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Hi

My dd is now 11. She still has meltdowns and stims.

Maggie

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older child behaviors

Hi,in your experiences have your children kept or left their

behaviors like stimming,verbal stim,meltdowns ect. as they have grown

up?

Curious,

Tishanne

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Hi Tishanne,

I am 22. My meltdowns used to be worse than they are now (eg. I used to ge

tphysically aggressive sometimes and dont'anymore), but I still have them. I

still stim, but my stims have changed over time. I'm not sure what specific

behavior you're having trouble with, so if you wold elaborate I might be

more specific.

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older child behaviors

Hi,in your experiences have your children kept or left their

behaviors like stimming,verbal stim,meltdowns ect. as they have grown

up?

Curious,

Tishanne

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Hi Tishanne,

Oh headbanging used to be an issue for me too, but that was only a major

issue when I was quite young (till I was six or so). It has come back

somewhat within the last year, though it's a lot better than the stories I

hear from family from when I was young, like my grandma said I used to

headbang when in bed (I used to have a stim that I did in bed where I would

sit in a crawling position and rock back and forth, and I'm said to have

headbanged as part of that stim though the crawling/rocking lasted much

longer [till I moved out of my parents' house at 19]). Anyway, can you have

yoru son wear a cap as a safety measure? I never wore one and didn't ever

get injured (that I know of) while headbanging, but you could take the

precaution.

As for siblings, I do have one sister (two years younger and non-disabled).

We are not currently close (she's at college in a city three hours away from

my hospital and I'll see her tonight for the first time in over three

months), but we used to be when still living with our parents. I did often

have meltdowns over thigns she did, eg. singing, humming, etc., or when we

had an argument (but I don't know where normal sibling rivalry ends and

autism issues start). I also used to be teased by my sister and her friends

when she had friends over, and this caused meltdowns (which obviously only

agravated the teasing). Remember I was undiagnosed, my family don't accept

my diagnosis and even till today the attitude is " if you don't want to be

teased then just stop behaving abnormally " .

Oh, thanks for the compliment on my writing. :) As for the housing stuff I

have two interviews scheduled next week. One agency, I applied four months

ago, but this agency is known for calling people for interviews after

several months only *then* putting them on waiting lists. The othe ragency I

found out about two weeks ago and they're like " oh great come with all your

paperwork so we can arrange thiggs quickly " . I like that but my social

worker doesn't...and my boyfriend says he's hoping for long waiting lists as

it means we can be close to each other for long time. (He lives in a twon

five miles from me now and both agencies I'll have hte interviews with are

over an hour away from him. The reason is that my social worker believes I

should move closer to my parents [who will move 100 miles away from where

they live now in a year or two] rather than stay in my current city/area.)

Astrid

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> Hi,in your experiences have your children kept or left their

> behaviors like stimming,verbal stim,meltdowns ect. as they have

grown

> up?

> Curious,

> Tishanne

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Hi Astrid,my older son used to head bang while on his bead. I put a

thick foam covered with vinyl and supported by plywood against his

wall. It was one of his safer stims that way. My younger son uses

everthing to bang on,safety cap probally his best choice. All my

children with autism rock,posture and stim in various ways. Mostly if

they are upset. You really hit the target with your words about your

sibling having company. Did you have company or friends of your own?.

Thats one of our biggest challenges now. I didnt equip my kids well

enough in some ways because I didnt allow negative words in our home.

When ever they hear someone talking in this type of way,teasing or

using words like dumb,stupid or retard they really meltdown. Its

really caused trouble with meltdowns at school too. Some teens told

them being autistic means your gay,boy they were upset for days. I am

always looking for ways to help them handle social situations. I hope

you can get the best housing situation and it will be full of happy

memories. Do your parents want you to be close to home? I think your

boyfriend and you being close is good. How did your sister do with

chores and things while home? My younger sister would always get the

keys,lol because my mom and she were always closer. I hated that

because I was the oldest. If your parents do not accept autism what

do they accept? I think regardless of what your diagnoses is you have

really wrote your potential to be an outstanding writer. I hope you

become published someday. Your story is an inspiration packed with

knowledge. You have much to offer in all areas. I hope you have a

wonderful visit with your sister. Would you share some advice about

early or easily learned basic skills,methods that really help. Did

you always have language?

Best wishes,

Tishanne

In AutismBehaviorProblems , " Astrid "

wrote:

>

> Hi Tishanne,

> Oh headbanging used to be an issue for me too, but that was only a

major

> issue when I was quite young (till I was six or so). It has come

back

> somewhat within the last year, though it's a lot better than the

stories I

> hear from family from when I was young, like my grandma said I used

to

> headbang when in bed (I used to have a stim that I did in bed where

I would

> sit in a crawling position and rock back and forth, and I'm said to

have

> headbanged as part of that stim though the crawling/rocking lasted

much

> longer [till I moved out of my parents' house at 19]). Anyway, can

you have

> yoru son wear a cap as a safety measure? I never wore one and

didn't ever

> get injured (that I know of) while headbanging, but you could take

the

> precaution.

>

> As for siblings, I do have one sister (two years younger and non-

disabled).

> We are not currently close (she's at college in a city three hours

away from

> my hospital and I'll see her tonight for the first time in over

three

> months), but we used to be when still living with our parents. I

did often

> have meltdowns over thigns she did, eg. singing, humming, etc., or

when we

> had an argument (but I don't know where normal sibling rivalry ends

and

> autism issues start). I also used to be teased by my sister and her

friends

> when she had friends over, and this caused meltdowns (which

obviously only

> agravated the teasing). Remember I was undiagnosed, my family don't

accept

> my diagnosis and even till today the attitude is " if you don't want

to be

> teased then just stop behaving abnormally " .

>

> Oh, thanks for the compliment on my writing. :) As for the housing

stuff I

> have two interviews scheduled next week. One agency, I applied four

months

> ago, but this agency is known for calling people for interviews

after

> several months only *then* putting them on waiting lists. The othe

ragency I

> found out about two weeks ago and they're like " oh great come with

all your

> paperwork so we can arrange thiggs quickly " . I like that but my

social

> worker doesn't...and my boyfriend says he's hoping for long waiting

lists as

> it means we can be close to each other for long time. (He lives in

a twon

> five miles from me now and both agencies I'll have hte interviews

with are

> over an hour away from him. The reason is that my social worker

believes I

> should move closer to my parents [who will move 100 miles away from

where

> they live now in a year or two] rather than stay in my current city/

area.)

> Astrid

> astrid@...

> http://www.astridvanwoerkom.com/

> older child behaviors

> >

> >

> > Hi,in your experiences have your children kept or left their

> > behaviors like stimming,verbal stim,meltdowns ect. as they have

> grown

> > up?

> > Curious,

> > Tishanne

> >

> >

> >

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> > http://www.spambrave.com/

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