Re: Rages

[Guest guest]

I just found some great info in Dr Aureen Pinto Wagner's book, What to

do When your Child has Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Strategies and

Solutions.

I'm not sure if I can share it, verbatim, without infringing on any

copywrite laws, so don't feel comfortable doing that. So, will try to

sum it up by paraphrasing a bit, in hopes it might help some who are

dealing with it.

She does say that for some children, they can experience " rage,

frustration, anger, panic and confusion " with OCD. The episodes

appear out of nowhere, with little or no provocation or warning. They

can be intense, with crying, screaming, aggression, and are

uncontrollable. They can hit, throw things, kick, and even destroy

property. Some even take it out on themselves by hitting themselves

or banging their heads on the wall (whoa, flashback of Josh a few

times when he was young. . Had forgotten it). When they are done,

they feel regret and remorse. They may even feel so bad they will

promise not to do it again, yet lack the control to follow through.

She goes on to say that the episodes where they lose control are not

of themselves, symptoms of OCD. . Not a diagnostic symptom. Many have

OCD without that symptom, so it is not needed to diagnose.

From what she says, if I'm understanding it right,. . It sounds like

it is a way of coping with the OCD. But, it is common, for some, to

erupt in uncontrollable rage or panic.

(Definitely saw the panic in Josh when we was young and overwhelmed,

even occasional rage when he couldn't get his shoes to feel " just

right " , and would struggle for a half an hour, trying to get them on,

eventually breaking down over it, sometimes hitting his shoes and

feet, over and over.)

She goes on to say that children who have other conditions, (ADHD,

Tourette Syndrome, or impulse control problems) in addition to their

OCD, may be more prone to the meltdowns.

I'm sure I'm not doing it justice and apologize for that. If anyone

has the book, it is on pages 338-on, in a section called " Parenting

Challenges " . It is some great information. It offers some great

information on " ground rules " which encourage safety and respect,

along with effective ways to communicate, with compassion for what

your child is going through. Also ways to reduce recurrence and

constructive ways to make amends.

I guess I need to read it again. lol Especially now that I'm not

reading it in a sleep deprived, panic state, like I read all of the

books we have on OCD, the first time. Maybe this time, more of it

will stick in my brain.

BJ

[Guest guest]

BJ,

Thanks for the book recommendation!

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> I just found some great info in Dr Aureen Pinto Wagner's book, What to

> do When your Child has Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Strategies and

> Solutions.

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