Urgent help - dealing with physically aggressive 3 yr old

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I am trying to help an acquaintance who is in a severe

depressed, despairing state…

She has a newly diagnosed 3 yr old with Autism who is

explosively violent with her and the rest of the family, and also a baby girl

in arms that she carries around with her most of the time because she’s

afraid her son will hurt baby (loving her too hard)… She is a wreck, and

I was HER five years ago when my son was this age…

I’m going to visit her on Thursday so she can

vent/cry/scream, etc whatever she needs…and I was hoping to take with me

some practical tips or ideas she could try with her son. No big programs or undertakings,

she is far too overwhelmed at the moment for that – but just some stuff

parents on these 2 groups have tried that may give her a moment or two of peace…

I know this is a general and vague request, but I’m

looking for your help with these tips, or links to some articles or websites

that have been helpful to you in learning practical ways to deal with

aggression and tantrums, etc. I would like to be able to give her some printed

out materials but my focus is now so oriented on my 2nd grader that

I don’t know what works better with a toddler like she has…and also

with a newborn.

Any ideas you have to offer would be so great –

Links are fine, I’ll see what I can get together for

her.

Thanks –

Dora