Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 Yes that is what I think too, . He probably does think that firemen took his sister. God love him...Kellie I know you will know what to do...you're such a good mom...and you've been through so much... e To: AutismBehaviorProblems Sent: Friday, November 21, 2008 6:34:48 PMSubject: Re: Fire Alarms (((((Kellie & )))))You are in my thoughts and prayers.I don't know too much about reading minds LOL, but it sounds as if he may think the firemen took her, and wants them to bring her back.Is there a fire station close to you that you could go to and talk to them to see if they would be willing to talk to ?I know that all of the local emergency responders here are more then willing to help with almost anything.Hope this helps a little.>> Hi Everyone,> This weekend something happened and I'm not sure how to handle it. > This is going to be pretty long so I apologise in advance. has > been obsessed with fire alarms for awhile. Every year during fire > safety month he starts again. Well on Saturday got on You Tube > and started playing a video of a fire alarm and then he did this. He > would hit play and then run very fast to the entry way of our house > and touch s picture and say hi when the alarm started he > would say bye . He did this at least 9 times in a row. He > hasn't done this before and I was watching him and it hit me. The > day died it was the fire station that responded to the 911 and > they had their coats and boots and everything on. The firemen > carried his sister out and he never saw her again. The next year at > school (after fire safety week) he pulled the fire alarm 3 times. > He was only 3 1/2 when this happened and had almost no language. I > think he was trying to get the firemen to come and bring back. > On Saturday I asked where was and he looked very > distressed and said firemen. We have tried several times over the > years to explain that was in heaven with god and jesus and we > take him to the cemetary with us at least 2 times a year. Her stone > has her picture on it but to him its just another picture of . > I don't know what else to do with this. I don't want him to be > afraid of the firemen or not to go with them if he needs to but in > his then 3 year old mind it makes total sense that he would think > this. How do I help him understand something as abstract as heaven? > We don't talk about much when or Paige are around. I have > experience being on their side of the fence. My mother lost 2 babies > to sids before I was born and she never really learned to deal with > it. She drank through my childhood and she would cry all the time. > In my little mind it was the babies fault and I hated them. I don't > want my kids to feel that way so I don't go there very often and I > only let myself think of her on her birthday and when I am alone. I > only mentioned that so you know I'm not bringing her up to all > the time. Has anyone had to explain the death of a loved one to their > autistic child and has anything worked? Sorry again this is long. > Kellie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 Yes e and , does think the firemen took and wants them to bring her back. I just don't know how to explain that she is not with them and that she is in heaven. I didn't post this until today because I really didn't want to sound like I keep bringing her up. This was just very unexpected and I am not sure how to help understand. The last thing I want is anyone to feel sorry for me. We all have so many challenges in our lives and along with those we have the wonderful things. I look at and see such a great boy who tries so hard and has the most beautiful smile and contagious laugh. I look at my beautiful little Paige and I see this sweet baby girl growing into such a smart,funny,kind and determined girl. I have a husband I love and who loves me. We have made it 10 years and we still like each other and like to spend time together. I am able to stay home with my children and this makes everything so much easier for my family. I am blessed. I have lost much, but I have so much. will always be with me in my heart and when I die I get to see her again in heaven. My life is not perfect (is anyones?) but it is good. It really is impossible for me to send a short post! For this I do apologize. Kellie Subject: Re: Re: Fire AlarmsTo: AutismBehaviorProblems Date: Saturday, November 22, 2008, 1:23 AM Yes that is what I think too, . He probably does think that firemen took his sister. God love him...Kellie I know you will know what to do...you're such a good mom...and you've been through so much... e From: karenrichard2000 <karenrichard2000@ yahoo.com>To: AutismBehaviorProbl emsyahoogroups (DOT) comSent: Friday, November 21, 2008 6:34:48 PMSubject: Re: Fire Alarms (((((Kellie & )))))You are in my thoughts and prayers.I don't know too much about reading minds LOL, but it sounds as if he may think the firemen took her, and wants them to bring her back.Is there a fire station close to you that you could go to and talk to them to see if they would be willing to talk to ?I know that all of the local emergency responders here are more then willing to help with almost anything.Hope this helps a little.>> Hi Everyone,> This weekend something happened and I'm not sure how to handle it. > This is going to be pretty long so I apologise in advance. has > been obsessed with fire alarms for awhile. Every year during fire > safety month he starts again. Well on Saturday got on You Tube > and started playing a video of a fire alarm and then he did this. He > would hit play and then run very fast to the entry way of our house > and touch s picture and say hi when the alarm started he > would say bye . He did this at least 9 times in a row. He > hasn't done this before and I was watching him and it hit me. The > day died it was the fire station that responded to the 911 and > they had their coats and boots and everything on. The firemen > carried his sister out and he never saw her again. The next year at > school (after fire safety week) he pulled the fire alarm 3 times. > He was only 3 1/2 when this happened and had almost no language. I > think he was trying to get the firemen to come and bring back. > On Saturday I asked where was and he looked very > distressed and said firemen. We have tried several times over the > years to explain that was in heaven with god and jesus and we > take him to the cemetary with us at least 2 times a year. Her stone > has her picture on it but to him its just another picture of . > I don't know what else to do with this. I don't want him to be > afraid of the firemen or not to go with them if he needs to but in > his then 3 year old mind it makes total sense that he would think > this. How do I help him understand something as abstract as heaven? > We don't talk about much when or Paige are around. I have > experience being on their side of the fence. My mother lost 2 babies > to sids before I was born and she never really learned to deal with > it. She drank through my childhood and she would cry all the time. > In my little mind it was the babies fault and I hated them. I don't > want my kids to feel that way so I don't go there very often and I > only let myself think of her on her birthday and when I am alone. I > only mentioned that so you know I'm not bringing her up to all > the time. Has anyone had to explain the death of a loved one to their > autistic child and has anything worked? Sorry again this is long. > Kellie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 Kellie...I know all this about you, or at least that is the imprssion I've always had...and not one of us unless we've been there can fathom the loss of a child, so it hits really hard when we read about it...also you can bring claire, paige, and alex up anytime you want You are a delight...so positive...I know you have it together...and I can tell you are a fantastic mother... This reminds me of something I had to say a few days ago...our pastor whom I adore...saw me walking out of church with baby...he asked how I was and at that moment I had just dealt with a 2 yr old that screamed due to fluorescent lighting, as well as "strangers" the whole time I was there doing something that HAD to get done.....so when he asked I was about ready to go to bed with the covers over my head --- lol >> Hi Everyone,> This weekend something happened and I'm not sure how to handle it. > This is going to be pretty long so I apologise in advance. has > been obsessed with fire alarms for awhile. Every year during fire > safety month he starts again. Well on Saturday got on You Tube > and started playing a video of a fire alarm and then he did this. He > would hit play and then run very fast to the entry way of our house > and touch s picture and say hi when the alarm started he > would say bye . He did this at least 9 times in a row. He > hasn't done this before and I was watching him and it hit me. The > day died it was the fire station that responded to the 911 and > they had their coats and boots and everything on. The firemen > carried his sister out and he never saw her again. The next year at > school (after fire safety week) he pulled the fire alarm 3 times. > He was only 3 1/2 when this happened and had almost no language. I > think he was trying to get the firemen to come and bring back. > On Saturday I asked where was and he looked very > distressed and said firemen. We have tried several times over the > years to explain that was in heaven with god and jesus and we > take him to the cemetary with us at least 2 times a year. Her stone > has her picture on it but to him its just another picture of . > I don't know what else to do with this. I don't want him to be > afraid of the firemen or not to go with them if he needs to but in > his then 3 year old mind it makes total sense that he would think > this. How do I help him understand something as abstract as heaven? > We don't talk about much when or Paige are around. I have > experience being on their side of the fence. My mother lost 2 babies > to sids before I was born and she never really learned to deal with > it. She drank through my childhood and she would cry all the time. > In my little mind it was the babies fault and I hated them. I don't > want my kids to feel that way so I don't go there very often and I > only let myself think of her on her birthday and when I am alone. I > only mentioned that so you know I'm not bringing her up to all > the time. Has anyone had to explain the death of a loved one to their > autistic child and has anything worked? Sorry again this is long. > Kellie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 16, 2008 Report Share Posted December 16, 2008 Kellie, I'll keep praying for you and your family. Janice To: AutismBehaviorProblems Sent: Friday, November 21, 2008 9:10:52 PMSubject: Re: Re: Fire Alarms Yes e and , does think the firemen took and wants them to bring her back. I just don't know how to explain that she is not with them and that she is in heaven. I didn't post this until today because I really didn't want to sound like I keep bringing her up. This was just very unexpected and I am not sure how to help understand. The last thing I want is anyone to feel sorry for me. We all have so many challenges in our lives and along with those we have the wonderful things. I look at and see such a great boy who tries so hard and has the most beautiful smile and contagious laugh. I look at my beautiful little Paige and I see this sweet baby girl growing into such a smart,funny, kind and determined girl. I have a husband I love and who loves me. We have made it 10 years and we still like each other and like to spend time together. I am able to stay home with my children and this makes everything so much easier for my family. I am blessed. I have lost much, but I have so much. will always be with me in my heart and when I die I get to see her again in heaven. My life is not perfect (is anyones?) but it is good. It really is impossible for me to send a short post! For this I do apologize. Kellie From: Two Blessings <ljdjd1234yahoo (DOT) com>Subject: Re: Re: Fire AlarmsTo: AutismBehaviorProbl emsyahoogroups (DOT) comDate: Saturday, November 22, 2008, 1:23 AM Yes that is what I think too, . He probably does think that firemen took his sister. God love him...Kellie I know you will know what to do...you're such a good mom...and you've been through so much... e From: karenrichard2000 <karenrichard2000@ yahoo.com>To: AutismBehaviorProbl emsyahoogroups (DOT) comSent: Friday, November 21, 2008 6:34:48 PMSubject: Re: Fire Alarms (((((Kellie & )))))You are in my thoughts and prayers.I don't know too much about reading minds LOL, but it sounds as if he may think the firemen took her, and wants them to bring her back.Is there a fire station close to you that you could go to and talk to them to see if they would be willing to talk to ?I know that all of the local emergency responders here are more then willing to help with almost anything.Hope this helps a little.>> Hi Everyone,> This weekend something happened and I'm not sure how to handle it. > This is going to be pretty long so I apologise in advance. has > been obsessed with fire alarms for awhile. Every year during fire > safety month he starts again. Well on Saturday got on You Tube > and started playing a video of a fire alarm and then he did this. He > would hit play and then run very fast to the entry way of our house > and touch s picture and say hi when the alarm started he > would say bye . He did this at least 9 times in a row. He > hasn't done this before and I was watching him and it hit me. The > day died it was the fire station that responded to the 911 and > they had their coats and boots and everything on. The firemen > carried his sister out and he never saw her again. The next year at > school (after fire safety week) he pulled the fire alarm 3 times. > He was only 3 1/2 when this happened and had almost no language. I > think he was trying to get the firemen to come and bring back. > On Saturday I asked where was and he looked very > distressed and said firemen. We have tried several times over the > years to explain that was in heaven with god and jesus and we > take him to the cemetary with us at least 2 times a year. Her stone > has her picture on it but to him its just another picture of . > I don't know what else to do with this. I don't want him to be > afraid of the firemen or not to go with them if he needs to but in > his then 3 year old mind it makes total sense that he would think > this. How do I help him understand something as abstract as heaven? > We don't talk about much when or Paige are around. I have > experience being on their side of the fence. My mother lost 2 babies > to sids before I was born and she never really learned to deal with > it. She drank through my childhood and she would cry all the time. > In my little mind it was the babies fault and I hated them. I don't > want my kids to feel that way so I don't go there very often and I > only let myself think of her on her birthday and when I am alone. I > only mentioned that so you know I'm not bringing her up to all > the time. Has anyone had to explain the death of a loved one to their > autistic child and has anything worked? Sorry again this is long. > Kellie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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