RE: School demanding child be sent home early for insignificant health issues

[Guest guest]

Thanks for everyone's insight...I know that the school is trying to

get out of educating my child. I'm just trying to determine the best

way to handle it. So far I'm just documenting...but I know I need to

talk/write a letter to the appropriate individuals, I'm just trying

to get as much information about how others have handled it (or would

handle it) as I can.

Thanks!

>

> I need some advice from the more experienced autism parents out

there.

>

> I have been having difficulties with my 9 yr old autistic ( & MR)

son's

> school. My son does not have any major medical issues, however,

the

> school has called me nearly once a week for the past month or so

> wanting me to pick him up from school for insignificant health

problems.

>

> It started with a bloody nose...the nose stopped bleeding in less

than

> ten minutes. He had approximately 6 blood drops no larger than a

> quarter in size on his shirt. The school demanded that he be

picked up

> immediately from school...he was not allowed to ride the bus home.

> Even though he had a change of clothes at school and there is a

washing

> machine in the bathroom attached to the classroom.

>

> The next incident was a diaper rash. My son is not potty-trained,

so

> naturally he gets diaper rashes every now and then. He had a mild

> diaper rash - no bleeding, but he kept putting his hands in his

pants

> to scratch/rub the rash...the school didn't think this was

appropriate

> behavior as it was dirty and wanted me to pick him up from school.

> When I refused they had a nurse from a neighboring campus (our

nurse

> was out sick) come to the campus to look at my son and then call

and

> lecture me on the appropriate ways to treat a diaper rash.

>

> Today the school called me at 1:55p (school gets out at 3p) and

told me

> that he had a rash on his stomach that the nurse believed was

> contagious and was spreading. They told me that I needed to pick

him

> up immediately and that he would not be allowed back at school

without

> a doctor's note. I advised the teacher that I was approximately 45

> minutes from the school and asked if he could still ride the bus

home

> becuase he reacts very violently to changes in his routine. I was

told

> this was absolutely not possible...so I arrived at the school about

10

> minutes before the normal release time. His " rash " was a small

area

> about two inches in diameter that had scratch marks from him

itching.

> The area that it was spreading to was red...just like when you get

out

> of a warm shower....nothing big at all! I took him to the doctor,

who

> of course said that it was not infectious...he just came into

contact

> with an irritant and he was obsessed with scratching it (as he does

> with everything).

>

> So what do I do now? I'm going to visit/write a letter to the

> principal, but I basically need information to back me up. I am

having

> to leave work early almost on a weekly basis because of the

ridiculous

> claims. I seriously thought the school was going to call CPS on me

> because of the diaper rash issue!

>

> Any advise would be greatly appreciated!!!

>

[Guest guest]

Those school nurses are the WORST!!! Last year, my son had an asthma attack. The nurse sent me a nasty e-mail telling me that I needed to start giving him his breathing treatments BEFORE he came to school.

I told her in my reply that my son has AUTISM and he gets very upset in the mornings. They would not let me walk him in so I was forced to let him ride the daycare bus. Some mornings, he would be very upset and crying therefore causing an asthma attack. Let me say she got involved in issues that she had no business, like my son's behavior in the classroom, etc....

If I were you I would go straight to the principal. Enough is enough.

Subject: Re: School demanding child be sent home early for insignificant health "issues"To: Texas-Autism-Advocacy Date: Wednesday, December 10, 2008, 11:45 AM

Thanks for everyone's insight...I know that the school is trying to get out of educating my child. I'm just trying to determine the best way to handle it. So far I'm just documenting. ..but I know I need to talk/write a letter to the appropriate individuals, I'm just trying to get as much information about how others have handled it (or would handle it) as I can.Thanks!>> I need some advice from the more experienced autism parents out there. > > I have been having difficulties with my 9 yr old autistic ( & MR) son's > school. My son does not have any major medical issues, however, the > school has called me nearly once a week for the past month or so > wanting me to pick him up

from school for insignificant health problems.> > It started with a bloody nose...the nose stopped bleeding in less than > ten minutes. He had approximately 6 blood drops no larger than a > quarter in size on his shirt. The school demanded that he be picked up > immediately from school...he was not allowed to ride the bus home. > Even though he had a change of clothes at school and there is a washing > machine in the bathroom attached to the classroom.> > The next incident was a diaper rash. My son is not potty-trained, so > naturally he gets diaper rashes every now and then. He had a mild > diaper rash - no bleeding, but he kept putting his hands in his pants > to scratch/rub the rash...the school didn't think this was appropriate > behavior as it was dirty and wanted me to pick him up from school. > When I refused they had a

nurse from a neighboring campus (our nurse > was out sick) come to the campus to look at my son and then call and > lecture me on the appropriate ways to treat a diaper rash.> > Today the school called me at 1:55p (school gets out at 3p) and told me > that he had a rash on his stomach that the nurse believed was > contagious and was spreading. They told me that I needed to pick him > up immediately and that he would not be allowed back at school without > a doctor's note. I advised the teacher that I was approximately 45 > minutes from the school and asked if he could still ride the bus home > becuase he reacts very violently to changes in his routine. I was told > this was absolutely not possible...so I arrived at the school about 10 > minutes before the normal release time. His "rash" was a small area > about two inches in

diameter that had scratch marks from him itching. > The area that it was spreading to was red...just like when you get out > of a warm shower....nothing big at all! I took him to the doctor, who > of course said that it was not infectious.. .he just came into contact > with an irritant and he was obsessed with scratching it (as he does > with everything).> > So what do I do now? I'm going to visit/write a letter to the > principal, but I basically need information to back me up. I am having > to leave work early almost on a weekly basis because of the ridiculous > claims. I seriously thought the school was going to call CPS on me > because of the diaper rash issue!> > Any advise would be greatly appreciated! !!>

[Guest guest]

Boy, we think alike! I told our school that I was going to

have all the office calls billed to them. Also told them if they wanted

him picked up early (for behavior) to suspend him and put it on the record,

which they did. It was good though, Advocacy, Inc. staffed us after that

one.

Tonya

From:

Texas-Autism-Advocacy

[mailto:Texas-Autism-Advocacy ] On Behalf Of M.

Guppy

Sent: Wednesday, December 10, 2008 11:40 AM

To: Texas-Autism-Advocacy

Subject: Re: School demanding child be sent home

early for insignificant health " issues "

You know their agenda! Get out of educating

the child!

I went through that with

-- finally I just had an ARD meeting and said that if there were so

many health issues that they felt the need to send him home for - then maybe

we should ARD in a private nurse for him....

M. Guppy

My

autism journey isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about

learning to dance in the rain....

Texas Autism Advocacy: www.TexasAutismAdvocacy.org

" There are some aspects of a person's life that we have

no right to compromise. We cannot negotiate the size of an

institution. No one should live in one. We cannot debate who

should get an inclusive education. Everyone should. We cannot

determine who does and who does not get the right to make their own choices

and forge their own futures. All must. "

From: kpolaski <kpolaskiyahoo (DOT) com>

Subject: [Texas-Autism- Advocacy] School demanding child be sent home

early for insignificant health " issues "

To: Texas-Autism- Advocacy@ yahoogroups. com

Date: Tuesday, December 9, 2008, 7:51 PM

I need some advice from the more experienced autism

parents out there.

I have been having difficulties with my 9 yr old autistic ( & MR)

son's

school. My son does not have any major medical issues, however, the

school has called me nearly once a week for the past month or so

wanting me to pick him up from school for insignificant health problems.

It started with a bloody nose...the nose stopped bleeding in less than

ten minutes. He had approximately 6 blood drops no larger than a

quarter in size on his shirt. The school demanded that he be picked up

immediately from school...he was not allowed to ride the bus home.

Even though he had a change of clothes at school and there is a washing

machine in the bathroom attached to the classroom.

The next incident was a diaper rash. My son is not potty-trained, so

naturally he gets diaper rashes every now and then. He had a mild

diaper rash - no bleeding, but he kept putting his hands in his pants

to scratch/rub the rash...the school didn't think this was appropriate

behavior as it was dirty and wanted me to pick him up from school.

When I refused they had a nurse from a neighboring campus (our nurse

was out sick) come to the campus to look at my son and then call and

lecture me on the appropriate ways to treat a diaper rash.

Today the school called me at 1:55p (school gets out at 3p) and told me

that he had a rash on his stomach that the nurse believed was

contagious and was spreading. They told me that I needed to pick him

up immediately and that he would not be allowed back at school without

a doctor's note. I advised the teacher that I was approximately 45

minutes from the school and asked if he could still ride the bus home

becuase he reacts very violently to changes in his routine. I was told

this was absolutely not possible...so I arrived at the school about 10

minutes before the normal release time. His " rash " was a small

area

about two inches in diameter that had scratch marks from him itching.

The area that it was spreading to was red...just like when you get out

of a warm shower....nothing big at all! I took him to the doctor, who

of course said that it was not infectious.. .he just came into contact

with an irritant and he was obsessed with scratching it (as he does

with everything).

So what do I do now? I'm going to visit/write a letter to the

principal, but I basically need information to back me up. I am having

to leave work early almost on a weekly basis because of the ridiculous

claims. I seriously thought the school was going to call CPS on me

because of the diaper rash issue!

Any advise would be greatly appreciated! !!