Re: Daughters germ phobia

[Guest guest]

Hi Sandy, what all have you already tried at home? Like limiting the

number of towels or amount of soap (over time, not all at once), or

targeting how often she can wash hands or length of showers/baths...?

So glad she beat the eating disorder!! We went through a, luckily,

short period with eating problems (due to OCD) and that was scary!!

>

>with her and has for some time but after all this time, I

> still get frustrated with never having clean towels becauses she

washes

> so much, buying tons of soap, never hot water, septic tank getting

> overloaded from so much water and other stuff like that. I know I

can't

> control her behaviors, only she can and I know she needs our support

> and love more than ever. I'm wondering how other parents deal with

> their frustrations so that it doesn't get in the way of supporting

> their children.

> Thanks, Sandy

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Barb,

Thanks for your input. It is so helpful to know that there are so many

understanding folks out there. Yes, relieved that my daughter has conquered the

eating disorder would be an understatement. She has battled long and hard and

we are very proud of her. OCD is just a drop in the bucket for her compared

to what she's been through. She's been on meds and doing CBT and DBT for the

better part of the last four years and she's hanging in there. Now, if I could

just learn to hang in there a little better But, it wears you down. Like

going two steps forward and one step back all the time. I, too, hide in

books, movie and stay away from home ( mostly when she isn't feeling like being

a

" nice person " ). I have also had CBT and DBT along with her and I also

struggled with OCD as a teenager but have had the upper hand on it for some time

now. I have talked to all kinds of people, including psychologists, but the only

people who seem to understand the struggles the child and the family have with

OCD (or eating disorders for that matter) are the people who have " been

there " . Luckily there are a lot of support groups for the kids out there, they

need

all the support they can get, but it's hard to find face 2 face support

groups out there for the parents. So on that note

Thanks again for this great group.

Sandy

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[Guest guest]

Hi Sandy,

Just wanted to encourage you to consider starting your own parent

support group. I felt the same as you on this and felt quite

desparate to connect with others going through this, and also to hear

their ideas on how to deal with it all.

I had no experience, didn't really know how to go about it, but just

went ahead and did it. I was lucky in that a group had existed in

the past and I was able to email that list of people. But only a few

from that list came. Mostly from advertising online in every

resource I could find, attending other parent groups, and at

hospitals, brought inquiries from many. I'd be willing to bet there

are others out there in your area feeling the same need.

We meet at my husband's restaurant when it is closed, which made that

part easy. But I did check out churches as well as potential meeting

places. Even meeting the few who respond for coffee at first.

Anyway, just some thoughts.

After a year we have about twenty five regular members with ten to

fifteen coming out any given time. Really great to have a supportive

group to just hang out with and talk about all the crazy stuff that

comes up and to get others perspectives and ideas. We have even had

guest speakers. Getting connected with others in your area might

also help plug into resources available in general.

More hugs to you! We are all here to support you through this so you

are not alone with it.

Barb

> now. I have talked to all kinds of people, including psychologists,

but the only

> people who seem to understand the struggles the child and the

family have with

> OCD (or eating disorders for that matter) are the people who

have " been

> there " . Luckily there are a lot of support groups for the kids out

there, they need

> all the support they can get, but it's hard to find face 2 face

support

> groups out there for the parents.

>

> Hi Barb,

> Thanks for your input. It is so helpful to know that there are

so many

> understanding folks out there. Yes, relieved that my daughter has

conquered the

> eating disorder would be an understatement. She has battled long

and hard and

> we are very proud of her. OCD is just a drop in the bucket for her

compared

> to what she's been through. She's been on meds and doing CBT and

DBT for the

> better part of the last four years and she's hanging in there. Now,

if I could

> just learn to hang in there a little better But, it wears you

down. Like

> going two steps forward and one step back all the time. I, too,

hide in

> books, movie and stay away from home ( mostly when she isn't

feeling like being a

> " nice person " ). I have also had CBT and DBT along with her and I

also

> struggled with OCD as a teenager but have had the upper hand on it

for some time

So on that note

> Thanks again for this great group.

> Sandy

> **************Make your life easier with all your friends, email,

and

> favorite sites in one place. Try it now.

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