Re: refusing to accept bad behavior from the OCD

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My daughter really likes to be on sports teams, but she often falls apart into

tears and anger.  When she started to do this at the first basketball game of

this season on Sat., I took her aside and told her that this is just not

acceptable.  I said that she is just going to cause everyone to think she is

mentally ill and weird and that if she can't get it together, then I am taking

her off the team.  She told me that she definitely did not want to be off the

team.  I told her that instead she needed to go wash her face in the bathroom

and get herself together and back to the team.  She managed to do this,

although with lots of upset for us both.  This worked for two other sport

activities this year.  I do think that sometimes we have to set a certain level

of expectation to give our kids a chance to be determined to meet it.

Re: urinating on self-

Hi Vicki,

Just wanted to say, so glad this strategy is working for you. It's so

nice, and can be surprising when something actually works. Our son is

older than yours, but at 15-16 when we were going through some intense

OCD behavioral stuff I used this same principle. Now mind you I had to

yell and be firm

, that I would not allow the OCD to boss me, and that I

did not want to talk to " it " but to my son. I would literally boss it

back when my son couldn't and I still remember the look of relief on my

son's face with one particularily bad day. It only worked sometimes

for us, but I would imagine with a younger child it could be very

effective.

Barb

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