Guilt - the great diet buster

[Guest guest]

Okay, so maybe watching TLC's marathon on shows on morbidly obese people was

not the best thing to do today; but I did get some cleaning and exercise in.

I also learned something very important.

The people on the shows who were unable to lose or keep the weight off

seemed to fall into three categories. The first were the people who didnt

realize they had a problem. Baffling at 500+ pounds, but okay. The second

people were the one who realized they had a problem but didnt think they

could do anything about it. These people saw it as an addiction which

nothing (short of gastric bypass) could help them with. I dont believe

anybody who listens to 's podcasts or joined this Yahoo group falls

under these two categories.

The third group seemed to be the guilty eaters. They knew what they should

be eating and in what quantities. They just ate and felt guilty about

it. They would feel guilty just looking at the wrong foods. Guilt is SO

dangerous an emotion, especially if you feel guilty about something you

haven't even done yet.

" I feel guilty just looking at this plate of cookies. " Surprise! You're

going to eat them. Because you already have the guilt of eating them, of

course you are going to follow through. Guilt makes you feel bad, food makes

you feel good. Feeling guilty about food only triggers you to want more food

so you feel better. But alas, more food, more guilt. More guilt, more food.

Viscous cycle.

's talk about re-do's is perfect. There is not emotional regret, you

simply " replay " the events with the way you want it to be. You replace the

guilty feeling of " I can't believe I ate the whole thing " with a positive

mental image.

We all make mistakes, we all progress at different rates. Don't feel guilty

if you backslide, and definitely don't feel guilty if you are not

progressing as " fast " as others seem to be. As long as you are generally

moving forward, even taking a few steps back shouldn't make you feel guilty.

Feel empowered by the re-do.

Randy

[Guest guest]

Funny! We were watching the Biggest Loser marathon!! I am always

inspired by these shows. Even though they lose a lot of weight

reasonably fast, they show them WORKING hard, not at all like the

Nutrasystem or Craig ads touting " I just did the program and the

weight melted off! So EASY! " What a load of bull. If it really was

so easy to lose, no one would be fat.

>

> Okay, so maybe watching TLC's marathon on shows on morbidly obese

people was

> not the best thing to do today; but I did get some cleaning and

exercise in.

> I also learned something very important.

>

> The people on the shows who were unable to lose or keep the weight off

> seemed to fall into three categories. The first were the people who

didnt

> realize they had a problem. Baffling at 500+ pounds, but okay. The

second

> people were the one who realized they had a problem but didnt think they

> could do anything about it. These people saw it as an addiction which

> nothing (short of gastric bypass) could help them with. I dont believe

> anybody who listens to 's podcasts or joined this Yahoo group falls

> under these two categories.

>

> The third group seemed to be the guilty eaters. They knew what they

should

> be eating and in what quantities. They just ate and felt guilty about

> it. They would feel guilty just looking at the wrong foods. Guilt is SO

> dangerous an emotion, especially if you feel guilty about something you

> haven't even done yet.

>

> " I feel guilty just looking at this plate of cookies. " Surprise! You're

> going to eat them. Because you already have the guilt of eating them, of

> course you are going to follow through. Guilt makes you feel bad,

food makes

> you feel good. Feeling guilty about food only triggers you to want

more food

> so you feel better. But alas, more food, more guilt. More guilt,

more food.

> Viscous cycle.

>

> 's talk about re-do's is perfect. There is not emotional

regret, you

> simply " replay " the events with the way you want it to be. You

replace the

> guilty feeling of " I can't believe I ate the whole thing " with a

positive

> mental image.

>

> We all make mistakes, we all progress at different rates. Don't feel

guilty

> if you backslide, and definitely don't feel guilty if you are not

> progressing as " fast " as others seem to be. As long as you are generally

> moving forward, even taking a few steps back shouldn't make you feel

guilty.

> Feel empowered by the re-do.

>

> Randy

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Randy,

Thank you for your encouraging words. I may be facing my first weight

loss plateau but it's only been a few days so I'm not too worried

about it. From listening to the podcasts, I realized I should be

applying the same principles I learned in yoga into my weight loss.

Flexibility and strength increase in practice and in incremental

amounts. I'm patient with my body in yoga and now doing the same with

my weight loss. It feels good to not pressure myself to just drop the

weight quickly and the rest will come later when the rest just means

that the weight will come back!

Happy new year,

Roseanne

>

> Okay, so maybe watching TLC's marathon on shows on morbidly obese

people was

> not the best thing to do today; but I did get some cleaning and

exercise in.

> I also learned something very important.

>

> The people on the shows who were unable to lose or keep the weight off

> seemed to fall into three categories. The first were the people who

didnt

> realize they had a problem. Baffling at 500+ pounds, but okay. The

second

> people were the one who realized they had a problem but didnt think they

> could do anything about it. These people saw it as an addiction which

> nothing (short of gastric bypass) could help them with. I dont believe

> anybody who listens to 's podcasts or joined this Yahoo group falls

> under these two categories.

>

> The third group seemed to be the guilty eaters. They knew what they

should

> be eating and in what quantities. They just ate and felt guilty about

> it. They would feel guilty just looking at the wrong foods. Guilt is SO

> dangerous an emotion, especially if you feel guilty about something you

> haven't even done yet.

>

> " I feel guilty just looking at this plate of cookies. " Surprise! You're

> going to eat them. Because you already have the guilt of eating them, of

> course you are going to follow through. Guilt makes you feel bad,

food makes

> you feel good. Feeling guilty about food only triggers you to want

more food

> so you feel better. But alas, more food, more guilt. More guilt,

more food.

> Viscous cycle.

>

> 's talk about re-do's is perfect. There is not emotional

regret, you

> simply " replay " the events with the way you want it to be. You

replace the

> guilty feeling of " I can't believe I ate the whole thing " with a

positive

> mental image.

>

> We all make mistakes, we all progress at different rates. Don't feel

guilty

> if you backslide, and definitely don't feel guilty if you are not

> progressing as " fast " as others seem to be. As long as you are generally

> moving forward, even taking a few steps back shouldn't make you feel

guilty.

> Feel empowered by the re-do.

>

> Randy

>

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