Re: urinating on self-Cathy

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That is great! I'm going to try it. We've been doing the workbook " What To Do

When Your Brain Gets Stuck " and Josiah is responding really well! He's working

hard on " throwing bad thoughts away " . We've even made a game of it. I'll say a

" thought " and he tells me if it should be thrown away or kept. I try to make it

funny by saying some things he'll think are outrageous or gross.

Walk by Faith

Tyler

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Sent: Sunday, December 7, 2008 5:18:46 PM

Subject: Re: urinating on self-

Your welcome! We are all there with you...

I went to our son's psychiatrist and he told me something that I

didn't expect the other day... he said when you talk to your son...

who is 9, tell him very calmly... My expectations are that you will do

this or don't do that.... so, with yours... you can say, my

expectations of you are that you will get up and use the bathroom.

I thought... " okay Doc.... yeah right! " well, lo and behold, I have

been very calmly telling my kids that I expect this or expect that...

in a nice way and I am telling you, their response has been

amazing!!!!! !!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!! !!! I thought it was a whack

idea... but it isn't...

Also... our psychiatrist told us to talk with our son about his

ocd... to say, I know that your mind is telling you to do this or do

that, but you need to tell your mind... no, I am not going to do

that... and explain that even though it is hard, the more practice he

has at it, the easier it will get....

Just a few ideas that are helping us... I know we never know what will

work for our own children until we try it...

I am so happy you are having a better day and that he had a successful

day.....

Vicki

Elk Grove, CA

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> Thanks Vicki, I feel better today. He didn't wet himself yesterday.

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> Big hugs to you.... You are a wonderful mom! I have yelled and

> screamed and cried and done everything that I shouldn't have....

> plain and simple- WE ARE HUMAN .... no one but other parents of

> OCDers can understand the stresses and fears and anger and love, the

> unconditional, overbearing, all consuming love that goes into

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> these children. Forgive yourself, keep being a wonderful mom.

> Sometimes we just need to give ourselves a break....

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> With love and prayers and hugs and understanding,

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[Guest guest]

Hi Vicki,

Just wanted to say, so glad this strategy is working for you. It's so

nice, and can be surprising when something actually works. Our son is

older than yours, but at 15-16 when we were going through some intense

OCD behavioral stuff I used this same principle. Now mind you I had to

yell and be firm, that I would not allow the OCD to boss me, and that I

did not want to talk to " it " but to my son. I would literally boss it

back when my son couldn't and I still remember the look of relief on my

son's face with one particularily bad day. It only worked sometimes

for us, but I would imagine with a younger child it could be very

effective.

Barb

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