Guest guest Posted August 21, 2008 Report Share Posted August 21, 2008 I didn't do allergy testing at all. I read a book (very quickly) skimming is more like it. Dismissed it as way to drastic. The book is Unraveling the Mystery of AUTISM and PERVASIVE DEVELOPMENTAL DISORDER A Mother's Story of Research and Recovery, by Seroussi. Last year looked on the Feingold website, skimming again. I originally looked at it because it was Halloween and was dreading the hyperactivity from the sugar and candy. It was good. Read it again, (skimming) Tried a few things.Thought I was doing okay. What clinched it was when I decide to take dairy away, and bam it was as if I had a different child, like the sun had come out from beyond the clouds and for one whole day I didn't say to myself...'Lord, help me I don't think I can handle this'! It was as if a light went on. But I still didn't do it all the way, I still thought she can have a little of this, and a little of that. Cross contamination what's that, a little butter won't hurt. I was still in denial. That and I am very hard headed. I want to solve the problem and move on, But this is not a problem, this is my child. Lord, help me. And He is... At a homeschooling conference I was able to talk to a mom who has a son who is in his teens and basically, she was the one who convinced me that I really needed to do it correctly and completely to be able to see a change. I talked to this same mom last year, but my daughter was just newly diagnosed and I think I was still in shock, denial mode. A mourning phase. So 3 weeks ago, I decided to read the book slowly and look at the website more closely and it was just illuminating. I decided to do as they recommend and clean her system for a full 3 months and then introduce little by little to see what are the biggest triggers. So last week she was clean, completely, no wheat, gluten, casein, I mean totally clean and she was so calm. We didn't eat out, basically we were hermits for almost a whole week, other than swim lessons and back home. Then on Thursday, my husband and I took her to swimming lessons and noticed she was acting like she couldn't control herself, attention was all over the place (her swim lessons are one on one). Our hearts sank and we thought maybe we are just kidding ourselves. But I decided to investigate and lo and behold she got ahold of some ice cream we forgot to lock in the freezer...so now we are starting again. Several times this week I let my guard down and she got a hold of some pretzels and the behavior started up again. I don't know how to describe it except my reaction to the behavior is on the verge of despairing, but it coincides exactly with her behavior. She is more relaxed, less meltdowns, attentive..etc. When she is eating the wrong things, she is aggressive, belligerent, obnoxious, rebellious, she taunts and terrorizes the dogs, most of all her oppositional defiance is so constant, it feels like my face is frozen and contorted with trying to control my anger. Her stimming becomes persistent, redirecting gets really hard. It just sucks the joy out of the day. I read a book on the Feingold website that is called "Why can't my child learn". I looked at the description and my daughter fit almost every description. I realized how many times do I have to be convinced. I figure I better do this now it is worth the time and the trouble. At least the 3 months. Maybe I am not articulating it very well but for me...it has hit a nerve. My mother's instinct has been triggered so I am not about to dismiss it. I know it is not for everybody. But I have heard so much about the brain, gut connection for our kids and that they eat practically the same things. How they limit themselves to certain foods. She was so addicted to Pizza, Cheese, breaded chicken, pancakes. All the same types of foods. she will do anything to get ahold of anything with sugar. It is like a crack addiction. You have to go cold turkey, a little bit of crack here and there is not a good idea...you get the picture. I have even heard of kids being so addicted to gluten that they will sniff out anything that contains it, going so far as to lick stamps because the glue contains it. I am probably not doing a good job of explaining, too much rambling. But we are basically detectives looking for a way to solve this mystery. McCarthy's book Louder than words is another good book to read. I homeschool her. We are using Help with Learning at www.icando.org. Which is based on the Neuroplasticity of the brain. I am going to read Endangered Minds which was also recommended. Anyway, hope this helps a little. I also joined TACA. In the trenches... Marie Mystical Rose Travel www.MysticalRoseTravel.com Airfare, Rental Cars, Hotels, Cruises, Concerts and Shows, Tickets and Attractions, Flowers, and more! Marie Tucker Catholic Books and Gifts Inspiring a deeper love and knowledge of our Catholic Faith! 909 355-5545 From: Dora Lattish <doralattish (DOT) com>Subject: Urgent help - dealing with physically aggressive 3 yr oldTo: AutismBehaviorProbl emsyahoogroups (DOT) com, AutismRecoveryWA@ yahoogroups. comDate: Tuesday, August 19, 2008, 6:53 PM I am trying to help an acquaintance who is in a severe depressed, despairing state… She has a newly diagnosed 3 yr old with Autism who is explosively violent with her and the rest of the family, and also a baby girl in arms that she carries around with her most of the time because she’s afraid her son will hurt baby (loving her too hard)… She is a wreck, and I was HER five years ago when my son was this age… I’m going to visit her on Thursday so she can vent/cry/scream, etc whatever she needs…and I was hoping to take with me some practical tips or ideas she could try with her son. No big programs or undertakings, she is far too overwhelmed at the moment for that – but just some stuff parents on these 2 groups have tried that may give her a moment or two of peace… I know this is a general and vague request, but I’m looking for your help with these tips, or links to some articles or websites that have been helpful to you in learning practical ways to deal with aggression and tantrums, etc. I would like to be able to give her some printed out materials but my focus is now so oriented on my 2nd grader that I don’t know what works better with a toddler like she has…and also with a newborn. Any ideas you have to offer would be so great – Links are fine, I’ll see what I can get together for her. Thanks – Dora It's only a deal if it's where you want to go. Find your travel deal here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2008 Report Share Posted August 22, 2008 t From: Dora Lattish <doralattish (DOT) com>Subject: Urgent help - dealing with physically aggressive 3 yr oldTo: AutismBehaviorProbl emsyahoogroups (DOT) com, AutismRecoveryWA@ yahoogroups. comDate: Tuesday, August 19, 2008, 6:53 PM I am trying to help an acquaintance who is in a severe depressed, despairing state… She has a newly diagnosed 3 yr old with Autism who is explosively violent with her and the rest of the family, and also a baby girl in arms that she carries around with her most of the time because she’s afraid her son will hurt baby (loving her too hard)… She is a wreck, and I was HER five years ago when my son was this age… I’m going to visit her on Thursday so she can vent/cry/scream, etc whatever she needs…and I was hoping to take with me some practical tips or ideas she could try with her son. No big programs or undertakings, she is far too overwhelmed at the moment for that – but just some stuff parents on these 2 groups have tried that may give her a moment or two of peace… I know this is a general and vague request, but I’m looking for your help with these tips, or links to some articles or websites that have been helpful to you in learning practical ways to deal with aggression and tantrums, etc. I would like to be able to give her some printed out materials but my focus is now so oriented on my 2nd grader that I don’t know what works better with a toddler like she has…and also with a newborn. Any ideas you have to offer would be so great – Links are fine, I’ll see what I can get together for her. Thanks – Dora It's only a deal if it's where you want to go. Find your travel deal here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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