Father's who can't handle their child's OCD

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Hi all,

I don't know what to do about this one. My DH won't go into

counseling, so I don't know how to help him come to terms with our 9

1/2 year olds OCD.... I told him, I truly think he is mourning not

having the child he thought we would have and that is okay to be

sad... He told me I was wrong, that he isn't sad for himself, but for

our son...

The problem is that every time my DH is fed up, he will make comments

like he just needs to grow up or he's just immature! I don't know how

to deal with this. I have asked him to research, he is an educated

man in an administrative position, it's not like he can't figure it

out. What is making him not be able to deal with this reality. I find

myself getting so upset at his lack of understanding. I have given

him websites and articles, I have tried to explain things to him when

he is in the right frame of mind... have any of you had to deal with

this? How have you dealt with it? If your husband has come to terms,

how did he do that!?

My husband is not social, he won't reach out for assistance with

this... but, even worse, I think it is the old school way of thinking

he was brought up with that keeps him from accepting the truth about

our child.

Any input or ideas would be greatly appreciated...

Vicki