Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 e, I think I am just oversensitive where all this is concerned. I used to know the difference between compassion and pity but I must have lost my compass. Trying to figure out how to help with this has been very hard for me. The truth is I can't believe I didn't figure this out sooner and he has felt this way for years. I am not easy on myself where my children are concerned and I think maybe I need to give myself a break. I didn't ignore the signs I just didn't have enough info to put them together until now. Thank you and everyone for all your support and the ideas. There is a place here that helps children deal with the loss of a sibling and I am going to give them a call on Monday and see if they have any ideas or have dealt with special needs children. On the up side had his best day ever at school on Friday! He did all his work with only 1 prompt, transitioned without any problems and smiled all day!! He has even gone up a level in guided reading so HOORAY for and his teachers. I also wanted to mention he has been a nail biter for a long time but recently he has started chewing on the skin as well. I started using that Stop Bite on his nails. I expected him to fight it after the first time but he is happy to have me put it on and even told me last night- gel all gone! I asked if he needed more medicine for his fingers and he said YES. He even blows on it to help it dry quicker. It does taste gross ( i almost threw up when I tried it) and the first day he gagged a lot but now he doesn't even put his fingers in his mouth at home or school!! He must have wanted to stop but couldn't help himself. Hope you all have a great weekend! Kellie Subject: Re: Re: Fire AlarmsTo: AutismBehaviorProblems Date: Saturday, November 22, 2008, 3:58 AM Kellie...I know all this about you, or at least that is the imprssion I've always had...and not one of us unless we've been there can fathom the loss of a child, so it hits really hard when we read about it...also you can bring claire, paige, and alex up anytime you want You are a delight...so positive...I know you have it together...and I can tell you are a fantastic mother... This reminds me of something I had to say a few days ago...our pastor whom I adore...saw me walking out of church with baby...he asked how I was and at that moment I had just dealt with a 2 yr old that screamed due to fluorescent lighting, as well as "strangers" the whole time I was there doing something that HAD to get done.....so when he asked I was about ready to go to bed with the covers over my head --- lol >> Hi Everyone,> This weekend something happened and I'm not sure how to handle it. > This is going to be pretty long so I apologise in advance. has > been obsessed with fire alarms for awhile. Every year during fire > safety month he starts again. Well on Saturday got on You Tube > and started playing a video of a fire alarm and then he did this. He > would hit play and then run very fast to the entry way of our house > and touch s picture and say hi when the alarm started he > would say bye . He did this at least 9 times in a row. He > hasn't done this before and I was watching him and it hit me. The > day died it was the fire station that responded to the 911 and > they had their coats and boots and everything on. The firemen > carried his sister out and he never saw her again. The next year at > school (after fire safety week) he pulled the fire alarm 3 times. > He was only 3 1/2 when this happened and had almost no language. I > think he was trying to get the firemen to come and bring back. > On Saturday I asked where was and he looked very > distressed and said firemen. We have tried several times over the > years to explain that was in heaven with god and jesus and we > take him to the cemetary with us at least 2 times a year. Her stone > has her picture on it but to him its just another picture of . > I don't know what else to do with this. I don't want him to be > afraid of the firemen or not to go with them if he needs to but in > his then 3 year old mind it makes total sense that he would think > this. How do I help him understand something as abstract as heaven? > We don't talk about much when or Paige are around. I have > experience being on their side of the fence. My mother lost 2 babies > to sids before I was born and she never really learned to deal with > it. She drank through my childhood and she would cry all the time. > In my little mind it was the babies fault and I hated them. I don't > want my kids to feel that way so I don't go there very often and I > only let myself think of her on her birthday and when I am alone. I > only mentioned that so you know I'm not bringing her up to all > the time. Has anyone had to explain the death of a loved one to their > autistic child and has anything worked? Sorry again this is long. > Kellie> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 is making so much progress Kellie...I can just hear it in your emails...I'm so happy. Blessings... e To: AutismBehaviorProblems Sent: Saturday, November 22, 2008 10:53:23 AMSubject: Re: Re: Fire Alarms- e Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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