how many

[Guest guest]

how many parents would have kids if they new that autism was so bad,i

know that if i new what i know now i would not had any kids i knw that

this might seem harsh but with so many kids getting it i think i would

have not had any kids.

[Guest guest]

Becky,I have a big family. I would have a big family all over again.

I come from a big family. My little brothers are young teens now.

Delivered by the same doc as a few of my children. I love children.

Autism was new to me once. I did not change my pro life feelings. I

am concerned that many young persons I know are afraid or dont want

children until autism is figured out or cured. They are the people

saying they would not want or handle having an autistic child. I

worry that if they do have an autistic child what they would do. It

may be they choose not to have children or not keep their child. I

wonder how many persons will accept theese children,keep theese

children. All children should have the love of a family. I used to

tell the young people in my life " if you had concert tickets to see

your favorite band and something happened that you had to stay home

with your child,if they could be happy staying at home for their

child for any reason they are getting ready for parenthood. Now when

I ask them about odds of autism,they say no way would they deal with

it or accept it. There is no test. I went to genetic counseling,

testing. I was told the odds of having another autistic child were

slim to none. That was in the 80s. I had one child with autism. Since

then 3 more of my children are diagnosed with autism. They were happy

healthy babies. They are my family. I would do it all agin. I hope

there is a test,cure. Hope is all we have.

Best wishes,

Tishanne

- In AutismBehaviorProblems ,

" becky_for_you " wrote:

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> how many parents would have kids if they new that autism was so

bad,i

> know that if i new what i know now i would not had any kids i knw

that

> this might seem harsh but with so many kids getting it i think i

would

> have not had any kids.

>

[Guest guest]

Kellie,That was such a beautifulpost! I had no idea you lost a child! Oh my gosh! If you don't mind me asking, was it SIDs or something? I am so sorry you had to go through that!StacieSent via BlackBerry by AT&TDate: Tue, 7 Oct 2008 04:09:04 -0700 (PDT)To: <AutismBehaviorProblems >Subject: Re: how many I am so sorry you are feeling this way. None of us asked for this. I know that I had the dream of the normal family and sometimes this struggle seems to much. Speaking as a mother who has lost a child this hits home for me. I would rather have and all that comes with him then to never know his sweet smile and the wonderful child he is inside just like I am grateful to have had my for the 13 wonderful months that I got with her then to have never held her. Being a parent is difficult even with typical kids so when you add the struggles of autism it seems overwhelming a lot of the time. Having has changed me. I see everything from a new set of eyes. If I happen to be out and a kid is tantruming or I see a mother having a really hard time controlling her child I now offer help and a smile (not the usual dirty look). I have also learned not to care what other people think about what is happening when I am out. I know I am a good mother and that I am doing the best for my son and if they don't like how he is acting and I am having trouble controlling him I don't even register their dirty looks or comments anymore. works hard every day to try and be in this world and I will continue to work just as hard to help him. God entrusted to me just like and Paige. He is a gift. kellieFrom: becky_for_you <becky_for_you>Subject: how manyTo: AutismBehaviorProblems Date: Tuesday, October 7, 2008, 12:42 AMhow many parents would have kids if they new that autism was so bad,i know that if i new what i know now i would not had any kids i knw that this might seem harsh but with so many kids getting it i think i would have not had any kids.

[Guest guest]

Hi Becky,I understand what you mean and how stressed out you are. I

am concerned about the children of today and the future children too.

Its true there is alot of children being affected by autism in the

world. I also worry about what our children can not tell us. I wonder

what they are thinking. Diets and supplements help some of the kids.

You are not alone in your ups and downs. What kind of self injury

behaviors are you coping with? How old is your daughter? I am sorry

to hear your husband may leave. Do you have any family,friends near

by or a support person near enough to help you? What state are you

in?

Best wishes,

Tishanne

-- In AutismBehaviorProblems , rebecca burks

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> Tishanne,i didnt mean for waht i said to sound like it did.i just

know that it has been up and down for our family,i know that everyone

know's how i feel and how stress i am, and that we dont understand

alot of things .that he does or when he has 2 or 3 good days that

great but then when he dont have a good day it like a double hit to

us.i love my son and its hard for to see him go thourgh this with out

tell me how he fills or what he thinks, and it just something i wanst

ready for when i had my son. i had never heard of autism but know

that my son has it thats all i hear more and more kids getting it.im

thankful for my son and daughter and i worry about there kids in the

future and i worry about my family kids and my friends kids.i glad to

see the things my son does and glad that people have had all the help

with there kids.and if i knew more then about the gfcf diet and the

supplements then things would have be easy to do.i dont know what the

future

> hold but if things dont get better then my hubby is going to leave

or die one. cause hearing the things he says and thinking what would

i do when that comes and how to i help my son not to hurt himself ,if

it just me and how do i get un stress and not so depress and how do i

help my hubby i have so much things going on in my mind.

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> > how many parents would have kids if they new that autism was so

> bad,i

> > know that if i new what i know now i would not had any kids i knw

> that

> > this might seem harsh but with so many kids getting it i think i

> would

> > have not had any kids.

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