Re: Question/need and want opinions

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Hi Stacie,

I had similar experiences with home therapists over the years with . You can't help but become close and you really need and trust their input. I have had it both ways therapists that have lasted for years and then when they left that was it. I missed them and missed them but there was nothing we could do. Some therapists have remained close and some even came to visit in the hospital when Paige was born and visit us frequently at our house. It really depends on them. I think it is really good to be close to the people working with our children- the more they understand you and the more you know about them the better you can work together for . Its a risk that I feel I need to take but I do go into it knowing that they may walk away at anytime and thats ok. Some people are meant to pass through our lives and the door always opens for the next person who will bring some new and

exciting ideas and insights into our world. It sounds like this new teacher may be the new and exciting part. I hope she is! Kellie

Subject: Question/need and want opinionsTo: AutismBehaviorProblems Date: Tuesday, October 7, 2008, 7:33 PM

Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it is ok for a teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I feel this happening again with s diagnostic K for Autism teacher and I am nervous and the reason being I have been burned before by his teacher le that was his teacher in the special school he went to in preschool! It was a special school all the way through high school! She was not his teacher last year like she was suppose to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close and talked at least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit her sister who lives in the town over for me and was here for s birthday to see us and went to visit everyone at the school and seen there too! When she left I never heard from her again and it devastated me! It still does! It was a rocky time for us with her! She basically came in when I was at my witts end and after that first day was so much

better! He was great for her, would listen to her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I walked in! She had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home number! Then she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year from her! When she was going to move the kids and I went to see her at her house to say goodbye to her a couple days before they were leaving! When I talked to her on the phone before she left she said as she has many times that was meant to be in her class, we would always be a part of her life etc and I said well people say that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way! She said I am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from 4 years ago and that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am feeling that sort of bond starting and I could see us being friends but I don't know how to take it! Teachers of children with special needs are a lot different and a lot more involved and

close to the family ya know? It is different! Anyhow, I have talked to his teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and she told me that really helps for her to understand things and where I am coming from and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her this a couple weeks ago! And said that is why when I email you or call you I always say sorry for bothering you etc and she said well you don't have to put that at the bottom of your emails anymore and if I did not mean you can call me antime I would not of given you my cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having someone like her as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to have her around and she said this once because when we found out for sure had full blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning and so sad! She was going to just come over after school so we could talk and then later that day told me she just found out she can't do home visits

ubless someone comes with her and nobody was available that day! We talked later that day and she said she thought it was unnessary and that even if she came on her own time she is sure there is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it would be really good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I don't know! I am just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get to close!StacieSent via BlackBerry by AT & T

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Kellie! I will respond more later because I have to go and get the girls from school! Thanks though! My thoughts exactly! And le did a number on me and that hurts to this day!StacieSent via BlackBerry by AT&TDate: Tue, 7 Oct 2008 13:01:49 -0700 (PDT)To: <AutismBehaviorProblems >Subject: Re: Question/need and want opinions Hi Stacie, I had similar experiences with home therapists over the years with . You can't help but become close and you really need and trust their input. I have had it both ways therapists that have lasted for years and then when they left that was it. I missed them and missed them but there was nothing we could do. Some therapists have remained close and some even came to visit in the hospital when Paige was born and visit us frequently at our house. It really depends on them. I think it is really good to be close to the people working with our children- the more they understand you and the more you know about them the better you can work together for . Its a risk that I feel I need to take but I do go into it knowing that they may walk away at anytime and thats ok. Some people are meant to pass through our lives and the door always opens for the next person who will bring some new and exciting ideas and insights into our world. It sounds like this new teacher may be the new and exciting part. I hope she is! KellieFrom: stacie <hawkie6aol>Subject: Question/need and want opinionsTo: AutismBehaviorProblems Date: Tuesday, October 7, 2008, 7:33 PMHello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it is ok for a teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I feel this happening again with s diagnostic K for Autism teacher and I am nervous and the reason being I have been burned before by his teacher le that was his teacher in the special school he went to in preschool! It was a special school all the way through high school! She was not his teacher last year like she was suppose to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close and talked at least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit her sister who lives in the town over for me and was here for s birthday to see us and went to visit everyone at the school and seen there too! When she left I never heard from her again and it devastated me! It still does! It was a rocky time for us with her! She basically came in when I was at my witts end and after that first day was so much better! He was great for her, would listen to her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I walked in! She had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home number! Then she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year from her! When she was going to move the kids and I went to see her at her house to say goodbye to her a couple days before they were leaving! When I talked to her on the phone before she left she said as she has many times that was meant to be in her class, we would always be a part of her life etc and I said well people say that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way! She said I am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from 4 years ago and that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am feeling that sort of bond starting and I could see us being friends but I don't know how to take it! Teachers of children with special needs are a lot different and a lot more involved and close to the family ya know? It is different! Anyhow, I have talked to his teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and she told me that really helps for her to understand things and where I am coming from and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her this a couple weeks ago! And said that is why when I email you or call you I always say sorry for bothering you etc and she said well you don't have to put that at the bottom of your emails anymore and if I did not mean you can call me antime I would not of given you my cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having someone like her as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to have her around and she said this once because when we found out for sure had full blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning and so sad! She was going to just come over after school so we could talk and then later that day told me she just found out she can't do home visits ubless someone comes with her and nobody was available that day! We talked later that day and she said she thought it was unnessary and that even if she came on her own time she is sure there is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it would be really good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I don't know! I am just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get to close!StacieSent via BlackBerry by AT & T

[Guest guest]

Hi Stacie,I think its a good thing to have friendships in every area

and walk of life. It does get tricky in the situation your

describing. I used to work in ecap and I still miss all the wonderful

teachers,children and families. We no longer keep in touch. The

memories are precious to me. While I was a care giver I felt very

bonded to the people,families I met,I feel that way even when apart.

I have friends that are professionals in almost every field.

Sometimes boundaries,energy and resources are the reasons people

limit close friendships. There are rules for some pro's and sometimes

breaking those rules for friendships with client,families or person

puts them at risk in their work. Some guidelines,laws are very

strict,enforced. It also sounds like you are seeking to share and

learn from them. Have you considered being a class aide a couple

hours a week? It would give you some teacher- student time and a

friendship inside the limitations or boundaries. I hope you continue

to meet many friends. Inside and outside of school. Autism is a life

of learning,friendships and hope. My best wishes to you in all that

you do.

Tishanne

-- In AutismBehaviorProblems , " stacie "

wrote:

>

> Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it is

ok for a teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I

feel this happening again with s diagnostic K for Autism teacher

and I am nervous and the reason being I have been burned before by

his teacher le that was his teacher in the special school he

went to in preschool! It was a special school all the way through

high school! She was not his teacher last year like she was suppose

to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close and talked

at least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit her

sister who lives in the town over for me and was here for s

birthday to see us and went to visit everyone at the school and seen

there too! When she left I never heard from her again and it

devastated me! It still does! It was a rocky time for us with her!

She basically came in when I was at my witts end and after that first

day was so much better! He was great for her, would listen to

her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I walked in! She

had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home

number! Then she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year

from her! When she was going to move the kids and I went to see her

at her house to say goodbye to her a couple days before they were

leaving! When I talked to her on the phone before she left she said

as she has many times that was meant to be in her class, we

would always be a part of her life etc and I said well people say

that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way! She

said I am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from 4

years ago and that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am

feeling that sort of bond starting and I could see us being friends

but I don't know how to take it! Teachers of children with special

needs are a lot different and a lot more involved and close to the

family ya know? It is different! Anyhow, I have talked to his

teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and she told

me that really helps for her to understand things and where I am

coming from and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her

this a couple weeks ago! And said that is why when I email you or

call you I always say sorry for bothering you etc and she said well

you don't have to put that at the bottom of your emails anymore and

if I did not mean you can call me antime I would not of given you my

cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having someone like her

as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to have

her around and she said this once because when we found out for sure

had full blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning

and so sad! She was going to just come over after school so we could

talk and then later that day told me she just found out she can't do

home visits ubless someone comes with her and nobody was available

that day! We talked later that day and she said she thought it was

unnessary and that even if she came on her own time she is sure there

is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it would be really

good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I don't

know! I am just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get to

close!

> Stacie

> Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

>

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Well, did you read my other posts? It is happening all over again. She is still thre for me, but in a friendly teacher/parent way. She was getting uncomfortable. We have been emailing back and forth all night and I feel terrible and so does she and it is like a wound that has been slowly closing just opened right back up and had salt poured into it. I am hurting bad. I wanted her for a friend too and you know, she did not mean to give me the wrong idea. I do know this, but damn she did and I dont understand why this happens with s teachers and twice now. I blame my self.

Stacie

Hi Stacie,

I had similar experiences with home therapists over the years with . You can't help but become close and you really need and trust their input. I have had it both ways therapists that have lasted for years and then when they left that was it. I missed them and missed them but there was nothing we could do. Some therapists have remained close and some even came to visit in the hospital when Paige was born and visit us frequently at our house. It really depends on them. I think it is really good to be close to the people working with our children- the more they understand you and the more you know about them the better you can work together for . Its a risk that I feel I need to take but I do go into it knowing that they may walk away at anytime and thats ok. Some people are meant to pass through our lives and the door always opens for the next person who will bring some new and exciting ideas and insights into our world. It sounds like this new teacher may be the new and exciting part. I hope she is! Kellie

From: stacie <hawkie6aol>Subject: Question/need and want opinionsTo: AutismBehaviorProblems Date: Tuesday, October 7, 2008, 7:33 PM

Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it is ok for a teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I feel this happening again with s diagnostic K for Autism teacher and I am nervous and the reason being I have been burned before by his teacher le that was his teacher in the special school he went to in preschool! It was a special school all the way through high school! She was not his teacher last year like she was suppose to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close and talked at least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit her sister who lives in the town over for me and was here for s birthday to see us and went to visit everyone at the school and seen there too! When she left I never heard from her again and it devastated me! It still does! It was a rocky time for us with her! She basically came in when I was at my witts end and after that first day was so much better! He was great for her, would listen to her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I walked in! She had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home number! Then she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year from her! When she was going to move the kids and I went to see her at her house to say goodbye to her a couple days before they were leaving! When I talked to her on the phone before she left she said as she has many times that was meant to be in her class, we would always be a part of her life etc and I said well people say that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way! She said I am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from 4 years ago and that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am feeling that sort of bond starting and I could see us being friends but I don't know how to take it! Teachers of children with special needs are a lot different and a lot more involved and close to the family ya know? It is different! Anyhow, I have talked to his teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and she told me that really helps for her to understand things and where I am coming from and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her this a couple weeks ago! And said that is why when I email you or call you I always say sorry for bothering you etc and she said well you don't have to put that at the bottom of your emails anymore and if I did not mean you can call me antime I would not of given you my cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having someone like her as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to have her around and she said this once because when we found out for sure had full blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning and so sad! She was going to just come over after school so we could talk and then later that day told me she just found out she can't do home visits ubless someone comes with her and nobody was available that day! We talked later that day and she said she thought it was unnessary and that even if she came on her own time she is sure there is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it would be really good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I don't know! I am just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get to close!StacieSent via BlackBerry by AT & T New MapQuest Local shows what's happening at your destination. Dining, Movies, Events, News more. Try it out!

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Stacie,just a thought,could you be feeling the best way to feel or

see or be a part of the progress and gains is making is through

his teachers and their friendship? Its another way of

confirming,sharing your best hopes. I think its natural to gravitate

towards his progress,its a part of human nature.

Thinking of you,

Tishanne

- In AutismBehaviorProblems , hawkie6@... wrote:

>

> Well, did you read my other posts? It is happening all over

again. She is

> still thre for me, but in a friendly teacher/parent way. She was

getting

> uncomfortable. We have been emailing back and forth all night and

I feel

> terrible and so does she and it is like a wound that has been

slowly closing just

> opened right back up and had salt poured into it. I am hurting

bad. I wanted

> her for a friend too and you know, she did not mean to give me the

wrong

> idea. I do know this, but damn she did and I dont understand why

this happens

> with s teachers and twice now. I blame my self.

> Stacie

>

>

> In a message dated 10/7/2008 1:02:18 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time,

> kelliefolkerts@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> Hi Stacie,

> I had similar experiences with home therapists over the years

with .

> You can't help but become close and you really need and trust

their input. I

> have had it both ways therapists that have lasted for years and

then when

> they left that was it. I missed them and missed them but

there was nothing

> we could do. Some therapists have remained close and some even

came to

> visit in the hospital when Paige was born and visit us frequently

at our house.

> It really depends on them. I think it is really good to be close

to the

> people working with our children- the more they understand you and

the more you

> know about them the better you can work together for . Its a

risk that I

> feel I need to take but I do go into it knowing that they may walk

away at

> anytime and thats ok. Some people are meant to pass through our

lives and the

> door always opens for the next person who will bring some new and

exciting

> ideas and insights into our world. It sounds like this new

teacher may be the

> new and exciting part. I hope she is! Kellie

>

>

>

>

>

> Subject: Question/need and want opinions

> To: AutismBehaviorProblTo: To:

> Date: Tuesday, October 7, 2008, 7:33 PM

>

>

>

> Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it is

ok for a

> teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I feel this

happening

> again with s diagnostic K for Autism teacher and I am nervous

and the

> reason being I have been burned before by his teacher le

that was his

> teacher in the special school he went to in preschool! It was a

special school all

> the way through high school! She was not his teacher last year

like she was

> suppose to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close

and talked at

> least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit her

sister who

> lives in the town over for me and was here for s birthday to

see us and

> went to visit everyone at the school and seen there too! When

she left

> I never heard from her again and it devastated me! It still does!

It was a

> rocky time for us with her! She basically came in when I was at my

witts end

> and after that first day was so much better! He was great for

her, would

> listen to her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I

walked in! She

> had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home

number! Then

> she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year from her!

When she was

> going to move the kids and I went to see her at her house to say

goodbye to

> her a couple days before they were leaving! When I talked to her

on the phone

> before she left she said as she has many times that was meant

to be in

> her class, we would always be a part of her life etc and I said

well people

> say that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way!

She said I

> am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from 4 years

ago and

> that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am feeling that

sort of bond

> starting and I could see us being friends but I don't know how to

take it!

> Teachers of children with special needs are a lot different and a

lot more

> involved and close to the family ya know? It is different! Anyhow,

I have talked to

> his teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and

she told me

> that really helps for her to understand things and where I am

coming from

> and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her this a couple

weeks ago!

> And said that is why when I email you or call you I always say

sorry for

> bothering you etc and she said well you don't have to put that at

the bottom of

> your emails anymore and if I did not mean you can call me antime I

would not of

> given you my cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having

someone like

> her as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to

have her

> around and she said this once because when we found out for sure

had full

> blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning and so sad!

She was

> going to just come over after school so we could talk and then

later that day

> told me she just found out she can't do home visits ubless someone

comes with

> her and nobody was available that day! We talked later that day

and she said

> she thought it was unnessary and that even if she came on her own

time she is

> sure there is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it

would be

> really good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I

don't know! I am

> just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get to close!

> Stacie

> Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

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Well up until yesterday I have though of asking to come in and voulenteer but I don't know now! I was tring to google articles about parent/teacher friendships but I can't find any that relate! If you run across anything can you please send it to me?Thanks!StacieSent via BlackBerry by AT&TDate: Tue, 07 Oct 2008 20:47:04 -0000To: <AutismBehaviorProblems >Subject: Re: Question/need and want opinions Hi Stacie,I think its a good thing to have friendships in every area and walk of life. It does get tricky in the situation your describing. I used to work in ecap and I still miss all the wonderful teachers,children and families. We no longer keep in touch. The memories are precious to me. While I was a care giver I felt very bonded to the people,families I met,I feel that way even when apart. I have friends that are professionals in almost every field. Sometimes boundaries,energy and resources are the reasons people limit close friendships. There are rules for some pro's and sometimes breaking those rules for friendships with client,families or person puts them at risk in their work. Some guidelines,laws are very strict,enforced. It also sounds like you are seeking to share and learn from them. Have you considered being a class aide a couple hours a week? It would give you some teacher- student time and a friendship inside the limitations or boundaries. I hope you continue to meet many friends. Inside and outside of school. Autism is a life of learning,friendships and hope. My best wishes to you in all that you do. Tishanne -- In AutismBehaviorProblems , " stacie " wrote: > > Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it is ok for a teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I feel this happening again with s diagnostic K for Autism teacher and I am nervous and the reason being I have been burned before by his teacher le that was his teacher in the special school he went to in preschool! It was a special school all the way through high school! She was not his teacher last year like she was suppose to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close and talked at least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit her sister who lives in the town over for me and was here for s birthday to see us and went to visit everyone at the school and seen there too! When she left I never heard from her again and it devastated me! It still does! It was a rocky time for us with her! She basically came in when I was at my witts end and after that first day was so much better! He was great for her, would listen to her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I walked in! She had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home number! Then she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year from her! When she was going to move the kids and I went to see her at her house to say goodbye to her a couple days before they were leaving! When I talked to her on the phone before she left she said as she has many times that was meant to be in her class, we would always be a part of her life etc and I said well people say that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way! She said I am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from 4 years ago and that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am feeling that sort of bond starting and I could see us being friends but I don't know how to take it! Teachers of children with special needs are a lot different and a lot more involved and close to the family ya know? It is different! Anyhow, I have talked to his teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and she told me that really helps for her to understand things and where I am coming from and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her this a couple weeks ago! And said that is why when I email you or call you I always say sorry for bothering you etc and she said well you don't have to put that at the bottom of your emails anymore and if I did not mean you can call me antime I would not of given you my cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having someone like her as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to have her around and she said this once because when we found out for sure had full blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning and so sad! She was going to just come over after school so we could talk and then later that day told me she just found out she can't do home visits ubless someone comes with her and nobody was available that day! We talked later that day and she said she thought it was unnessary and that even if she came on her own time she is sure there is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it would be really good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I don't know! I am just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get to close! > Stacie > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T >

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Some of it, probably! I don't know! I obviouly have a void in my core that needs to be filled with something I need and these 2 women have meant so much to me and still do!StacieSent via BlackBerry by AT&TDate: Wed, 08 Oct 2008 03:25:13 -0000To: <AutismBehaviorProblems >Subject: Re: Question/need and want opinions Stacie,just a thought,could you be feeling the best way to feel or see or be a part of the progress and gains is making is through his teachers and their friendship? Its another way of confirming,sharing your best hopes. I think its natural to gravitate towards his progress,its a part of human nature. Thinking of you, Tishanne - In AutismBehaviorProblems , hawkie6@... wrote: > > Well, did you read my other posts? It is happening all over again. She is > still thre for me, but in a friendly teacher/parent way. She was getting > uncomfortable. We have been emailing back and forth all night and I feel > terrible and so does she and it is like a wound that has been slowly closing just > opened right back up and had salt poured into it. I am hurting bad. I wanted > her for a friend too and you know, she did not mean to give me the wrong > idea. I do know this, but damn she did and I dont understand why this happens > with s teachers and twice now. I blame my self. > Stacie > > > > > > > > Hi Stacie, > I had similar experiences with home therapists over the years with . > You can't help but become close and you really need and trust their input. I > have had it both ways therapists that have lasted for years and then when > they left that was it. I missed them and missed them but there was nothing > we could do. Some therapists have remained close and some even came to > visit in the hospital when Paige was born and visit us frequently at our house. > It really depends on them. I think it is really good to be close to the > people working with our children- the more they understand you and the more you > know about them the better you can work together for . Its a risk that I > feel I need to take but I do go into it knowing that they may walk away at > anytime and thats ok. Some people are meant to pass through our lives and the > door always opens for the next person who will bring some new and exciting > ideas and insights into our world. It sounds like this new teacher may be the > new and exciting part. I hope she is! Kellie > > > > > > Subject: Question/need and want opinions > To: AutismBehaviorProblTo: To: > Date: Tuesday, October 7, 2008, 7:33 PM > > > > Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it is ok for a > teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I feel this happening > again with s diagnostic K for Autism teacher and I am nervous and the > reason being I have been burned before by his teacher le that was his > teacher in the special school he went to in preschool! It was a special school all > the way through high school! She was not his teacher last year like she was > suppose to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close and talked at > least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit her sister who > lives in the town over for me and was here for s birthday to see us and > went to visit everyone at the school and seen there too! When she left > I never heard from her again and it devastated me! It still does! It was a > rocky time for us with her! She basically came in when I was at my witts end > and after that first day was so much better! He was great for her, would > listen to her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I walked in! She > had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home number! Then > she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year from her! When she was > going to move the kids and I went to see her at her house to say goodbye to > her a couple days before they were leaving! When I talked to her on the phone > before she left she said as she has many times that was meant to be in > her class, we would always be a part of her life etc and I said well people > say that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way! She said I > am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from 4 years ago and > that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am feeling that sort of bond > starting and I could see us being friends but I don't know how to take it! > Teachers of children with special needs are a lot different and a lot more > involved and close to the family ya know? It is different! Anyhow, I have talked to > his teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and she told me > that really helps for her to understand things and where I am coming from > and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her this a couple weeks ago! > And said that is why when I email you or call you I always say sorry for > bothering you etc and she said well you don't have to put that at the bottom of > your emails anymore and if I did not mean you can call me antime I would not of > given you my cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having someone like > her as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to have her > around and she said this once because when we found out for sure had full > blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning and so sad! She was > going to just come over after school so we could talk and then later that day > told me she just found out she can't do home visits ubless someone comes with > her and nobody was available that day! We talked later that day and she said > she thought it was unnessary and that even if she came on her own time she is > sure there is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it would be > really good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I don't know! I am > just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get to close! > Stacie > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T > > > > > > > > > > > **************New MapQuest Local shows what's happening at your destination. > Dining, Movies, Events, News & more. Try it out! > (http://local.mapquest.com/?ncid=emlcntnew00000001) >

[Guest guest]

Hi Stacie,here are some guidelines for a good parent/teacher

relationship.

Hugs,

Tishanne

http://school.familyeducation.com/parent-teacher-conferences/parents-

and-teacher/37813.html

-- In AutismBehaviorProblems , " stacie "

wrote:

>

> Well up until yesterday I have though of asking to come in and

voulenteer but I don't know now! I was tring to google articles

about parent/teacher friendships but I can't find any that relate!

If you run across anything can you please send it to me?

> Thanks!

> Stacie

> Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

>

> Re: Question/need and want opinions

>

>

> Hi Stacie,I think its a good thing to have friendships in every

area

> and walk of life. It does get tricky in the situation your

> describing. I used to work in ecap and I still miss all the

wonderful

> teachers,children and families. We no longer keep in touch. The

> memories are precious to me. While I was a care giver I felt very

> bonded to the people,families I met,I feel that way even when

apart.

> I have friends that are professionals in almost every field.

> Sometimes boundaries,energy and resources are the reasons people

> limit close friendships. There are rules for some pro's and

sometimes

> breaking those rules for friendships with client,families or person

> puts them at risk in their work. Some guidelines,laws are very

> strict,enforced. It also sounds like you are seeking to share and

> learn from them. Have you considered being a class aide a couple

> hours a week? It would give you some teacher- student time and a

> friendship inside the limitations or boundaries. I hope you

continue

> to meet many friends. Inside and outside of school. Autism is a

life

> of learning,friendships and hope. My best wishes to you in all that

> you do.

> Tishanne

> -- In AutismBehaviorProblems , " stacie " <hawkie6@>

> wrote:

> >

> > Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it

is

> ok for a teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I

> feel this happening again with s diagnostic K for Autism

teacher

> and I am nervous and the reason being I have been burned before by

> his teacher le that was his teacher in the special school he

> went to in preschool! It was a special school all the way through

> high school! She was not his teacher last year like she was

suppose

> to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close and talked

> at least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit

her

> sister who lives in the town over for me and was here for s

> birthday to see us and went to visit everyone at the school and

seen

> there too! When she left I never heard from her again and it

> devastated me! It still does! It was a rocky time for us with

her!

> She basically came in when I was at my witts end and after that

first

> day was so much better! He was great for her, would listen to

> her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I walked in!

She

> had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home

> number! Then she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year

> from her! When she was going to move the kids and I went to see

her

> at her house to say goodbye to her a couple days before they were

> leaving! When I talked to her on the phone before she left she

said

> as she has many times that was meant to be in her class, we

> would always be a part of her life etc and I said well people say

> that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way! She

> said I am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from

4

> years ago and that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am

> feeling that sort of bond starting and I could see us being friends

> but I don't know how to take it! Teachers of children with special

> needs are a lot different and a lot more involved and close to the

> family ya know? It is different! Anyhow, I have talked to his

> teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and she

told

> me that really helps for her to understand things and where I am

> coming from and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her

> this a couple weeks ago! And said that is why when I email you or

> call you I always say sorry for bothering you etc and she said well

> you don't have to put that at the bottom of your emails anymore and

> if I did not mean you can call me antime I would not of given you

my

> cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having someone like her

> as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to have

> her around and she said this once because when we found out for

sure

> had full blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning

> and so sad! She was going to just come over after school so we

could

> talk and then later that day told me she just found out she can't

do

> home visits ubless someone comes with her and nobody was available

> that day! We talked later that day and she said she thought it was

> unnessary and that even if she came on her own time she is sure

there

> is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it would be

really

> good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I don't

> know! I am just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get

to

> close!

> > Stacie

> > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Stacie,you have to type in the whole link to get the page.

-- In AutismBehaviorProblems ,

" tishannepatterson " wrote:

>

> Hi Stacie,here are some guidelines for a good parent/teacher

> relationship.

> Hugs,

> Tishanne

> http://school.familyeducation.com/parent-teacher-conferences/

parents-

> and-teacher/37813.html

> -- In AutismBehaviorProblems , " stacie " <hawkie6@>

> wrote:

> >

> > Well up until yesterday I have though of asking to come in and

> voulenteer but I don't know now! I was tring to google articles

> about parent/teacher friendships but I can't find any that relate!

> If you run across anything can you please send it to me?

> > Thanks!

> > Stacie

> > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

> >

> > Re: Question/need and want opinions

> >

> >

> > Hi Stacie,I think its a good thing to have friendships in every

> area

> > and walk of life. It does get tricky in the situation your

> > describing. I used to work in ecap and I still miss all the

> wonderful

> > teachers,children and families. We no longer keep in touch. The

> > memories are precious to me. While I was a care giver I felt very

> > bonded to the people,families I met,I feel that way even when

> apart.

> > I have friends that are professionals in almost every field.

> > Sometimes boundaries,energy and resources are the reasons people

> > limit close friendships. There are rules for some pro's and

> sometimes

> > breaking those rules for friendships with client,families or

person

> > puts them at risk in their work. Some guidelines,laws are very

> > strict,enforced. It also sounds like you are seeking to share and

> > learn from them. Have you considered being a class aide a couple

> > hours a week? It would give you some teacher- student time and a

> > friendship inside the limitations or boundaries. I hope you

> continue

> > to meet many friends. Inside and outside of school. Autism is a

> life

> > of learning,friendships and hope. My best wishes to you in all

that

> > you do.

> > Tishanne

> > -- In AutismBehaviorProblems , " stacie " <hawkie6@>

> > wrote:

> > >

> > > Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think

it

> is

> > ok for a teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends?

I

> > feel this happening again with s diagnostic K for Autism

> teacher

> > and I am nervous and the reason being I have been burned before

by

> > his teacher le that was his teacher in the special school

he

> > went to in preschool! It was a special school all the way

through

> > high school! She was not his teacher last year like she was

> suppose

> > to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close and

talked

> > at least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit

> her

> > sister who lives in the town over for me and was here for s

> > birthday to see us and went to visit everyone at the school and

> seen

> > there too! When she left I never heard from her again and

it

> > devastated me! It still does! It was a rocky time for us with

> her!

> > She basically came in when I was at my witts end and after that

> first

> > day was so much better! He was great for her, would listen

to

> > her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I walked in!

> She

> > had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home

> > number! Then she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all

year

> > from her! When she was going to move the kids and I went to see

> her

> > at her house to say goodbye to her a couple days before they were

> > leaving! When I talked to her on the phone before she left she

> said

> > as she has many times that was meant to be in her class, we

> > would always be a part of her life etc and I said well people say

> > that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way!

She

> > said I am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family

from

> 4

> > years ago and that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am

> > feeling that sort of bond starting and I could see us being

friends

> > but I don't know how to take it! Teachers of children with

special

> > needs are a lot different and a lot more involved and close to

the

> > family ya know? It is different! Anyhow, I have talked to his

> > teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and she

> told

> > me that really helps for her to understand things and where I am

> > coming from and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her

> > this a couple weeks ago! And said that is why when I email you

or

> > call you I always say sorry for bothering you etc and she said

well

> > you don't have to put that at the bottom of your emails anymore

and

> > if I did not mean you can call me antime I would not of given you

> my

> > cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having someone like

her

> > as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to

have

> > her around and she said this once because when we found out for

> sure

> > had full blown Autism, I was talking to her that next

morning

> > and so sad! She was going to just come over after school so we

> could

> > talk and then later that day told me she just found out she can't

> do

> > home visits ubless someone comes with her and nobody was

available

> > that day! We talked later that day and she said she thought it

was

> > unnessary and that even if she came on her own time she is sure

> there

> > is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it would be

> really

> > good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I don't

> > know! I am just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get

> to

> > close!

> > > Stacie

> > > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Tishanne,She definitely knows how I feel and that is what really started it all! She said so and she knows that what I want is something she is not able to give! She said anything to help or me with is ok but anything betond that is crossing a line she is not comfortable crossing! But she put that out there for me and like I said I walked through that door! I have lots of friends but not any that really understand what I go through and know what living with Autism is like! I have been thinking about this tonight and e helped me figure it out! I want a mentor/friend! Someone to hold my hand so to speak and be there for me and her and I could be great friends! And I felt that exact same connection with le too right from the start!How do I go about asking to help in the classroom? I mean there are 3 kids a teacher and 3 assistants so why would they need me? I would love to but how do I do about that? I don't know! I haved saved all the emails from beginning to end from last night till today and I just wish you could see them to understand better! It is hard through email to really explain it all! Thanks so much for listening and being there and trying to help! Oh and my husband really does not say to much about it!StacieSent via BlackBerry by AT&TDate: Wed, 08 Oct 2008 15:57:04 -0000To: <AutismBehaviorProblems >Subject: Re: Question/need and want opinions Hi Stacie,have you told the teacher how you really feel? I think you should tell her how you feel. If its insecure,lonely,unsure of yourself,or?. If she knows what you need she will better be able to let you know what she is capable of in her role as s teacher. You feel rejected and sometimes when we have a void we try to fill it with a certain person, word or action or? Do you have mother,mother inlaw or support women in your life or lack of,outside of school? Think about what you really need. Is it really a teacher friend or ? Sometimes a repeat situation is a great clue. Think yourself an outline or write a pros,cons list and review it. You may find an element you missed. Ask your husband for his insight. He knows you and your needs. He may have some good ideas. A void is an icky feeling. If its at your core there is something not resolved. From what you are saying you have alot of hurt an anger. Ask yourself where is that feeling coming from. It may not be in the realm of s teachers and just plays out there. Answers and realizations and loneliness hurt. Please think about it with a few deep breaths. I hope you will still consider helping in s class. Stacie,I hope you find some relief today. Theese past couple of days have been emotional for you. I am still cheering for you,believe in you. Tishanne - In AutismBehaviorProblems , " stacie " wrote: > > Some of it, probably! I don't know! I obviouly have a void in my core that needs to be filled with something I need and these 2 women have meant so much to me and still do! > Stacie > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T > > Question/need and want opinions > > To: AutismBehaviorProblTo: To: > > Date: Tuesday, October 7, 2008, 7:33 PM > > > > > > > > Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it is > ok for a > > teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I feel this > happening > > again with s diagnostic K for Autism teacher and I am nervous > and the > > reason being I have been burned before by his teacher le > that was his > > teacher in the special school he went to in preschool! It was a > special school all > > the way through high school! She was not his teacher last year > like she was > > suppose to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close > and talked at > > least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit her > sister who > > lives in the town over for me and was here for s birthday to > see us and > > went to visit everyone at the school and seen there too! When > she left > > I never heard from her again and it devastated me! It still does! > It was a > > rocky time for us with her! She basically came in when I was at my > witts end > > and after that first day was so much better! He was great for > her, would > > listen to her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I > walked in! She > > had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home > number! Then > > she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year from her! > When she was > > going to move the kids and I went to see her at her house to say > goodbye to > > her a couple days before they were leaving! When I talked to her > on the phone > > before she left she said as she has many times that was meant > to be in > > her class, we would always be a part of her life etc and I said > well people > > say that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way! > She said I > > am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from 4 years > ago and > > that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am feeling that > sort of bond > > starting and I could see us being friends but I don't know how to > take it! > > Teachers of children with special needs are a lot different and a > lot more > > involved and close to the family ya know? It is different! Anyhow, > I have talked to > > his teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and > she told me > > that really helps for her to understand things and where I am > coming from > > and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her this a couple > weeks ago! > > And said that is why when I email you or call you I always say > sorry for > > bothering you etc and she said well you don't have to put that at > the bottom of > > your emails anymore and if I did not mean you can call me antime I > would not of > > given you my cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having > someone like > > her as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to > have her > > around and she said this once because when we found out for sure > had full > > blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning and so sad! > She was > > going to just come over after school so we could talk and then > later that day > > told me she just found out she can't do home visits ubless someone > comes with > > her and nobody was available that day! We talked later that day > and she said > > she thought it was unnessary and that even if she came on her own > time she is > > sure there is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it > would be > > really good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I > don't know! I am > > just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get to close! > > Stacie > > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > **************New MapQuest Local shows what's happening at your > destination. > > Dining, Movies, Events, News & more. Try it out! > > (http://local.mapquest.com/?ncid=emlcntnew00000001) > > >

[Guest guest]

Stacie, there are other support groups in Yahoo, there are many other moms to ASD kids, e. g. you should like to join Aspergers Support?

--- Den tors 2008-10-09 skrev stacie :

Från: stacie Ämne: Re: Question/need and want opinionsTill: AutismBehaviorProblems Datum: torsdag 9 oktober 2008 08.07

Tishanne,She definitely knows how I feel and that is what really started it all! She said so and she knows that what I want is something she is not able to give! She said anything to help or me with is ok but anything betond that is crossing a line she is not comfortable crossing! But she put that out there for me and like I said I walked through that door! I have lots of friends but not any that really understand what I go through and know what living with Autism is like! I have been thinking about this tonight and e helped me figure it out! I want a mentor/friend! Someone to hold my hand so to speak and be there for me and her and I could be great friends! And I felt that exact same connection with le too right from the start!How do I go about asking to help in the classroom? I mean there are 3 kids a teacher and 3 assistants so why would they need me? I would love to but how do I do about that? I don't know! I haved

saved all the emails from beginning to end from last night till today and I just wish you could see them to understand better! It is hard through email to really explain it all! Thanks so much for listening and being there and trying to help! Oh and my husband really does not say to much about it!Stacie

Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

From: "tishannepatterson" <tishannepatterson@ yahoo.com>Date: Wed, 08 Oct 2008 15:57:04 -0000To: <AutismBehaviorProbl emsyahoogroups (DOT) com>Subject: Re: Question/need and want opinions

Hi Stacie,have you told the teacher how you really feel? I think you should tell her how you feel. If its insecure,lonely, unsure of yourself,or? . If she knows what you need she will better be able to let you know what she is capable of in her role as s teacher. You feel rejected and sometimes when we have a void we try to fill it with a certain person, word or action or? Do you have mother,mother inlaw or support women in your life or lack of,outside of school? Think about what you really need. Is it really a teacher friend or ? Sometimes a repeat situation is a great clue. Think yourself an outline or write a pros,cons list and review it. You may find an element you missed. Ask your husband for his insight. He knows you and your needs. He may have some good ideas. A void is an icky feeling. If its at your core there is something not resolved. From what you are saying you have alot of hurt an

anger. Ask yourself where is that feeling coming from. It may not be in the realm of s teachers and just plays out there. Answers and realizations and loneliness hurt. Please think about it with a few deep breaths. I hope you will still consider helping in s class. Stacie,I hope you find some relief today. Theese past couple of days have been emotional for you. I am still cheering for you,believe in you.Tishanne- In AutismBehaviorProbl emsyahoogroups (DOT) com, "stacie" <hawkie6@... > wrote:>> Some of it, probably! I don't know! I obviouly have a void in my core that needs to be filled with something I need and these 2 women have meant so much to me and still do!> Stacie> Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T> > Question/need and want opinions> > To: AutismBehaviorProbl To: To:> > Date: Tuesday, October 7, 2008, 7:33 PM> > > > > > > > Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it is > ok for a > > teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I feel this > happening > >

again with s diagnostic K for Autism teacher and I am nervous > and the > > reason being I have been burned before by his teacher le > that was his > > teacher in the special school he went to in preschool! It was a > special school all > > the way through high school! She was not his teacher last year > like she was > > suppose to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained close > and talked at > > least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit her > sister who > > lives in the town over for me and was here for s birthday to > see us and > > went to visit everyone at the school and seen there too! When > she left > > I never heard from her again and it devastated me! It still does! > It was a > > rocky time for us with her! She basically came in

when I was at my > witts end > > and after that first day was so much better! He was great for > her, would > > listen to her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I > walked in! She > > had given me her home email and her cell number and then her home > number! Then > > she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year from her! > When she was > > going to move the kids and I went to see her at her house to say > goodbye to > > her a couple days before they were leaving! When I talked to her > on the phone > > before she left she said as she has many times that was meant > to be in > > her class, we would always be a part of her life etc and I said > well people > > say that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that way! > She said I >

> am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from 4 years > ago and > > that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am feeling that > sort of bond > > starting and I could see us being friends but I don't know how to > take it! > > Teachers of children with special needs are a lot different and a > lot more > > involved and close to the family ya know? It is different! Anyhow, > I have talked to > > his teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it and > she told me > > that really helps for her to understand things and where I am > coming from > > and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her this a couple > weeks ago! > > And said that is why when I email you or call you I always say > sorry for > > bothering you etc and she said well you don't

have to put that at > the bottom of > > your emails anymore and if I did not mean you can call me antime I > would not of > > given you my cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having > someone like > > her as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for to > have her > > around and she said this once because when we found out for sure > had full > > blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning and so sad! > She was > > going to just come over after school so we could talk and then > later that day > > told me she just found out she can't do home visits ubless someone > comes with > > her and nobody was available that day! We talked later that day > and she said > > she thought it was unnessary and that even if she came on her own > time she is

> > sure there is nothing they could do and she said plus I think it > would be > > really good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I > don't know! I am > > just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get to close!> > Stacie> > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ **New MapQuest Local shows what's happening at your > destination. > > Dining, Movies, Events, News & more. Try it out! > > (http://local. mapquest. com/?ncid= emlcntnew0000000 1)> >>

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[Guest guest]

Hi Stacie,it sounds like you have some clarity. Give yourself plenty

of kindess,good thoughts, while your hurt feelings heal. You can go

forward with confidence now that you know the teachers boundaries. To

volunteer I would start with taking an inventory of your day. How

much time and how often can you contribute. Then I would do the same

with your finances,how much can you afford in gas,meals-expresso or

what ever it takes to commute. Once you know what you can do and how

much time you have then ask the school/class teacher what you can do

to help. For example,twice a week for 1hr I am available. Perhaps you

can volunteer to do safety,supervision or a pumpkin painting

project,story time,snack time. You could also say you would just like

to sit in,observe and ask when that time would be best or allowed.

The list goes on depending on the teachers class needs,times. Another

thing you might consider is placing an add in your local paper.

Something like, mom of 6yr autistic son seeks

friendship,mentor,support to share an afternoon conversation or group

activities with a parent of a child with autism. Or something similar

with your phone or email or both. Choose a very public place to

meet,like a kids burger place or playground as you explore the

friendship. Ask your husband for his ideas. Even if he is the quite

type he has feelings and something to say. Let him know what your

going through and offer his input. Try to remember if this is new and

stressful for you it is for him also. Discuss your ideas with him and

include him and decide together. Some friendships can strain

relationships and homelife and if its already stressful there is not

much buffer zone for your marriage or family or self. Its nice to

know you are getting perspective and sorting things out. You will

find the right friend soon. With a new approach good changes are on

the way. Still cheering for you!

Best wishes,

Tishanne

-- In AutismBehaviorProblems , " stacie "

wrote:

>

> Tishanne,

> She definitely knows how I feel and that is what really started it

all! She said so and she knows that what I want is something she is

not able to give! She said anything to help or me with is

ok but anything betond that is crossing a line she is not comfortable

crossing! But she put that out there for me and like I said I walked

through that door! I have lots of friends but not any that really

understand what I go through and know what living with Autism is

like! I have been thinking about this tonight and e helped me

figure it out! I want a mentor/friend! Someone to hold my hand so

to speak and be there for me and her and I could be great friends!

And I felt that exact same connection with le too right from

the start!

> How do I go about asking to help in the classroom? I mean there

are 3 kids a teacher and 3 assistants so why would they need me? I

would love to but how do I do about that? I don't know! I haved

saved all the emails from beginning to end from last night till today

and I just wish you could see them to understand better! It is hard

through email to really explain it all! Thanks so much for listening

and being there and trying to help! Oh and my husband really does

not say to much about it!

> Stacie

> Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

>

> Question/need and want opinions

> > > To: AutismBehaviorProblTo: To:

> > > Date: Tuesday, October 7, 2008, 7:33 PM

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Hello everyone! I have a question for you all. Do you think it

> is

> > ok for a

> > > teacher and a parent of a sped students to be friends? I feel

> this

> > happening

> > > again with s diagnostic K for Autism teacher and I am

> nervous

> > and the

> > > reason being I have been burned before by his teacher le

> > that was his

> > > teacher in the special school he went to in preschool! It was

a

> > special school all

> > > the way through high school! She was not his teacher last year

> > like she was

> > > suppose to be because she moved to San Diego! We remained

close

> > and talked at

> > > least a couple times every other week! Then she came to visit

> her

> > sister who

> > > lives in the town over for me and was here for s birthday

to

> > see us and

> > > went to visit everyone at the school and seen there too!

> When

> > she left

> > > I never heard from her again and it devastated me! It still

> does!

> > It was a

> > > rocky time for us with her! She basically came in when I was

at

> my

> > witts end

> > > and after that first day was so much better! He was great

> for

> > her, would

> > > listen to her etc! Well she opened the door so to speak and I

> > walked in! She

> > > had given me her home email and her cell number and then her

> home

> > number! Then

> > > she put the wall up and I got mixed signals all year from her!

> > When she was

> > > going to move the kids and I went to see her at her house to

say

> > goodbye to

> > > her a couple days before they were leaving! When I talked to

her

> > on the phone

> > > before she left she said as she has many times that was

> meant

> > to be in

> > > her class, we would always be a part of her life etc and I

said

> > well people

> > > say that all the time and it sometimes does not work out that

> way!

> > She said I

> > > am not like that! I still keep in touch with a family from 4

> years

> > ago and

> > > that was not my ! So with his teacher now I am feeling

that

> > sort of bond

> > > starting and I could see us being friends but I don't know how

> to

> > take it!

> > > Teachers of children with special needs are a lot different

and

> a

> > lot more

> > > involved and close to the family ya know? It is different!

> Anyhow,

> > I have talked to

> > > his teacher about the whole le thing well, most of it

and

> > she told me

> > > that really helps for her to understand things and where I am

> > coming from

> > > and said wow that sounds so frusterating! I told her this a

> couple

> > weeks ago!

> > > And said that is why when I email you or call you I always say

> > sorry for

> > > bothering you etc and she said well you don't have to put that

> at

> > the bottom of

> > > your emails anymore and if I did not mean you can call me

antime

> I

> > would not of

> > > given you my cell number! So I really am feeling lost! Having

> > someone like

> > > her as a friend would be cool and what I need and good for

> to

> > have her

> > > around and she said this once because when we found out for

sure

> > had full

> > > blown Autism, I was talking to her that next morning and so

sad!

> > She was

> > > going to just come over after school so we could talk and then

> > later that day

> > > told me she just found out she can't do home visits ubless

> someone

> > comes with

> > > her and nobody was available that day! We talked later that

day

> > and she said

> > > she thought it was unnessary and that even if she came on her

> own

> > time she is

> > > sure there is nothing they could do and she said plus I think

it

> > would be

> > > really good for ! She has not mentioned it again though! I

> > don't know! I am

> > > just babbling away and wondering why I let myself get to close!

> > > Stacie

> > > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

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