Re: Re: public school (Debbie)

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I know what you mean Debbie,

the 504 coordinator told me to try and get accommodations with teachers,

until the 504 was in place. I wrote one of the teachers that didn't follow

through....no response so talked to the principal (long story short), so then

she'd write a nice note to us, so I thought all was ok. So I thought I could

communicate with her, but then she would go back to not responding. this

happened

several times. Well evidently she complained to the principal, because he

called me today, and told me not to contact her anymore. My husband asked me

how many times did you email her, I checked it was only 4 in November. each

one ended with if you have any questions or concerns please contact me, so I

did. I don't know what to think. I wasn't rude, just tried to explain the

situation to her, until we can get the 504 in place. asked what accommodations

she was willing to do. But she didn't respond. I guess I should have read

between the lines, but I didn't, I didn't know if she was getting my email or

not.

I'm just at a loss, I didn't see this coming. it seems she said one thing to

me and another to the principal. I don't know...I'm so confused.

It did however help us make our decision to not put him in public school

next year.

Our neighbors had the same problem with this same school, they had a

daughter with aspergers, and LDs. well the kids kept picking on her. everyday

she'd

come home crying... and begged not to go back. Her mother would talk to the

school, they'd say they'd do something, then not, over and over this happened

until the mother and daughter were distraught all the time, so they pulled

her out and home schooled her.

Oh, and the principal also told me my son is not a special ed kid, as he

doesn't have 504 yet. Even though he has copies of the diagnosis, saying OCD and

Tourette's, but that doesn't count if the 504 isn't in place. I'm not allowed

to use the word in reference to my son when I talk to his teacher anymore,

the one I'm still allowed to talk to.

In a message dated 11/27/2008 1:10:49 P.M. Central Standard Time,

deborahcavender@... writes:

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if it were me, I'd go with my husband and have a " sit-down " with the

teacher. Discuss with her (calmly and rationally) your concerns, bringing up

the

agreement made in Oct; take specific assignments with you. The key thing is go

up the chain of command. Give her another chance to explain her reasoning, If

you don't get a satisfactory resolution, then it's time to bring in the

principal and have a meeting with all.

Even though I was reluctant (social stigma and all), I pursued a 504 plan

for my daughter so that if we had issues with her schoolwork, it would be in

writing what the teachers should be doing to help her. I feel better knowing

there's a legal document to back up any concerns I have. (My DD's in 8th). I

don't put much faith in someone's " word " anymore; too many people just don't

keep it.

Debbie

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