Thoughts on neighbor with no boundaries

November 23, 2008

Hi,

I have two daughters with mental health issues.

My youngest is 7 and had a flair up of significant OCD when the

following occurred. She had a good friend whose house she used to

visit on a regular basis (overnight, etc.). Well, this friend's mom

bough the house next door to us. When they moved in, rather than be a

special once in a while friend, these kids were at our door 24-7. In

addition, the kids mother (who has no boundaries), was fastly

networking with all the other neighbors. She quickly caught on to a

neighbor with two older kids (ages 13 and 10) and started having them

babysit her little ones, and inviting them over all the time. This

caused my 7 year old to feel hurt, sad and displaced. Since that time

she has had a significant flair up of OCD, of the contaimination

variety and wants nothing to do with the mother or girl who used to

be her close friend. I feel loss, as she didn't have many freinds to

begin with and I am sad of the lack of loyality by the mother and

daughter, etc.

ANyway, both have been bad (kids over 24-7, and also

her house being a hotel for all the neighbors, with no boundaries.

She takes the neighbors kids shopping, out to dinner, overnight...

An assummed familiarty to people who dont know her.)

Thanks for listening.

Kathy

November 23, 2008

A similar situation happened to my daughter 11 yrs old, she didn't have any

other friends at all but this particular one and needless to say basically the

same thing happened to my daughter, the kid was here constantly the all of a

sudden never again. The child and her mother both acted as if they were to good

for us. I had to go out and literally hunt down children for my child to play

with. We put up a volleyball net and a slip and slide in the summer along with

a trampoline and it wasn't long before the kids were happy to come by. But

until she has a friend to replace her loss she is going to be sad and lonesome

and confused! She doesn't understand why and my daughter even thought it was

her fault, which it wasn't the mother just found someone else she enjoyed

hanging out with better than me, as i don't drink. And it seperated our

children . You should try some sort of social click for your daughter. or

find out if theres any children in her

class or in the neighborhood she is interested in playing wit!h. I wish you and

your daughter the best of luck, I hope this is hard on both of you and my heart

goes out to you both!

Peggy

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