To Stormy - switching subjects at school

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Hi, Stormy. Does she have a plan in place at school where she can be

given time to make the switch?

Our son did an exposure for decision making that really helped him

speed up the process. Decision making is always tough for kids with

OCD too. I suspect it is that needing to be 100% sure that the

decision they are making is the correct one. . .Even with minor

things. Our son agreed that he would only take one minute (cutting

the time down as the exposure proceeded over time) to choose, not

analyzing it to try to help with the decision. . Just choosing, right

or wrong. He got much better at it.

So, I wonder if your daughter was given time to feel she has finished

up, but a limited amount of time, if it might help her. Then the time

could be shortened as she proceeds. You could work on it at home, and

see if the school could help you apply is there too, in some way. She

could choose the amount of time to start with (within reason) that she

feels she would need to make the transition.

With our son, putting a time limit on decision making, and enforcing

it, with his complete cooperation, helped him to learn to let it go

easier.

Just a thought.

BJ

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> Does have Aspergers?  OCD doesn't mean having an obsessional

interest.  Is he seeing a therapist who could help him to understand

that he will not be getting this gift?  Can you explore with him what

gift besides Rent would be a good one, explaining that we all have

dream gifts we'd like but can't afford to get.  Boy do I have plenty!!!!

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> A quick update and request for suggestions

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> Hi, all! Although I have not written in a while I continue to read

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> posts and think of you all as I do so.

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> I want to encourage those of you struggling with new

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> onsets/diagnosis of OCD. My , now 19, has had a couple of very

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> good years after some very dark ones where I thought he would

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> literally not survive. I relate to those of you who are beside

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> yourselves not knowing what to do. But, as others have said, while

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> OCD is always on the back burner there is hope for periods of

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> normalcy.

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> My daughter's doctor has been weaning her off of her zoloft (she has

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> selective mutism, anxiety and some OCD tendencies). She did okay

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> until just lately, now at half her former dose. She is getting " shy "

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> around strangers again -- the other night she would not talk to a

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> waiter to order food for i

> nstance)and is saying she is afraid again

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> about things like criminals and even going to our laundry area

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> alone. So I think we will be going back up in doseage.

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> 's new obsession is the play " Rent. " He has listened to the

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> soundtrack about a million times and written down all the words to

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> all the songs and has it memorized. I took him to see a traveling

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> troupe perform it a few months ago. BUT his birthday is in two weeks

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> and the only thing he wants is a trip to Broadway to see it before

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> it closes on Sept. 7. (oh, is that all you want?) I am afraid he is

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> going to be sorely disappointed and maybe relapse or have a

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> breakdown. But for him to travel, see the play, stay in a hotel, and

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> eat, that would be like a $1,000+ birthday gift. (which is out of

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> the question financially and I would not send him alone.) I have

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> been trying to prepare him for NOT receiving this gift but he seems

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> to be sure he is getting it! Does anyone have any suggestions on

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> getting his mind " un-stuck " from this? I would not be opposed to the

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> whole idea if it was do-able, but it is not affordable or practical.

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> He says it is his " only wish " that will make his life complete.

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> YIKES! Any ideas would help a lot!

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> Thanks for listening. This is a great group -- you " newbies " have

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> found a treasure!

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> Kim in IA (, 19 ocd, no meds right now and Collena 12,

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