Guest guest Posted May 9, 2003 Report Share Posted May 9, 2003 In a message dated 5/9/03 6:07:52 PM Eastern Daylight Time, peggykee@... writes: > I am totally floored. DH told me about this conversation last night > after I came home from a Partners in Education banquet. I teach jr. > high; I should be able to handle this, but I feel totally lost. > > My little boy is gone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!! > I would probably talk to him about the responsibilities that come with having sex. Depending upon your beliefs or morals, it could include protection from disease to being married first and able to support a family. I would not sit him down and lecture him or talk too long. Just add your thoughts in little moments like, " Your dad said you were asking about having sex. I want you to know that I believe...... " Of course, you could also run away for the next 5 years, which also might work. lol. Roxanna ö¿ö " ...don't forget what happened to the man who suddenly got everything he'd ever wished for... He lived happily ever after. " Willy Wonka Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2003 Report Share Posted May 9, 2003 In a message dated 5/9/03 6:34:03 PM Eastern Daylight Time, kneeleee@... writes: > > Of course, you could also run away for the next 5 years, which also might > work. lol. > It wouldn't solve HIS problem, but at least YOU wouldn't be worry about it! LOL Connie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2003 Report Share Posted May 9, 2003 Peggy, Be glad that he's bringing it up and talking about it! I'd just answer questions as they come up and not make a big deal over it. It may be that he's more comfortable talking to dh about it for now, and that's okay. Good luck Liz " Peggy (Powers) Kee " wrote: > Okay everybody, I need a lot of advice right now. I am facing the > dreaded teenage years with my now-13 year old Aspie son. In fact, > the hormones have kicked in, and he is thinking about S-E-X. He > blurted out to his dad last night that he wants to have sex! Hubby > did just fine (after he picked himself up off the floor) and > had " the talk " with him. DS hasn't said anything to me yet, and I > am wondering how should I approach this? Should I just let hubby > handle it? > > I am totally floored. DH told me about this conversation last night > after I came home from a Partners in Education banquet. I teach jr. > high; I should be able to handle this, but I feel totally lost. > > My little boy is gone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!! > > Peggy > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2003 Report Share Posted May 10, 2003 In a message dated 5/9/2003 3:07:40 PM Pacific Daylight Time, peggykee@... writes: > He > blurted out to his dad last night that he wants to have sex! Hubby > did just fine (after he picked himself up off the floor) and > had " the talk " with him. ROFLOL!!! It started my day right~Thanks. DS hasn't said anything to me yet, and I > am wondering how should I approach this? Should I just let hubby > handle it? > My first reaction is to say yes and then hide for the next 5 years....but, you should tell him that he can talk to you about sex too. Say the important things you believe in but keep it casual conversation over a period of time versus lectures (most teens tune those out). I don't have an Aspie teen yet, but do have a dd (almost 17) who is a handful and thankfully (even though I was uncomfortable at times) she has talked to me about a lot of things and a lot of weird beliefs too! Its better to know than to not know! Johanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 2003 Report Share Posted May 11, 2003 Oh, I dread this! Well, actually, I have an NT 18 y/o who is serious about his girlfriend. Oh, we had the " talk " more than once. Had to practically corner him to get to say anything. And that was before any serious girlfriend. I haven't " asked " him about it but wonder at times if I ought to say " Are you two having sex? " I can't decide that. Then I worry what I'd say if he said, " no, but we do fool around.... " ARRGGHHH! And that's an 18 yr old not a 13! I guess dad told you what all he said. I'd just at some time that seems right, add anything that you feel dad might have left out or not emphasized enough. A couple things that I REALLY tried to press home with my oldest a couple yrs ago when I knew he liked this one girl and had " the talk " was that - ahem, and I WAS trying to get him to WAIT til he's like....30? - there is only ONE FIRST TIME and you can never have that " first time " again; don't have sex just to have sex; needs to be someone very special and there might be lots of girlfriends before he finds the really " special one " and sex with someone you really care about is much different than the " sex to have sex. " I imagine that lots of words came pouring out of my mouth. I did find it " funny " in that it really doesn't bother me to talk about sex (luckily; I just worry that my kids might be having it!) and he was so totally embarrassed. If he'd been 13 at that time, I'd have just REALLY emphasized the above and how many girlfriends he and other guys his age are likely to have before he finishes school. And he certainly doesn't want to have sex with ALL of them! > Okay everybody, I need a lot of advice right now. I am facing the > dreaded teenage years with my now-13 year old Aspie son. In fact, > the hormones have kicked in, and he is thinking about S-E-X. He > blurted out to his dad last night that he wants to have sex! Hubby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2003 Report Share Posted May 13, 2003 My only advice is to have the talk soon and explain things to him very rotely and matter of factly. He needs to clearly understand his boundaries and the rules of " sex " and interpersonal relationships. AS kids do not just " get " this stuff...they need to be rotely taught. I would keep talking to him about it as much as possible. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2007 Report Share Posted August 22, 2007 Hi, my name is Andy. I'm 39 years old and am about to quit working as a welder. I can no longer keep up. My left ankle is rolled almost over it people at work are really starting to notice I can't keep up. I'v worked my whole life and have been with this company 16 years almost. I really have no other options but to quit and go on disability. Here is where I need someones help, Who can I talk with? Can I call someone to discuss my situation with? They know somthing is wrong with me at work, but I didn't tell them I had CMT when I started. My hands are very bad also, so I don't see any desk related jobs in the future. I just need someone to discuss how to apply for disability, and how long does it take to qualify? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Andy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2007 Report Share Posted August 22, 2007 Andt, My daughter is 4 and hers is pretty severe she has been denied disability but you should have a problem. Are you in any kind of AFOs? My daughter's ankles roll too but her braces help alot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2007 Report Share Posted August 22, 2007 Andy, It will probably go better if your company starts to discipline you for poor performance, or if you have an on the job accident. So any cuts or burns you get because your fingers are hanging in the wrong place are a good reason to see the company nurse, do that often, don't suck it up and carry on any longer. If you mess up the days without an accident record that is good too. At that point you can use your disability as a defense, and start documenting your physical failings in the workplace. Quitting while your employer is seemingly happy with your performance could cause you problems getting disability without an appeal. In any event you have to go through the 6 months waiting period without deriving any income from work before you are eligible for benefits. If you have long term disability at work take advantage of it. I didn't and that waiting period was 6 months of pure hell. You won't be eligible for Medicare for 1 year after your benefits start. Medicare sucks if you don''t have supplemental insurance, but it is something. The prescription program is useless unless you are spending a few hundred dollars a month on drugs, Canada drugs will be your friend. In all you will find living on the dole is not a great live but it does keep you alive. Good Luck Ed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2007 Report Share Posted August 22, 2007 I'm sorta a big guy at 220 pounds I can make the AFO roll, and there is no way I can wear them even close to 10 manditory work days. Andy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2007 Report Share Posted August 22, 2007 Hi Andy, Most states have an office on independent living. Search independent living and your state. SF has a great office that will help explain the process & benefits. Their are also Social Security advocacy groups that work free of cost - your ind. liv. ctr. should be able to direct you to some. When I applied for disability I went into the Social Security office & they helped to fill everything out. My hands were bad and I didn't have braces then so I was in rough shape. Never the less I was advised to describe my limitations as what I would experience on a bad day - otherwise they may deny you. I am in much better shape with braces - increased sleep - better diet -I wish the same to you. Chris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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