Guest guest Posted November 21, 2008 Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 Hi Everyone, This weekend something happened and I'm not sure how to handle it. This is going to be pretty long so I apologise in advance. has been obsessed with fire alarms for awhile. Every year during fire safety month he starts again. Well on Saturday got on You Tube and started playing a video of a fire alarm and then he did this. He would hit play and then run very fast to the entry way of our house and touch s picture and say hi when the alarm started he would say bye . He did this at least 9 times in a row. He hasn't done this before and I was watching him and it hit me. The day died it was the fire station that responded to the 911 and they had their coats and boots and everything on. The firemen carried his sister out and he never saw her again. The next year at school (after fire safety week) he pulled the fire alarm 3 times. He was only 3 1/2 when this happened and had almost no language. I think he was trying to get the firemen to come and bring back. On Saturday I asked where was and he looked very distressed and said firemen. We have tried several times over the years to explain that was in heaven with god and jesus and we take him to the cemetary with us at least 2 times a year. Her stone has her picture on it but to him its just another picture of . I don't know what else to do with this. I don't want him to be afraid of the firemen or not to go with them if he needs to but in his then 3 year old mind it makes total sense that he would think this. How do I help him understand something as abstract as heaven? We don't talk about much when or Paige are around. I have experience being on their side of the fence. My mother lost 2 babies to sids before I was born and she never really learned to deal with it. She drank through my childhood and she would cry all the time. In my little mind it was the babies fault and I hated them. I don't want my kids to feel that way so I don't go there very often and I only let myself think of her on her birthday and when I am alone. I only mentioned that so you know I'm not bringing her up to all the time. Has anyone had to explain the death of a loved one to their autistic child and has anything worked? Sorry again this is long. Kellie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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