Re: New and Discouraged

April 8, 2008

Congratulations on quitting smoking.

I dont know if this applies to you, but I read that most people that finally

do give up smoking tried to quit several times. And that those attempts are

not failures but steps to success. In sales training they discuss a similar

idea. If only one call in 20 results in a sale, you treat each no response

as a necessary step to getting the yes. So you are happy when somebody says

no because you need to hear 19 no's before you can hear one yes.

So dont think about your past as a failure. Just think about it as the steps

needed to succeed.

> Hi, I'm a new poster. I found 's podcasts a couple weeks ago.

> I have struggled with my weight my entire life, I am not extremely

> overweight, only 10 pounds or so now but it fluctuates anywhere from

> 5-20 over my ideal/goal, but the extent to which food and weight-

> related anxieties and self-image problems dominate my thoughts is

> just crazy. Literally, sometimes I feel like I am truly going crazy

> with these obsessive repeating thoughts, can anyone identify with

> this? I have gained and lost 5-10 pounds over and over and over, I

> am a compulsive over-eater, and I know I have other compulsive

> tendencies as well.

>

> I'm proud to say that I quit smoking almost 3 years ago (I'm 29 now),

> and I told myself then that if I could do that I could do anything.

> Yet here I am, 3 years later, still going around the same old

> food/weight track.

>

> I think I know the things I need to do to help myself, but I just

> can't bring myself to do them (i.e. mindfulness, meditation, taking

> time to be aware of my feelings, hungers, and general self-care).

> And yet I am constantly self-sabotaging my way back to unhappiness.

>

> Just writing that out, I suspect I have some serious limiting beliefs

> built up, and I will go back and listen again to the podcasts and

> actually DO the homework (might help, yeah?), maybe with 's

> approach, I can get somewhere with this.

>

> Thanks for being here, and I look forward to catching up on the

> podcasts and posts here and getting to know you all. I am just

> hoping to find a community where I can share frustrations and be

> challenged and hopefully someday soon share some trimphs as well.

>

> :-)

>

April 10, 2008

thank you so much for you post of " new and discourage " . it's exactly how i feel

and the

exact reason i started looking for the group for help, empathy and support!

i've been yo-

yo-ing over 5-15 pounds for years now. and now, i feel that similarly, my

success with

the lessons learned from iowl, am yo-yo-ing mentally! i've had strings of days

that are

great, and feel like i get it, and i'm changing, and then something sets me off,

which i

havent learned what yet, and i am back to my old ways, despite knowing better.

each step. yo.