How not to be vindictive? The lesson from my son.

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Hi all,

(I sent this message to the VerbalBehavior group but thought it

would be just as relevant here, as everywhere?! .. .).

Much obliged to your kind words, of support! [but?] Respectfully,

freedom comes from understanding " more, " of what we think and feel,

of the " facts " that exist, thereof, and it ain't always pretty!

telling it like it is, of the data. It's as much a responsibility as

a right, to do that, what I do, of the whole truth, of

communication for understanding, of meaningful behavior, thereof.

(More than just the " art, " of the " edited " stuff, we " might " prefer

to see, and believe, and " answer " to? ...).

Think of the messy stuff I present as " research " " data, " (may include

some of this...) full of connections, of thoughts, of interests to

feelings, of needs, thereof, (more than you normally " get, " or

understand, otherwise?) and the clearer stuff, simple pointed

directions, of conclusions, for you to " follow " ... if you'd prefer

(to do) that... of a/the " choice/s, " thereof, of understanding

more for your self.

Thanks for " bearing " with me in that respect and for what you and

others can get from it, too. (If I can say this why wouldn't others

come out the way " they " are, in expression, of the way they " feel, "

of their " needs, " thereof...) I'm thinking this is (of) the

missing link/step in getting the truth, of words, out, for our

children and students (especially.. .).

I trust that that should help you understand me better, as I now

understand you better, and that adds up to a " greater " understanding

of " more, " of all! of what we are about, I hope, that should

matter to us of our interest/s, in what we think and feel and

understand, and " do, " thereof, of " behavior " . " I " consider this as

good (of meaningful) as anything of " behavior " gets, in this respect

of that, of ABA/VB.

I understand what you want from me, and rest assured that I " will "

try to deliver it for you, what I feel you need, of " your " feelings,

of interest/s, thereof, where I can, as best I can, for what it's

worth to me, too.

By understanding our selves better we get to understand everything

(else) better, including our children and students, thereof...

Their behavior is a reflection of our behavior in this respect of

that, should seem " obvious, " perhaps... Don't take anything for

granted? ... I'll try not to, in being as " inclusive " as I " am " with

this...

Do " you " not feel better from listening to and analyzing me of this

of what I'm communicating, as trying to communicate, with you?

Take from it what you can! ... leave the rest " for " others? ... is

all that I'm trying to say and establish for you, of us, as

Individuals, by this. Of Freedom, of Communication, of

Understanding, thereof, of getting us re-connected with The truth of

what we feel, as need, thereof, this is. I believe that

conceptualization can help " remedy " a lot of our problems of a/our

ideological knowledge fixated/obsessed world not meaningfully enough

based in the facts of what we feel, of our needs, thereof.

That we can tolerate this (if not embrace it...) for a greater

understanding of " more, " of others, Individuals, is why I believe

this group... sets a " higher " standard, of communication, for that,

communication for a greater understanding of more of all, that

ABA/VB of communication is more logically about, thereof.

Where it, the content here, " doesn't " seem relevant to that, of

ABA/VB, leave it for to moderate (!) " not " of a

consensus... (of politics? ...) but for anyone, of " everyone! " of

Freedom, of Speech, of Liberty of Understanding, of self-control,

thereof. There should be plenty of room for that, here, with Us,

though, as I've said before, may end up needing to hire an

assistant, thereof! ... Dare to do? More members to this group

would not be such a bad thing, for " me, " I understand.. .

Maybe we need lessons on how to stream toward and out of those who we

we " want " to " communicate " with, or not, of this group? " That "

should be easy enough to manage for us, of ABA/VB.

Mike,

I ABA

ABA for Understanding .

P.S. Rather than " deleting " anyone from your inbox? ... (it comes up

a lot...) tell them what you " feel " about what they say, and why

that is, if you can. Maybe they " can " help, with that, (of

communication) where trying to shut them out from the group would

be, wrong? [some have] of a misapplication of the principles and

practices of ABA/VB? Who are we to be afraid of (or contemptuous

of?) communication? What example would that set for Us? Work it out,

with whomever, if you expect them to believe you " can " work it out,

with others, of our children and students, especially. That works,

should work, of what we represent... Do The math, (?)

of " reinforceing " communication, thereof. It shouldn't be so hard to

do, between ourselves! There " are " rules, for most everything

else? .. . (No doubt!)

If you don't have time for this, " I " would understand, and be able

to help, thereof! .. .;=)(Write like I do! Write like you Feel.)

One thing " variably " leads to another... in trying to understand

more for our selves, as " Individuals. " We " should " be OK " for "

that, here, and with more, much more, to be gained " from " it, (of

this?) for our selves; for our children and students, thereof. Now

doesn't this make you want to say something! It should. We should,

speak up! (and thank-you for that..) where people need help with

understanding more, of meaningful behavior, of " communication, "

thereof!

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Sorry, but I believe I carried on as usual, again! I will strive to

write so you will find it even easier to understand, (?) as much as I

say, as best I can, of that... (!) I was intending to send this

message to the group but I changed my mind? ... (I gather people have

heard enough of this?!.) There should be a lot to gain from just you

trying to make sense of this. (!) If you have a " specific " question,

feel free to ask, of a more simple and easy to understand question, I

will try to provide for such an answer! (Or a syllogism, of a

Definition?! .. .).

You might want to consider using (or improvising with) " song/s, " for

developing the echoic/mnemonic base/function, and interest,

for " meaningful " speech, for your child. Kids usually are nuts about

music, thereof, of songs. Not enough is mentioned about that

value/phenomena in the VB literature, that I've discovered that can

really help. Too bad there isn't more music, of song/s, developed

for that, for our purposes. If something comes up in " that " respect

I'll let you know... See The song in this? Please do. (!)

My son... is " over it " in like, one hour, or less?! ... in taking

what he needs (and leaving the rest for others? .. .;=)(Of " How "

communication works !) " He " sets The example for that, as little as

he may get from it... and a " fine " example it is! that I understand

from it.. .;=)(On " how " communication works.).

Best wishes, thereof,

Mike