Guest guest Posted September 27, 2001 Report Share Posted September 27, 2001 Hi Cherie Are there any support groups in your area? I've noticed in my daily paper a few advertisements announcing meetings for people with disabilities or pain, etc. Maybe that would be a good place to meet some other people in the same position as you? Kathy Re: Dear Ann column > Hi Kathy, > I have been a single parent for 15 years. > > Sure there have been some relationships in that time but they (males) were > in it for what they could get. Maybe one day someone will come along. When > you have age (51 next month) and disability as obstacles as well as > restrictions to social events it makes it very hard to find that person. > > I have no sexual /genital feelings, bladder and bowel incontinence. Using a > catheter doesn't concern me but having to were diapers 24hrs a day does. The > diapers are a real turn off. > > I have some very good male friends and nothing would go further with them. > They accept me for who I am and would not take a friendship deeper. > > I do hate being on my own and it would be so nice to have someone in my > life. I've seen people look away when I used a walking stick, I have seen > people ignore me when I use the chair. > > Most in the group were in relationships before things got worse with there > body. It can be very hard to find that special person who can see past the > disability. > > It would be so nice to have that special person at my side now with what is > happening in this beautiful world that we live in. > Cherie > > > Hi , and Cherie, > > > > I hadn't even paid attention to the sex twice monthly part nor given > > consideration to that being part of the turn off. Glad you both pointed > > that out. > > > > Cherie: There are many, many decent people out there that over-look > > disabilities. There is someone for everyone, if they want companionship. > I > > firmly believe this. I have a friend that is disabled due to pain and > she's > > been divorced a year now and she's on the same thinking track as you...who > > would want her in her condition? However, she's very attractive, bright > and > > social. She'll find someone. So will you if you open yourself up to > > it...or if it's what you want. Some people don't want/need that. > > > > Don't sell yourself short because of what you go through daily with your > > problems. They're not who you are and they don't make you what you are. > > > > Kathy > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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