Re: Dealing with ocd and an adult child

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Hi Sandi I dreally appreciate your answer. I strugle with the whole world

wanting him to function and take care of himself, I want that also. He causes

alot of stress in the home. He also struggles with another illness. First they

said he was bi-polar. Now they say he has a personality disorder. He wants to

work but does not keep jobs long. He use's me to vent all of his frustration. I

am the one who seems to escalate every problem he has, which are many. I guess

he needs a deffirent medication this one does not work. Clomepramine is what he

is on now. Changing meds is another issue that he swears will never work.I am at

my wits end.  Thank you for your thoughts. Tammie

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Sent: Wednesday, December 3, 2008 8:47:45 PM

Subject: Re: Dealing with ocd and an adult child

Tammie, I don't post often, but I do read selective emails when I have the time.

I know a few lady's on the group especially . She was the first to

reach out to me when I joined..

I also have an older son with mild ocd but also bdd which is the worst of his

issues. It has affected his life terribly. We are hopeful, but it does at time

become over-whelming for me. I suppose because like another mother said in a

previous post, mothers often feel sad and responsible. ..because they cannot fix

their child with ocd. On top of this, my son has multiple medical issues as

well. I'd be lying if I didn't think at times that he may be with us forever.

I am so worn out this evening I don't feel much like explaining a lot of

details. When I saw your post that your son was an adult-child 26 w/ ocd, it

made me curious if anyone on the group had done a survey of the members to learn

how many have children under 18 y.o. with ocd and how many have adult-children

with ocd 18 y.o. over.

Also, has anyone ever surveyed the group members to compile a list of all the

known drug taken for ocd and it's variant forms. This list wouldn't need to be

limited to ocd itself but could include other disorders that seem to coincide

with ocd like add or (?) ahdd and others. Sometimes I wish I had a list like

this I could print out instead of weeding through or saving various emails with

drug information. It would be invaluable to know all the drugs used and their

generic forms and how many patients found the drugs to be successful or not and

why. Oh well, it sounds like a good idea but maybe its not.

One other quick point I wanted to make was in response to the parent having

trouble with 504 and their public school administrators. I also experienced the

" we can't help you with your son by his advisor and teachers at his public high

school system. Basically they told me to take my straight A child out of school

and consider homeschooling or online school. I was uninformed at the time and

believed them. Feeling I had no other course of action but this, we withdrew him

from school. When I found this group, I discovered I did have options - 504!! So

the person inquiring about this should take it to the school board if they don't

get the help they need. There is help they can provide, they just don't want

anyone to know about it.

Kind regards,

Sandi in GA

My son has ocd he is 26 years old. His ocd involves letters and

numbers. This involves every aspect of his life. He has a hard time

functioning in all parts of his life. I was wondering if anyone has any

like experiences with ocd. He also can not throw things away that have

numbers or letters. He puts everything that he touches in his pockets

or his vehicle. He can not sign a check or fill out a form. He is on

medication but it is not working. I was wondering if anyone with an

older child has any words of wisdom for me. Thank you Tammie