. Set up a tv tray and don't let others pick on them. Plan a meal out somewhere in a noisy place or by a rushing river or waterfall or somewhere that is easier........protect their feelings as you are able, from others. Play charades or pictionary to keep life bubbling along and moving. Borrow a dog and take everyone for a long pre-dinner or after-dinner hike. Wear an iPod and don't explain or apologize. Smile and say, I feel so HAPPY to see you! Put something in your pocket, something special, and when irritated just put your hand in there and feel that special object. This could be a worry stone, a little good luck charm, something that can be used to hold your feelings for this time period. Send those feelings and emotions into that little icon for the moment....promise it that later you will explore those reactions...... Slip a hanky into your pocket that has a big spray of your favorite perfume or cologne and when imperiled, take it out and 'wipe' your nose a little and take a big sniff! Stimulate your other sensory systems to counteract the auditory one. Practice thumb counting. Touch the thumb of your one hand to each finger and count off strings of numbers, i.e, the 7s table, until you come around to the thumb being the 'first one' again. You can try this with 3, 4, and prime numbers, i.e., 11, 13, and so on. This little thumb trick keeps your cognitive part of your brain running and busy and slows down the rising negative reactions. Sometimes. Not always. If you want to, tell a close family member about 4S and that you will need an advocate in case you stand up and flee the scene. That person will say, Ah, you know, that is and we love him! And then move the conversation along in your absence and not allow people to say bad things about you. Have a great holiday and make some GOOD memories, take photos, and focus on the positive side. Warmly, Dr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2008 Report Share Posted November 25, 2008 Some great ideas here. Thank you, Dr . -----Original Message-----From: oregon7@...Sent: Wed, 26 Nov 2008 04:44:36 -0000To: soundsensitivity Subject: Thinking of all of you I am sending along my sincere wishes and hopes for a pleasant holiday time for each of you.Remember to assert yourself gently so that your needs can be met as well as others' needs.Remember that holidays are not just about EATING.Get everyone up and outside and go hiking, biking, skiing, swimming, whatever it takes. Bowling is always popular and wonderfully noisy!Eating should be a minor part of these family events.I find it helps 4S patients to take along some serious hand-work, i.e., knitting, embroidery, crochet, something to busy their hands and eyes. Bring a jigsaw puzzle and set it up on a card table...keep you busy and focused.If possible, invite musical people, play guitar, piano, and sing along to have an enjoyable time with family.With children with 4S, make accomodations easy for them. Set up a tv tray and don't let others pick on them. Plan a meal out somewhere in a noisy place or by a rushing river or waterfall or somewhere that is easier........protect their feelings as you are able, from others.Play charades or pictionary to keep life bubbling along and moving.Borrow a dog and take everyone for a long pre-dinner or after-dinner hike.Wear an iPod and don't explain or apologize. Smile and say, I feel so HAPPY to see you!Put something in your pocket, something special, and when irritated just put your hand in there and feel that special object. This could be a worry stone, a little good luck charm, something that can be used to hold your feelings for this time period. Send those feelings and emotions into that little icon for the moment....promise it that later you will explore those reactions......Slip a hanky into your pocket that has a big spray of your favorite perfume or cologne and when imperiled, take it out and 'wipe' your nose a little and take a big sniff! Stimulate your other sensory systems to counteract the auditory one.Practice thumb counting. Touch the thumb of your one hand to each finger and count off strings of numbers, i.e, the 7s table, until you come around to the thumb being the 'first one' again. You can try this with 3, 4, and prime numbers, i.e., 11, 13, and so on. This little thumb trick keeps your cognitive part of your brain running and busy and slows down the rising negative reactions. Sometimes. Not always.If you want to, tell a close family member about 4S and that you will need an advocate in case you stand up and flee the scene. That person will say, Ah, you know, that is and we love him! And then move the conversation along in your absence and not allow people to say bad things about you.Have a great holiday and make some GOOD memories, take photos, and focus on the positive side.Warmly, Dr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2008 Report Share Posted November 25, 2008 Thanks Dr. !! Great ideas. I especially like the one about keeping your favorite scent on a hanky in your pocket. Lavender seems to calm my nerves a bit and I use it in the bathtub. I'm going to try this one! Hope your holiday's are pleasant! > > I am sending along my sincere wishes and hopes for a pleasant holiday > time for each of you. > > Remember to assert yourself gently so that your needs can be met as > well as others' needs. > > Remember that holidays are not just about EATING. > > Get everyone up and outside and go hiking, biking, skiing, swimming, > whatever it takes. Bowling is always popular and wonderfully noisy! > > Eating should be a minor part of these family events. > > I find it helps 4S patients to take along some serious hand-work, i.e., > knitting, embroidery, crochet, something to busy their hands and eyes. > > Bring a jigsaw puzzle and set it up on a card table...keep you busy and > focused. > > If possible, invite musical people, play guitar, piano, and sing along > to have an enjoyable time with family. > > With children with 4S, make accomodations easy for them. Set up a tv > tray and don't let others pick on them. Plan a meal out somewhere in a > noisy place or by a rushing river or waterfall or somewhere that is > easier........protect their feelings as you are able, from others. > > Play charades or pictionary to keep life bubbling along and moving. > > Borrow a dog and take everyone for a long pre-dinner or after- dinner > hike. > > Wear an iPod and don't explain or apologize. Smile and say, I feel so > HAPPY to see you! > > Put something in your pocket, something special, and when irritated > just put your hand in there and feel that special object. This could > be a worry stone, a little good luck charm, something that can be used > to hold your feelings for this time period. Send those feelings and > emotions into that little icon for the moment....promise it that later > you will explore those reactions...... > > Slip a hanky into your pocket that has a big spray of your favorite > perfume or cologne and when imperiled, take it out and 'wipe' your nose > a little and take a big sniff! Stimulate your other sensory systems to > counteract the auditory one. > > Practice thumb counting. Touch the thumb of your one hand to each > finger and count off strings of numbers, i.e, the 7s table, until you > come around to the thumb being the 'first one' again. You can try this > with 3, 4, and prime numbers, i.e., 11, 13, and so on. This little > thumb trick keeps your cognitive part of your brain running and busy > and slows down the rising negative reactions. Sometimes. Not always. > > If you want to, tell a close family member about 4S and that you will > need an advocate in case you stand up and flee the scene. That person > will say, Ah, you know, that is and we love him! And then move > the conversation along in your absence and not allow people to say bad > things about you. > > Have a great holiday and make some GOOD memories, take photos, and > focus on the positive side. > > Warmly, Dr. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 26, 2008 Report Share Posted November 26, 2008 Just.. Thank you. > > I am sending along my sincere wishes and hopes for a pleasant holiday > time for each of you. > > Remember to assert yourself gently so that your needs can be met as > well as others' needs. > > Remember that holidays are not just about EATING. > > Get everyone up and outside and go hiking, biking, skiing, swimming, > whatever it takes. Bowling is always popular and wonderfully noisy! > > Eating should be a minor part of these family events. > > I find it helps 4S patients to take along some serious hand-work, i.e., > knitting, embroidery, crochet, something to busy their hands and eyes. > > Bring a jigsaw puzzle and set it up on a card table...keep you busy and > focused. > > If possible, invite musical people, play guitar, piano, and sing along > to have an enjoyable time with family. > > With children with 4S, make accomodations easy for them. Set up a tv > tray and don't let others pick on them. Plan a meal out somewhere in a > noisy place or by a rushing river or waterfall or somewhere that is > easier........protect their feelings as you are able, from others. > > Play charades or pictionary to keep life bubbling along and moving. > > Borrow a dog and take everyone for a long pre-dinner or after- dinner > hike. > > Wear an iPod and don't explain or apologize. Smile and say, I feel so > HAPPY to see you! > > Put something in your pocket, something special, and when irritated > just put your hand in there and feel that special object. This could > be a worry stone, a little good luck charm, something that can be used > to hold your feelings for this time period. Send those feelings and > emotions into that little icon for the moment....promise it that later > you will explore those reactions...... > > Slip a hanky into your pocket that has a big spray of your favorite > perfume or cologne and when imperiled, take it out and 'wipe' your nose > a little and take a big sniff! Stimulate your other sensory systems to > counteract the auditory one. > > Practice thumb counting. Touch the thumb of your one hand to each > finger and count off strings of numbers, i.e, the 7s table, until you > come around to the thumb being the 'first one' again. You can try this > with 3, 4, and prime numbers, i.e., 11, 13, and so on. This little > thumb trick keeps your cognitive part of your brain running and busy > and slows down the rising negative reactions. Sometimes. Not always. > > If you want to, tell a close family member about 4S and that you will > need an advocate in case you stand up and flee the scene. That person > will say, Ah, you know, that is and we love him! And then move > the conversation along in your absence and not allow people to say bad > things about you. > > Have a great holiday and make some GOOD memories, take photos, and > focus on the positive side. > > Warmly, Dr. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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