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I think if you keep a food journal, that include your feelings both before

and after meals as well as what you ate and when; that will give you a good

start. I also include exercises in it.

You can look for patterns in your binges, and find o9ut what your triggers

are.

Two caveats:

First, dont judge yourself for what you eat. That leads to guilt which I

think is the great diet buster.

Second, dont judge yourself if you skip a meal or a day or two in the

journal. See above.

On Jan 14, 2008 12:34 PM, Yianacopolus

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> Does any one else feel like you are somehow intentionally trying to

> sabotage your efforts?

> I keep telling myself how I want to look and what I want to weigh. But it

> seems the closer I get I always manage to end up binging. How do I find out

> what my problem is?

> Any ideas?

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Hi

Randy made some great points. The food and emotional journal are great ideas.

I would like to add also that the numbers on the scale do not define you either.

It's ok to have a bad moment and don't beat yourself up over it. We are human.

I find that I over eat whether I'm happy, sad, mad, frustrated, etc. I find when

I'm having an emotional day, it helps to walk. Clears my mind. made a good

point in one of her podcasts, before you grab something to eat, evaluate how

hungry you are. Maybe you are thirsty.

Good Luck to you!

Re: Self Sabatage

I think if you keep a food journal, that include your feelings both

before

and after meals as well as what you ate and when; that will give you a good

start. I also include exercises in it.

You can look for patterns in your binges, and find o9ut what your triggers

are.

Two caveats:

First, dont judge yourself for what you eat. That leads to guilt which I

think is the great diet buster.

Second, dont judge yourself if you skip a meal or a day or two in the

journal. See above.

On Jan 14, 2008 12:34 PM, Yianacopolus <d.yianacopolus@ yahoo.com>

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> Does any one else feel like you are somehow intentionally trying to

> sabotage your efforts?

> I keep telling myself how I want to look and what I want to weigh. But it

> seems the closer I get I always manage to end up binging. How do I find out

> what my problem is?

> Any ideas?

>

>

>

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Great advice, Randy.

Yolanda, sometimes I eat way too much in one day and it seems like

I've lost control. This happens about once every other week for me,

and oftentimes, it is accompanied by a feeling of deprivation, a

longing to eat " normally " , and impatience to finally get to my goal

weight. I have been far enough along in my weight loss (about 40

pounds to date with 7 more pounds to go) that I try not to get down on

myself too much about it but at the same time, I make it a goal to do

" damage control " by the end of the day.

I also remind myself that I'm eating healthier now, so the way I eat

now is NOT deprivation. I remind myself that my idea of " normal

eating " is skewed: I think of " normal eating " as going out to eat

every night and being one of those thin women with a voracious

appetite (ever notice how thin women are considered to have healthy

appetites while fat women are gluttonous; how thin women are anorexic

while fat women are finally getting their act together?), but this is

obviously not a healthy lifestyle, though it may very well be

mainstream. And finally, my impatience: I've come so far and I'm so

close that I can't wait to live out my new, thin life. To address this

point, I remind myself that my new, thin life has already been going

on for some time; it started when I made the choice to eat healthier

and lose weight.

That said, I haven't been able to come up with a deeper answer for why

I over-eat sometimes. I think the part of me that doesn't want to lose

weight isn't really trying to sabotage my weight loss in so much as

it's just me being really tired of working so hard and wondering

whether the weight loss will really solve my image issues in the end.

Kat

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> > Does any one else feel like you are somehow intentionally trying to

> > sabotage your efforts?

> > I keep telling myself how I want to look and what I want to weigh.

But it

> > seems the closer I get I always manage to end up binging. How do I

find out

> > what my problem is?

> > Any ideas?

> >

> >

> >

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> > now.

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I LOVE the idea of journaling instead of (or maybe at least before)

giving in to that " compulsion to eat " . I love that phrase too as it

really descibes how I can be having a great day food and emotion wise

and then suddenly something happens(not always an obvious something

either) and I feel a real compulsion to eat. Often I'm not hungry or

only mildly so but it really feels like a complusion! I am going to

journal during those moments.

The best part is that journaling is something I can do most times of

day. EVen jotting few notes while at stop lights is doable.

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> > > > Does any one else feel like you are somehow intentionally

trying to

> > > > sabotage your efforts?

> > > > I keep telling myself how I want to look and what I want to

weigh.

> > But it

> > > > seems the closer I get I always manage to end up binging. How

do I

> > find out

> > > > what my problem is?

> > > > Any ideas?

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

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Journaling is a great way to figure out whether you're really hungry

or if you're eating of of emotion. During the week, I'm on the

computer all day and keep my journal open. At times that I used to

snack, I write what about how I'm feeling physically and emotionally

at that moment and sometimes journal away from eating or realize that

my last meal was insufficient. For years, I've heard journaling is a

great tool for losing weight but it's always been writing in what you

ate which I absolutely hated. Now that I'm writing what I feel it

just comes natural that I want to write it down. I'm looking forward

to reading my journal after a few more months and hope to see a

pattern of progress!

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> > > > > Does any one else feel like you are somehow intentionally

> trying to

> > > > > sabotage your efforts?

> > > > > I keep telling myself how I want to look and what I want to

> weigh.

> > > But it

> > > > > seems the closer I get I always manage to end up binging. How

> do I

> > > find out

> > > > > what my problem is?

> > > > > Any ideas?

> > > > >

> > > > >

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I know I need to explore this a little more than what I'm presenting

here, but yes, I know what you mean.

There are a lot of reasons I've put on weight, the weight has, in

many ways, lots of protective meanings, for me and so even though, I

want to let go of it, I have to acknowledge what those past actions

by past s were trying to do for me. I have to be ready to accept

those " gifts " from myself, parts of myself or past selves - however,

you want to frame it. Then, I accept them, really listening and

understanding, and then let it go, reassuring myself it is time

to " graduate " and move on. This is part of the inner alignment tool

brought up in the first few podcasts.

>

> Does any one else feel like you are somehow intentionally trying to

sabotage your efforts?

> I keep telling myself how I want to look and what I want to

weigh. But it seems the closer I get I always manage to end up

binging. How do I find out what my problem is?

> Any ideas?

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

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Hi . talks about this in some of the first podcasts (the first 2 or

3). That

REALLY helped me learn why I self-sabotaged and I have stopped.

> >

> > Does any one else feel like you are somehow intentionally trying to

> sabotage your efforts?

> > I keep telling myself how I want to look and what I want to

> weigh. But it seems the closer I get I always manage to end up

> binging. How do I find out what my problem is?

> > Any ideas?

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile.

> Try it now.

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What i have learned over the past couple of months is that I have to be really

focused on my thoughts at all times. I have to be aware of every thing I think

because thoughts turn into actions. It is when I let my negative thoughts creep

back in they take right over. And those negative thoughts are the ones that make

me do the things that keep me from reaching my goals. Its so easy to slip back

in the unaware mindset of denial. Staying in the present moment at all times

helps me alot.

ehwiener wrote:

,

I know I need to explore this a little more than what I'm presenting

here, but yes, I know what you mean.

There are a lot of reasons I've put on weight, the weight has, in

many ways, lots of protective meanings, for me and so even though, I

want to let go of it, I have to acknowledge what those past actions

by past s were trying to do for me. I have to be ready to accept

those " gifts " from myself, parts of myself or past selves - however,

you want to frame it. Then, I accept them, really listening and

understanding, and then let it go, reassuring myself it is time

to " graduate " and move on. This is part of the inner alignment tool

brought up in the first few podcasts.

>

> Does any one else feel like you are somehow intentionally trying to

sabotage your efforts?

> I keep telling myself how I want to look and what I want to

weigh. But it seems the closer I get I always manage to end up

binging. How do I find out what my problem is?

> Any ideas?

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile.

Try it now.

>

>

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