Guest guest Posted December 4, 2008 Report Share Posted December 4, 2008 I think you need to slow down and take things one at a time.? The only difference between today and yesterday is your son's underwear episode last night.? It is important to handle this well.? I imagine you have done it already, but make sure you have sat your son down and asked him why he did it.? (He probably wanted to be funny or cool.)? Then tell him what the result will be instead, as far as how the other kids could view him.? There should be a consequence for this behavior so that he will not want to do this again.? For my kids, it might be something like no technology for three days.? (tv, computers, Wii, Nintendo).? That would sure have an impact on them.? Another thing is that your daughter and he should be told that no children should be allowed to come over while you are not home.? This makes sense for any children when their parents are out for the night.? You might want to call up the parents of the children who he did this to and apologize and tell the parents that your child has consequences for his behavior and it won't happen again.? After that, you probably should drop it.? I'm not sure why private school would be the thought as a result of this incident. By the way, you did NOTHING wrong by going out for the evening!!? Everyone is entitled to that, and I'm glad you had the time to relax a bit with your husband. we're struggling Hi All.... Another night ending with tears at our house... no, not our OCD son... but mine! My husband and I made the mistake of going out to dinner tonight and leaving my son at home with my daughter... they do great together... but, the neighbor kids came over and my son proceeded to think it was funny to pull his underwear down in front of them! He's 9.... He is being called " psycho " at school and everything is tumbling quickly downhill... we have an appt. Fri. with the psychiatrist over his meds, but it is just getting so much worse so quickly! My father has offered to pay for my son to go to private school.... We already send our ADD daughter to private school as she started 7th grade and we felt the transition would be easier. What do you think? It is a small private Christian school.... Until this year, was getting by okay in school... he is advanced, he is being tested for the gate program... but, he is the odd man out. My heart breaks for him.... I need input please. Vicki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2008 Report Share Posted December 4, 2008 HI Vicki, Don't feel bad for taking an adult evening out! What your son did is really normal 9 year old boy behavior! I can't tell you the silly things my son did through the years! Wow, you made me think of all the things that happened in my house when I was a kid and my parents were gone. lol I don't know what to tell you about the school situation other than kids are kids. There is no guarantee that he will be treated differently at private school vs. public school. Please give yourself a break. Breathe! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2008 Report Share Posted December 4, 2008 Hi Vicki, You sound pretty overwhelmed with things. It can be really hard when our kids are doing things that cause others to namecall and treat them differently. Not sure what all you are dealing with that it making you decide a private school might be better? We did move to a small private school where class size was small, one on one attention, indivualized programming with pacing considerations. Guess is depends on what all the needs are and what you can find out there for better fit. In terms of teasing etc, afraid you will get that everywhere, although where our son went he felt comfortable that everyone knew about his OCD and so did not have to try to hide or pretend and was less anxious overall. Specific to the latest incident, it not uncommon that it can make kids more provacative, less impulse control, and other behaviors in general. I would certainly check this with your doctor, may need to adjust dose and try to go slowly if possible, or may need to change med depending. Some are very sensitive and need lower dose, and to go slowly with changes, our experience. Hang in there, it is a struggle, some days more than others. I send you hugs! Barb > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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