RE: Re: That kitchen full of food

[Guest guest]

This thread is great as well! Not totally connected, but on the epiphany

thread, I also read something recently that I loved, for those of us who

feel that we have " too much baggage " to let go os or too many limiting

beliefs. I'll retype it here. It's from Belleruth Naperstek, who I don't

know much about other than I've listened to a weight loss tape of hers.

Anyway, I just think this is a beautiful image, and tantamount to what we

are all talking about in a way:

" I enjoy this imagery exercise that I developed for healing trauma. You

enter your own broken heart, seen as a rubble strewn landscape. As you

journey into the deepest part of your heart, you emerg into a place of

stunning beauty, which symbolizes the part of you that is untouched by

whatever you have been or are going through> "

I hope that speaks to some of you as it did to me!

From: insideoutweightloss

[mailto:insideoutweightloss ] On Behalf Of

Sent: Sunday, December 28, 2008 8:11 AM

To: insideoutweightloss

Subject: Re: That kitchen full of food

-I love these posts! They are awesome and inspiring. I've also been

taking the extra time to take care of myself. I bring my bag to the

gym with my blow dryer, make up, velcro rollers, and after I work

out, I take the time to shower, clean up and make myself look good.

It feels nice and I walk out the door feeling refreshed and cared for.

I also like the smiling at others and being nice. I am a martial

artist and chief instructor at my own academy. One of the things we

are a part of is called the Ultimate Black Belt test. It is a year

long test and includes several projects and 1000 random acts of

kindness. That's 3 to 4 random acts of kindness a day. I try and

instill the belief in my students that being a black belt is not

about what they do inside the academy but how they interact in the

world outside.

You all gava alot of great suggestions. I think I'll save the list

that got sent by accident! I've started my success journal and think

I will expand it to include a daily gratitude list.

-- In insideoutweightloss

<mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.com> , " msbibafrog "

wrote:

>

> I agree, Dee Dee. I've started taking better care of myself at

> bedtime and in the morning. I put on jewelry and makeup even on the

> days I am not going anywhere, simply because I am worth the effort.

> It makes me feel good to look good and don't you know I have stopped

> avoiding mirrors. I can look in a mirror and like what I see. Long

> story short, I stopped listening for a while and when I started

again

> I had an epiphany - that at my core, I don't trust my own instincts

> and I never have. It leaves me paralyzed with indecision. I

realized

> that when I have to decide something, I ask everyone's advice rather

> than checking in with myself. I made a huge faux pas at work last

> week and thought it might be a bad idea as I was doing it, but I

> ignored the voice inside my head and ended up apologizing heartily

to

> a co-worker, who forgave me. I couldn't forgive myself for a day

and

> a half until I told myself that I am learning to trust myself and

need

> to make room for mistakes. I feel like much of my issues stem from

> that lack of self-trust. No wonder I can't accept myself? Who

likes

> people they don't trust? No wonder I am on anti-anxiety meds? I

have

> a lot of work to do here, but I feel positive in the knowing.

>

> Jenn

>

[Guest guest]

Jenn...I'm sure I'm not the only one reading this and thinking, " omg - that's me

too! " ? I don't trust myself either.? I'm constantly second-guessing myself.? Not

to mention all the negative little voices firing away at me inside my head.? As

much as I realize that I don't give myself enough credit, I really hadn't

thought abou it as a self-trust issue until I read your post.? That makes

sense.? And I think the more we realize these things about ourselves, the more

we can get a handle on it all and change our thinking and our attitudes.?

Deedee

Re: That kitchen full of food

I agree, Dee Dee. I've started taking better care of myself at

bedtime and in the morning. I put on jewelry and makeup even on the

days I am not going anywhere, simply because I am worth the effort.

It makes me feel good to look good and don't you know I have stopped

avoiding mirrors. I can look in a mirror and like what I see. Long

story short, I stopped listening for a while and when I started again

I had an epiphany - that at my core, I don't trust my own instincts

and I never have. It leaves me paralyzed with indecision. I realized

that when I have to decide something, I ask everyone's advice rather

than checking in with myself. I made a huge faux pas at work last

week and thought it might be a bad idea as I was doing it, but I

ignored the voice inside my head and ended up apologizing heartily to

a co-worker, who forgave me. I couldn't forgive myself for a day and

a half until I told myself that I am learning to trust myself and need

to make room for mistakes. I feel like much of my issues stem from

that lack of self-trust. No wonder I can't accept myself? Who likes

people they don't trust? No wonder I am on anti-anxiety meds? I have

a lot of work to do here, but I feel positive in the knowing.

Jenn