Re: Father's who can't handle their child's OCD

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Hi, Vicki. I have a husband that was the same way with our son. And

was, and still is, in denial of his own OCD. I was very frustrated at

times, when he would lose patience with our son, due to our son's

rituals or rigidity. I would try to patiently explain it, but he just

didn't hear or understand me.

It was strange to be watching it apart from them, because the very

behaviors that were upsetting my husband about our son, were the same

behaviors I noticed my husband having.

I tried what you said you are doing, for a long time. It didn't work

until my husband went on medication himself. That got his anger under

control, and something just clikced, and he started to get it. Now he

defends our son if someone in the family says something, and doesn't

know the " whys " of it. Not to imply that is the same situation with

your family, but I sure can relate to what you are going through.

had some good suggestions. Let us know if it helps any.

Hoping for you, it does.

BJ

, " Vicki " wrote:

>

> Hi all,

>

> I don't know what to do about this one. My DH won't go into

> counseling, so I don't know how to help him come to terms with our 9

> 1/2 year olds OCD.... I told him, I truly think he is mourning not

> having the child he thought we would have and that is okay to be

> sad... He told me I was wrong, that he isn't sad for himself, but for

> our son...

>

> The problem is that every time my DH is fed up, he will make comments

> like he just needs to grow up or he's just immature! I don't know how

> to deal with this. I have asked him to research, he is an educated

> man in an administrative position, it's not like he can't figure it

> out. What is making him not be able to deal with this reality. I find

> myself getting so upset at his lack of understanding. I have given

> him websites and articles, I have tried to explain things to him when

> he is in the right frame of mind... have any of you had to deal with

> this? How have you dealt with it? If your husband has come to terms,

> how did he do that!?

>

> My husband is not social, he won't reach out for assistance with

> this... but, even worse, I think it is the old school way of thinking

> he was brought up with that keeps him from accepting the truth about

> our child.

>

> Any input or ideas would be greatly appreciated...

>

> Vicki

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