Re: Fire Alarms- Kellie

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Kellie,

I'm so sorry, I just read the post about with the fire alarms.

It's kinda late to be responding but I just wanted to make sure you

knew I read it. Hopefully you got lots of ideas on how to handle the

situation. It just seems we can't win. Tragedy enough losing a child

( I couldn't even imagine) but I just wonder why they sent a Dressed

Fire Man to the house that night. I believe as gets older he

will understand better. Just keep saying the same thing about

being in Heaven. And all about God. I don't want to give you my

suggestions since I'm so late in responding to this and you've

probably got a lot of advice already.

Also, that is fabulous that is doing so well in school. Great

Job!! Does he get special treats when he comes home after having a

really good day?

Also, as we've said before, and my son do seem a lot alike. My

son is going through the siren obsession also. On top of that, he

lost his Grandpa in Sept. so I've had to explain all about that and

you know how our kids with autism disorders take everything literal?

When my son wasn't feeling well he started to think he was going to

die. It took awhile to put two and two together but when we did I had

to keep explaining to him how and why Grandpa died and how little boys

with colds do not die. He still asks lots of questions and I explain

the best I can.

> >

> > Hi Everyone,

> > This weekend something happened and I'm not sure how to handle

> it.

> > This is going to be pretty long so I apologise in advance. has

> > been obsessed with fire alarms for awhile. Every year during fire

> > safety month he starts again. Well on Saturday got on You Tube

> > and started playing a video of a fire alarm and then he did this.

> He

> > would hit play and then run very fast to the entry way of our house

> > and touch s picture and say hi when the alarm started

> he

> > would say bye . He did this at least 9 times in a row. He

> > hasn't done this before and I was watching him and it hit me. The

> > day died it was the fire station that responded to the 911

> and

> > they had their coats and boots and everything on. The firemen

> > carried his sister out and he never saw her again. The next year

> at

> > school (after fire safety week) he pulled the fire alarm 3 times.

> > He was only 3 1/2 when this happened and had almost no language. I

> > think he was trying to get the firemen to come and bring

> back.

> > On Saturday I asked where was and he looked very

> > distressed and said firemen. We have tried several times over the

> > years to explain that was in heaven with god and jesus and

> we

> > take him to the cemetary with us at least 2 times a year. Her

> stone

> > has her picture on it but to him its just another picture of

> .

> > I don't know what else to do with this. I don't want him to be

> > afraid of the firemen or not to go with them if he needs to but in

> > his then 3 year old mind it makes total sense that he would think

> > this. How do I help him understand something as abstract as

> heaven?

> > We don't talk about much when or Paige are around. I

> have

> > experience being on their side of the fence. My mother lost 2

> babies

> > to sids before I was born and she never really learned to deal with

> > it. She drank through my childhood and she would cry all the

> time.

> > In my little mind it was the babies fault and I hated them. I

> don't

> > want my kids to feel that way so I don't go there very often and I

> > only let myself think of her on her birthday and when I am alone.

> I

> > only mentioned that so you know I'm not bringing her up to all

> > the time. Has anyone had to explain the death of a loved one to

> their

> > autistic child and has anything worked? Sorry again this is long.

> > Kellie

> >

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