Guest guest Posted November 29, 2008 Report Share Posted November 29, 2008 Don't know where I read this but I've read that the desire to control comes from fear. Since I certainly share is this desire to control - I do try to ask myself - what am I afraid of? Some of it is I fear people bossing me around. I don't like to be told what to do. It is why I am a major Weight Watcher drop out. I actually even don't like it when I tell myself I should do something. I am trying to not see any of this of what I should do more of what I want to do for myself. Maybe myself is fearful that I am not worth it? Thoughts on a rainy Saturday morning from someone striving to be naturally slender ( I know in my heart that is the way to go) but still struggling with fear and control issues. Some days more than others diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2008 Report Share Posted November 29, 2008 Yeah, I'm with you on that one. I HATE when I feel like people are telling me what to do. That's why I don't tell anyone what I'm up to when I'm trying to lose weight because I don't want them to tell me what they think will work and how they think I should be. I was overweight as a kid and the adults in my Mom's HUGE extended family were always putting me on a diet. My fear is always that I can't do it. But I'm practicing replacing negative thoughts with asking the question " what do I want instead " and I'm finding that if I think of this process as me practicing " manifesting a naturally slender and strong body " then it doesn't feel all heavy. I'm practicing doing something new to me. Eventually I will get good at it because usually, when I practice at something, I just do! > > Don't know where I read this but I've read that the desire to control comes from fear. Since I certainly share is this desire to control - I do try to ask myself - what am I afraid of? > > Some of it is I fear people bossing me around. I don't like to be told what to do. It is why I am a major Weight Watcher drop out. I actually even don't like it when I tell myself I should do something. I am trying to not see any of this of what I should do more of what I want to do for myself. Maybe myself is fearful that I am not worth it? > > Thoughts on a rainy Saturday morning from someone striving to be naturally slender ( I know in my heart that is the way to go) but still struggling with fear and control issues. Some days more than others > > diane > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2008 Report Share Posted November 30, 2008 Diane -- Maybe you could try EMBRACING the control by renaming it. Rather than calling it control, maybe call it " empowerment " both from outside forces and internally. Don't look at the fact that outside forces are telling you what to do, try and see them as something the world has sent you to empower you and give you strength to do better. As far as internal struggles, I have found that becoming EMPOWERED to make changes to how I see food has given me " control " but only as a by- product. In fact, by practicing the exercises, I am more empowered every day and the feeling that it is " control " goes away more and more (as does that panicky feeling when I think I'm losing control). I simply feel less like I am " white knuckling " it and more like I'm free to make choices -- I am EMPOWERED. I hope that makes some sense? Take care and best of luck. Check out my blog: http://iofitwithang.blogspot.com/ > > Don't know where I read this but I've read that the desire to control comes from fear. Since I certainly share is this desire to control - I do try to ask myself - what am I afraid of? > > Some of it is I fear people bossing me around. I don't like to be told what to do. It is why I am a major Weight Watcher drop out. I actually even don't like it when I tell myself I should do something. I am trying to not see any of this of what I should do more of what I want to do for myself. Maybe myself is fearful that I am not worth it? > > Thoughts on a rainy Saturday morning from someone striving to be naturally slender ( I know in my heart that is the way to go) but still struggling with fear and control issues. Some days more than others > > diane > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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