Guest guest Posted December 27, 2008 Report Share Posted December 27, 2008 Cory, Thanks for the great laugh! My sister writes a 4-6 page newsletter every year about her kids and grandkids. I'm happy for the successes and I realize the bad parts are left out, but I can't tell you how many times I've composed a letter like yours in my head. Thanks for your humor! > > Hi , > > I understand! It's amazing how much unspoken competition there can be > within families, usually through the kids from the competitive siblings! > > You did give me a smile, though, in thinking about an OCD family's > Christmas newsletter: > > " Jimmy had a great year this year, and we can get out the door to school > in less than 45 minutes, and we can get in the car without having to > open and close the passenger door 16 times!... " > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 27, 2008 Report Share Posted December 27, 2008 Thanks, ! Ya gotta laugh, right? That's how we survive! Here's to a good new year, everyone! lmatheos wrote: > > Cory, > Thanks for the great laugh! My sister writes a 4-6 page newsletter > every year about her kids and grandkids. I'm happy for the successes > and I realize the bad parts are left out, but I can't tell you how > many times I've composed a letter like yours in my head. Thanks for > your humor! > > > > > > > Hi , > > > > I understand! It's amazing how much unspoken competition there can be > > within families, usually through the kids from the competitive siblings! > > > > You did give me a smile, though, in thinking about an OCD family's > > Christmas newsletter: > > > > " Jimmy had a great year this year, and we can get out the door to > school > > in less than 45 minutes, and we can get in the car without having to > > open and close the passenger door 16 times!... " > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2008 Report Share Posted December 30, 2008 Jordana(?), Thank you for sending this. It is remarkable what you have accomplished and I, for one, am glad you are there teaching and helping our kids. I'll save this to remember so I don't worry as much about my son's future. Anne > > , how many children with OCD do you have? Â How about having your kids dictate one letter that you type on the computer from them all to your in-laws. Â Each child could just dictate one paragraph which could just be as simple as describing a favorite Christmas present or telling about a new lesson that they are learning in school. Â I think grandparents are just thrilled to receive mail about or from their grandkids and if you include an updated photo, they will be very happy. > > > One of the lessons that I learned from attending a self-help group called Recovery, Inc (which is free and helps people with anxiety, anger, and/or depression) was that " comparisions are odious " Â When we compare ourselves to others we tend to think we just don't measure up, but in truth, your children may have big hearts for others who are hurting, or may be wonderful at drawing or whatever. Â I have had to cope with pretty severe OCD and depression and my life is not how it might have been if I didn't have these disorders, but you know what? Â That's okay. Â I'm proud of what I have accomplished because it is despite the OCD and depression. Â Others may not know the handicap that these have been, but I do, so I give myself credit in my own mind when I am weighing what I have accomplished in life compared to others. Â Thus, while I may not be a great mom when it comes to the kinds of dinners that I prepare compared to others, I know how hard cooking is for me becaus > e of the OCD and I don't judge myself too harshly. Â I have an Ivy League education, yet I am just a special ed teacher which carries little status in this world while my fellow graduates are earning megabucks in other fields, but you know what? Â I LOVE teaching, particularly special needs kids so I can deal with the lower status of teaching compared to medicine or law or banking. Â All of the above is just to show you that comparisons are not realistic because we all have different issues and we need to judge ourselves kindly and give ourselves and our kids pats on the back for what we have been able to accomplish, without concerning ourselves with what we haven't. > > > > > > christmas letters > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I wonder if anyone else deals with this negative feeling about reading > > the Christmas letters about family news and events and kid > > accomplishments that people often send out this time of year. I have > > things to be happy about but they would not sound impressive to the > > average family! Moreover my in-laws are asking for my kds to write to > > them and tell them what they are doing and my kids don't want to b/c > > they don't do all the exciting and noteworthy and successful type > > things that their cousins do (plus a couple of them=2 > 0literally cannot > > write a sentence when the OCD is bad) Blah... > > nancy grace > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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