[SPAM] Re: parent contamination/thanks Chris

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Hi Kathy,

HUGS!!! It is heartbreaking. Not sure how old your daughter is?

Mine is 17 now, but 15-16 when we went through this. As a teen I

think he would go for shock value, and it worked.... At the worst

point he would say he didn't care if he went to jail there was no

consequence that would stop him. As shocking as it was, we learned

to be neutral about it.

I think sometimes they push as far as they can, because they feel

pushed over the edge themselves. When they feel powerless, we must

contain it for them any way we can. While sympathizing with the

struggle they must endure. It is not them it is the OCD.

Hugs!

Barb

> >

> > Rose and Chris.

> > I know what you mean when you say how it affects your family. I

> hate to admit it to anybody, but last night I just wanted to get up

> and walk out the door. And today, I've been so depressed, i just

> don't feel like I care about anything. It's only been 3 months and

> I'm tired of trying to get her to read the books, do exposure, do

> anything. She just wants to wallow in having OCD and not do

anything

> to help herself. The only thing she's willing to do is take the

> medicine, and it's just not helping.at this point. I'm not even

sure

> this new therapist is going to work out.

> > She's been so difficult to live with these last two weeks, and

such

> a smarta#$t, talking back, defying us, saying she'll do her chores,

> and then not do them. And when we ask why she won't do them, she

> just sits there. She only has 3 little chores! We impose a

> punishment and she just says, OK. We have fought almost every day

> over these stupid chores; it's just feeding her cats, filling the

> dishwasher, and vacuuming. It's mostly the cats and the dishwasher;

> she claims its the OCD, but I think it's also just a convenient

> excuse to not do anything. It'd be easier to just give up on it,

but

> then that's not fair to my son, who has been taking up her slack

> (like feeding all the cats so they won't starve!) AND doing his own

> chores! Then she gets mad at him for doing her chore! And then she

> goes on and on last night about how we don't love her and pick on

her

> and make her our slave! GIVE ME A BREAK! She's been a little mouthy

> in the past, but nothing like this!

> > Maybe some of you won't think I'm a good parent, but last night,

> while I love my daughter very much, I sure didn't LIKE her much! I

> am hoping and praying this will subside when we back down the meds.

> > Debbie

> >

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