Guest guest Posted November 21, 2008 Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 Micah brought his papers home today....he'd been collecting them since the beginning of the school year. I finally asked, thinking the teachers had them, but no....they were all crammed into his desk. Anyway...as I'm going through his papers I see deductions for neatness. Words written in red " messy " . Over and over again. Well he has OCD and Tourette's! What do they expect?? I agree his handwriting's a mess, but he's doing the best he can. In Oct the teachers agreed not to grade him on neatness....I was so angry when I saw that one of his teachers knocked off 30 pts for neatness, and not using a pen. This project was worth 25% of his grade. He cant use a pen, if he cant erase, he will scribble things out....and he will never finish. He has symmetry OCD, so erasing is constant. I'm so angry that his teachers didn't keep their word. I didn't rush to get the IEP reinstated because I thought their word meant something. I don't know what to do. I'm afraid if I call them on it, it'll be taken out on Micah. How do you nicely state....hey what about your word? This particular teacher, that's grading him so harshly...gave him a D- this quarter. A lot of his tests are essay questions, and they cant read it. If they cant read it...its wrong, even if its right. I also asked her to watch a short DVD about TS, but she never answered my email, and I asked twice. I feel like I'm getting no cooperation from her. He is so discouraged, he says no matter how hard he works, or studies, he still fails. He's developing a " why should I bother " attitude.... " I'm going to fail anyway " Any advise for dealing with uncooperative teachers? If this is 6th grade how much worse will Jr high be? Thanks, **************One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social networks, and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com today!(http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1212962939x1200825291/aol?redir=h\ ttp://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp %26icid=aolcom40vanity%26ncid=emlcntaolcom00000001) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 Thanks BJ, I'm afraid we are both getting discouraged. I went to the TS web site, they had a seminar you could watch online for OTs teaching kids with TS and OCD. I watched it, and it became very apparent I need an OT to intervene with teachers on Micah's behalf. So this is my next step. Thanks so much BJ for your help and encouragement, it means a lot. In a message dated 11/22/2008 4:08:50 A.M. Central Standard Time, BJClosner@... writes: Gee, , I'm sorry this is happening. I don't have any experience with dealing with schools, since we've homeschooled for so may years. But, I hope some in here can give you some tips on how to get the school to work with you better. It's not right, what is happening. And I think it is sad that Micah is getting a discouraged attitude about learning. I understand your concerns. BJ **************One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social networks, and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com today!(http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1212962939x1200825291/aol?redir=h\ ttp://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp %26icid=aolcom40vanity%26ncid=emlcntaolcom00000001) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 Gee, , I'm sorry this is happening. I don't have any experience with dealing with schools, since we've homeschooled for so may years. But, I hope some in here can give you some tips on how to get the school to work with you better. It's not right, what is happening. And I think it is sad that Micah is getting a discouraged attitude about learning. I understand your concerns. BJ > > Micah brought his papers home today....he'd been collecting them since the > beginning of the school year. I finally asked, thinking the teachers had them, > but no....they were all crammed into his desk. > > Anyway...as I'm going through his papers I see deductions for neatness. > Words written in red " messy " . Over and over again. > Well he has OCD and Tourette's! What do they expect?? I agree his > handwriting's a mess, but he's doing the best he can. > > In Oct the teachers agreed not to grade him on neatness....I was so angry > when I saw that one of his teachers knocked off 30 pts for neatness, and not > using a pen. This project was worth 25% of his grade. > > He cant use a pen, if he cant erase, he will scribble things out....and he > will never finish. He has symmetry OCD, so erasing is constant. > > I'm so angry that his teachers didn't keep their word. I didn't rush to get > the IEP reinstated because I thought their word meant something. > > I don't know what to do. I'm afraid if I call them on it, it'll be taken out > on Micah. How do you nicely state....hey what about your word? This > particular teacher, that's grading him so harshly...gave him a D- this quarter. A > lot of his tests are essay questions, and they cant read it. If they cant read > it...its wrong, even if its right. > > I also asked her to watch a short DVD about TS, but she never answered my > email, and I asked twice. I feel like I'm getting no cooperation from her. > > He is so discouraged, he says no matter how hard he works, or studies, he > still fails. He's developing a " why should I bother " attitude.... " I'm going to > fail anyway " > > Any advise for dealing with uncooperative teachers? If this is 6th grade how > much worse will Jr high be? > > Thanks, > > > **************One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social networks, > and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com > today!(http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1212962939x1200825291/aol?redir=h\ ttp://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp > %26icid=aolcom40vanity%26ncid=emlcntaolcom00000001) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 Hi The Dr that just recently tested him for learning disabilities may have tested him for dysgraphia, I'm just not aware yet. After the testing his comment was that Micah has severe OCD, and that we would discuss the findings of the other tests Dec 1. This particular teacher complained about having to help Micah, as she has to lead him step by step. There's another teacher in the school who's son also has TS, so I mentioned this to her, and she suggested having his teacher make a list of the steps on paper for him to keep at his desk, that way he can mark off each step as he completes it. I thought it was a great idea, so I emailed the suggestion to her, but she never responded, and she never did it. Too much effort I guess, don't get me wrong, I know she has 20 kids in her class, but are we supposed to let him fail because helping him is too much work? That's why I made the suggestion, I was trying to make things easier for both of them. I also asked her to watch " I have TS but TS doesn't have me " , and again, no response. She agreed to not grade him on neatness but didn't follow through, that's what really burns me, she said she wouldn't and she did. And an F no less, for his artwork! I do believe he has dysgraphia, but I think part is OCD. He keeps tracing and retracing his letters, if it doesn't " feel " right when he writes them he erases and starts again, over and over. All the kids had to use pen for the project, but for Micah that wont work, since he " needs " to retrace, and if he makes a mistake, and he will, he would scribble it out. Then she would really think its messy. If he had to start over every time he made a mistake, he would never finish. When he's writing, he thinks one letter and writes another. It frustrates him so much. he has also started doing the same with his sentences...repeating part of it over and over again. I don't know if that's TS or OCD. His other teacher's great, its this one that's giving me fits. The others I don't bother with, i.e. art, music, pe. I think she's one of those people that think OCD is a behavioral/attitude problem. I wrote the school counselor, I was upset when I sent it. But, I'm so peeved, it doesn't bother me if the teacher gets her nose out of joint...unless she takes it out on him. But if she didn't intend to keep her word, then she shouldn't have given it. I read it to my husband, and couldn't even get through it without crying. it has become very obvious to me that a 504 or IEP are absolutely necessary. if you're interested in the letter I sent the school counselor Ill send it to you off list. Thanks so much for the suggestions, and just listening!! In a message dated 11/22/2008 8:57:22 A.M. Central Standard Time, @... writes: , could his doctor - whoever diagnosed the OCD and TS - also give him a dysgraphia diagnosis? had this dx too and it made a difference for school. When his OCD began his writing really worsened. With the writing, I actually worried he'd had some type stroke or something that might have affected him, seemed so sudden. So took him to a neurologist to rule that type thing out. The neuro gave him the dysgraphia dx, so I'm not sure just " who " can give that type diagnosis. Quick definition of dysgraphia: People with this disorder have difficulty with handwriting. Their writing is usually not legible and not written at an age-appropriate speed. Problems might be seen in the motor patterns used during writing, as well as difficulties with spelling and written composition. ( was an A+ speller, ignore that part) Anyway, we also had in his school 504 Plan that he couldn't get graded on neatness. His writing was unreadable, but bless some of those teachers who could read it because I couldn't. I don't know if the school helped with this BECAUSE he had that diagnosis, or they would have helped anyway without it. And they also couldn't grade him on class notes, etc. By the way, I also got a bit peeved when a teacher wrote a note about neatness too and was going to go up to the school if I saw another note about it. But for the most part, the school was great. If a teacher couldn't read it, they could just ask one who could I guess, but somehow his work was accepted with no points off. The end-of-grade state writing test where they had a prompt/topic and then had to write a story: His teacher copied his story over again, exactly as he wrote it to turn in. So in your case I think I would call the school for a meeting. If he doesn't have any type plan now, a 504 or an IEP, request that you would like him to have one, what is the process, etc. I really would get a Plan set up as this will follow him from teacher-to-teacher, grade-to-grade. So set up a meeting with his guidance counselor and teachers and go over the messy writing problem (and any other stuff). Bring some of those papers with you. If you feel he does better with a pencil, get an accommodation that he can use a pencil and not have to use a pen. (I wonder did they think using a pen would cut down on the erasing problem??? it was worth a try) Maybe you can get those 30 points back. You might also request an OT evaluation by them if they want his writing to improve, get them to test his fine & gross motor skills. Quick thoughts this a.m. in NC **************One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social networks, and the things you love. 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Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 Hey Barb, Actually Micah's in 6th grade, I dread Jr high given this experience. I only have 2 teachers to worry about. I've got 3 teachers that at first I tried to work with, but its down to one. The others would never respond to my email, or requests. It's so frustrating. Id pretty much given up on one of them, until the Fs started rolling in for neatness. Computer....he knows his keyboard a little, but not enough to really use it. I was thinking that over the summer I would get him some sort of software that teaches keyboard. I contacted the school counselor, she's also the 504 coordinator, which he doesn't have in place yet. They were aware that we were awaiting the test results. The school paid for none of the testing, even though they should have at least helped with some of it. They just told me it would take a long time to line up, and thought it best if I do it myself. I didn't tell the principal what was happening with this teacher...I don't know if I should. We had a meeting in Sept/Oct, that's when they agreed not to grade him on neatness. Only 1 has followed through. We are definitely in need of that IEP or 504. What do you do about a person that just doesn't think its a disability, but bad behavior, I think that's the mountain we are climbing. I'm still considering pulling him out of public school next year, I'm just not sure if I'll be able to school him. Our town has no private schools. Thanks for the support and kind words Barb....its nice to come here and vent, and everyone know what I mean. In a message dated 11/22/2008 9:44:38 A.M. Central Standard Time, barbnesrallah@... writes: Hi , Sorry you are going through this. It really is a different world when they enter the jn high years with several different teachers to please. It can be a full time job trying to advocate for your child's needs. Some teachers will keep in touch by email, others won't, but always worth a try. A couple of thoughts. Can your son use a computer to type up his work? Have you met with the principal to discuss things, or is there a spec ed person you connect with. I found if I could find one person on the inside on your side, who cared and had an understanding of your child it is worth gold, they can advocate for you. Can you request a meeting of all your son's teachers and outline your concerns and ask for specific accomodations, guess you really need the IEP to back this up though. I wished I had hired an independent advocate, or psychologist to attend one of these meetings with me, as I find they sit up and take notice when you do this. They are required by law to meet your child's needs, but the reality often is that they are so overburdened, underfunded that they really never can meet all the needs of all the kids they face daily. The more specific you can be about what would be most helpful, and then follow up with each teacher, or spec ed person to make sure things are in place. Regardless of all this you will always find the few teachers who have their own viewpoint on things, that just don't get it, and just won't mesh with your child's needs, those you just survive and chalk up to life lessons. I know how upsetting all this can be, when you have advocated and it is not listened to and your son is being penalized for something he can't help. It can be crazy making. Find your point of power in this situation and try to be calm and neutral when talking with teachers and others. I could never do this, I always felt frustrated and angry because it seemed like such a pointless exercise. In our case we should have pulled ours out and found an alternative, but at the time we couldn't find a good one. Guess it depends on what all the needs are and what can be provided. Our deciding point was always based on emotional health more than academics. Hang in there, hope others have some good suggestions. Warmly, Barb **************One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social networks, and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com today!(http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1212962939x1200825291/aol?redir=h\ ttp://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp %26icid=aolcom40vanity%26ncid=emlcntaolcom00000001) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 , could his doctor - whoever diagnosed the OCD and TS - also give him a dysgraphia diagnosis? had this dx too and it made a difference for school. When his OCD began his writing really worsened. With the writing, I actually worried he'd had some type stroke or something that might have affected him, seemed so sudden. So took him to a neurologist to rule that type thing out. The neuro gave him the dysgraphia dx, so I'm not sure just " who " can give that type diagnosis. Quick definition of dysgraphia: People with this disorder have difficulty with handwriting. Their writing is usually not legible and not written at an age-appropriate speed. Problems might be seen in the motor patterns used during writing, as well as difficulties with spelling and written composition. ( was an A+ speller, ignore that part) Anyway, we also had in his school 504 Plan that he couldn't get graded on neatness. His writing was unreadable, but bless some of those teachers who could read it because I couldn't. I don't know if the school helped with this BECAUSE he had that diagnosis, or they would have helped anyway without it. And they also couldn't grade him on class notes, etc. By the way, I also got a bit peeved when a teacher wrote a note about neatness too and was going to go up to the school if I saw another note about it. But for the most part, the school was great. If a teacher couldn't read it, they could just ask one who could I guess, but somehow his work was accepted with no points off. The end-of-grade state writing test where they had a prompt/topic and then had to write a story: His teacher copied his story over again, exactly as he wrote it to turn in. So in your case I think I would call the school for a meeting. If he doesn't have any type plan now, a 504 or an IEP, request that you would like him to have one, what is the process, etc. I really would get a Plan set up as this will follow him from teacher-to-teacher, grade-to-grade. So set up a meeting with his guidance counselor and teachers and go over the messy writing problem (and any other stuff). Bring some of those papers with you. If you feel he does better with a pencil, get an accommodation that he can use a pencil and not have to use a pen. (I wonder did they think using a pen would cut down on the erasing problem??? it was worth a try) Maybe you can get those 30 points back. You might also request an OT evaluation by them if they want his writing to improve, get them to test his fine & gross motor skills. Quick thoughts this a.m. > > Micah brought his papers home today....he'd been collecting them since the > beginning of the school year. I finally asked, thinking the teachers had them, > but no....they were all crammed into his desk. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 Hi , Sorry you are going through this. It really is a different world when they enter the jn high years with several different teachers to please. It can be a full time job trying to advocate for your child's needs. Some teachers will keep in touch by email, others won't, but always worth a try. A couple of thoughts. Can your son use a computer to type up his work? Have you met with the principal to discuss things, or is there a spec ed person you connect with. I found if I could find one person on the inside on your side, who cared and had an understanding of your child it is worth gold, they can advocate for you. Can you request a meeting of all your son's teachers and outline your concerns and ask for specific accomodations, guess you really need the IEP to back this up though. I wished I had hired an independent advocate, or psychologist to attend one of these meetings with me, as I find they sit up and take notice when you do this. They are required by law to meet your child's needs, but the reality often is that they are so overburdened, underfunded that they really never can meet all the needs of all the kids they face daily. The more specific you can be about what would be most helpful, and then follow up with each teacher, or spec ed person to make sure things are in place. Regardless of all this you will always find the few teachers who have their own viewpoint on things, that just don't get it, and just won't mesh with your child's needs, those you just survive and chalk up to life lessons. I know how upsetting all this can be, when you have advocated and it is not listened to and your son is being penalized for something he can't help. It can be crazy making. Find your point of power in this situation and try to be calm and neutral when talking with teachers and others. I could never do this, I always felt frustrated and angry because it seemed like such a pointless exercise. In our case we should have pulled ours out and found an alternative, but at the time we couldn't find a good one. Guess it depends on what all the needs are and what can be provided. Our deciding point was always based on emotional health more than academics. Hang in there, hope others have some good suggestions. Warmly, Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 Having a checklist with steps for the student is a common accommodation made in schools. Students with different " problems " benefit by this. I never got them to actually do that for , I was waiting to see if I felt he needed it. I did always tell them at meetings that he may have a problem if too many instructions are given at one time, he needed just 2 or 3 steps. Same way at home. What I did at meetings too was bring handouts on OCD and highlighted certain sentences, words. And then I read over a bit of it to them, what I really wanted them to hear that pertained to , as I didn't trust them to read it later. And then have my own list of reminders for me as I tend to forget to bring up some things when I'm busy talking about another and will leave without talking about it, so needed something for me to refer to. Yes, that tracing and erasing is OCD. The dysgraphia has to do with motor coordination and the legibility of what he writes. Now, OCD could keep from writing, get him " stuck " while writing, could have him tracing, or erasing and sometimes not rewriting after he erased...it varied. So I was concerned about OCD and how it was affecting his reading, his writing, the sudden illegibility of his writing, his being so consumed by compulsions and OCD at home that who could get to homework some nights...! But when the teachers/school saw the " dysgraphia " diagnosis, they just jumped all over coming up with accommodations for it (I was like, " what? you know what it is?? " since they had no clue about OCD). And what they wanted to do, voluntarily, for the dysgraphia fell right along with what he needed that OCD was causing. So - though they felt they were accommodating his dysgraphia, on MY side they were helping out with the OCD problems! It's a bit of work getting things set up with school but worth the fight once a Plan is in place! And, LOL, my bursting into tears and taking about 5 minutes to stop crying at one meeting helped, I was so distressed everything going on, worried about his schooling, etc. Embarrassing but I think it helped a bit that day. > > Hi > The Dr that just recently tested him for learning disabilities may have > tested him for dysgraphia, I'm just not aware yet. After the testing his comment > was that Micah has severe OCD, and that we would discuss the findings of the > other tests Dec 1. > > This particular teacher complained about having to help Micah, as she has to > lead him step by step. There's another teacher in the school who's son also > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 > > > > Hi > > The Dr that just recently tested him for learning disabilities may > have > > tested him for dysgraphia, I'm just not aware yet. After the > testing his comment > > was that Micah has severe OCD, and that we would discuss the > findings of the > > other tests Dec 1. > > > > This particular teacher complained about having to help Micah, as > she has to > > lead him step by step. There's another teacher in the school who's > son also > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 , My son went through that, still does, his handwriting can be very illegible at times. What the school did to help him is they allow him to type his assignments. Last school year he had to write a couple of essays for finals, so he typed them instead and he got a 98. He was extremely happy. Could you try that? Best wishes Sil ccfcrwmc@... wrote: > > Micah brought his papers home today....he'd been collecting them since > the > beginning of the school year. I finally asked, thinking the teachers > had them, > but no....they were all crammed into his desk. > > Anyway...as I'm going through his papers I see deductions for neatness. > Words written in red " messy " . Over and over again. > Well he has OCD and Tourette's! What do they expect?? I agree his > handwriting's a mess, but he's doing the best he can. > > In Oct the teachers agreed not to grade him on neatness....I was so angry > when I saw that one of his teachers knocked off 30 pts for neatness, > and not > using a pen. This project was worth 25% of his grade. > > He cant use a pen, if he cant erase, he will scribble things > out....and he > will never finish. He has symmetry OCD, so erasing is constant. > > I'm so angry that his teachers didn't keep their word. I didn't rush > to get > the IEP reinstated because I thought their word meant something. > > I don't know what to do. I'm afraid if I call them on it, it'll be > taken out > on Micah. How do you nicely state....hey what about your word? This > particular teacher, that's grading him so harshly...gave him a D- this > quarter. A > lot of his tests are essay questions, and they cant read it. If they > cant read > it...its wrong, even if its right. > > I also asked her to watch a short DVD about TS, but she never answered my > email, and I asked twice. I feel like I'm getting no cooperation from her. > > He is so discouraged, he says no matter how hard he works, or studies, he > still fails. He's developing a " why should I bother " attitude.... " I'm > going to > fail anyway " > > Any advise for dealing with uncooperative teachers? If this is 6th > grade how > much worse will Jr high be? > > Thanks, > > > **************One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social > networks, > and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com > today!(http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1212962939x1200825291/aol?redir=h\ ttp://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp > <http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1212962939x1200825291/aol?redir=http://\ www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp> > %26icid=aolcom40vanity%26ncid=emlcntaolcom00000001) > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 27, 2008 Report Share Posted November 27, 2008 , if it were me, I'd go with my husband and have a " sit-down " with the teacher. Discuss with her (calmly and rationally) your concerns, bringing up the agreement made in Oct; take specific assignments with you. The key thing is go up the chain of command. Give her another chance to explain her reasoning, If you don't get a satisfactory resolution, then it's time to bring in the principal and have a meeting with all. Even though I was reluctant (social stigma and all), I pursued a 504 plan for my daughter so that if we had issues with her schoolwork, it would be in writing what the teachers should be doing to help her. I feel better knowing there's a legal document to back up any concerns I have. (My DD's in 8th). I don't put much faith in someone's " word " anymore; too many people just don't keep it. Debbie ____________________________________________________________ Are you safe? Click for quotes on a home security system. http://thirdpartyoffers.netzero.net/TGL2241/fc/PnY6rx901TPsCH0bI2Uc0kCBR37AdvK9Y\ FaPXOC2hVPLCNfzT28wZ/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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