Guest guest Posted May 3, 2003 Report Share Posted May 3, 2003 I hate to be the stick in the mud but if I had known my son had issues, I would not have chosen to have another. We were facing that because at a time they thought he had craniosynotosis, thank goodness, NOT! Then we would have gone through genetic testing and still would have opted not to have more children. That being said, I now have almost a 3 1/2 year old possible Aspergers child and a 6 month old son. I am so afraid for my 6 month old son. Since we do not know if my 3 1/2 year old has Aspergers, I constantly question myself has a parent. Is it me, are his tantrums because we haven't discipline him enough, I analyzed everything he says and does to others constantly, looking and searching for answers. I look at my 6 month old and wonder if and worry constantly what I can do to help him, will he have the same issues. So far they are so much alike in ways and so much different too. I will have the strength to deal with this but don't sleep well at night with all that I read, the unanswered questions, am I the best parent I can be for my children. It really is a terrible feeling but think if my child didn't have issues, I probable wouldn't be battling with these issues in my heart so much! That being said, my son was in "school" this entire week with in house evaluations. He loved it. Transitioned well, they told me he caught on fine to the routine and that is really all I know. The speech person said he did his sign thing, loves the newspaper, phone books and can amaze people with what he knows, read, logos, whatever. He speaks up a storm, huge sentences but yet a lot a jabber. Ok, he is also interacting with the baby now too. Will sit to play, hand him toys, or take away. Loves to laugh with him and asks about him a lot? Sound normal or would an Aspergers child not want to interact at all with a sibling? I'm still not totally convince he has Aspergers, but then I'm not a pro. Been reading "The Out of Sinc Child" and funny how he doesn't fit any "one" mold either. I would really like to see him get some OT for some sensory issues and speech, I'm thinking. Anyway, sorry to ramble! Baily Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2003 Report Share Posted May 3, 2003 Hi Baily, I am raising my grand daughter who is aspergers. She is very social. I don't buy into the genetics piece. There may be a genetic link but what's the trigger? I can't help but think about years ago when I workded for SSI. All the drug adicts and alcoholics were getting benenfits becssue someone somewhere said it was a genetic disease. Years went by and they were finally dropped from getting benefits. They never did pin down the gene. The sad thing ws alot of these people had real mental health issues but because there primary Dx was alcohol adn drug addiction they were dropped like hot potatoes. We had to have armed guards on the cut off day. It was scary. I got off track there for a moment. Just remember that if your son is Aspergers he has a good chance of going on to live a pretty productive life. I think its the early years and the social deficiences taht give them the biggest trouble. I can say this it does get better. I jsut watched my 8 year old grand dtr cook her self pancakes for breakfast. She couldn't tie her shoes till she was six. So you see it comes to them. It just takes alot longer. Try no to worry too much. Grand ma Peggy > I hate to be the stick in the mud but if I had known my son had issues, I would not have chosen to have another. We were facing that because at a time they thought he had craniosynotosis, thank goodness, NOT! Then we would have gone through genetic testing and still would have opted not to have more children. That being said, I now have almost a 3 1/2 year old possible Aspergers child and a 6 month old son. I am so afraid for my 6 month old son. Since we do not know if my 3 1/2 year old has Aspergers, I constantly question myself has a parent. Is it me, are his tantrums because we haven't discipline him enough, I analyzed everything he says and does to others constantly, looking and searching for answers. I look at my 6 month old and wonder if and worry constantly what I can do to help him, will he have the same issues. So far they are so much alike in ways and so much different too. I will have the strength to deal with this but don't sleep well at night with all that I read, the unanswered questions, am I the best parent I can be for my children. It really is a terrible feeling but think if my child didn't have issues, I probable wouldn't be battling with these issues in my heart so much! > > That being said, my son was in " school " this entire week with in house evaluations. He loved it. Transitioned well, they told me he caught on fine to the routine and that is really all I know. The speech person said he did his sign thing, loves the newspaper, phone books and can amaze people with what he knows, read, logos, whatever. He speaks up a storm, huge sentences but yet a lot a jabber. > > Ok, he is also interacting with the baby now too. Will sit to play, hand him toys, or take away. Loves to laugh with him and asks about him a lot? Sound normal or would an Aspergers child not want to interact at all with a sibling? > > I'm still not totally convince he has Aspergers, but then I'm not a pro. Been reading " The Out of Sinc Child " and funny how he doesn't fit any " one " mold either. I would really like to see him get some OT for some sensory issues and speech, I'm thinking. > > Anyway, sorry to ramble! > > Baily Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2003 Report Share Posted May 3, 2003 hamtorohamham wrote: > > Hi Baily, > > I am raising my grand daughter who is aspergers. She is very social. > I don't buy into the genetics piece. There may be a genetic link but > what's the trigger? BTW, researchers have identified the gene involved in autism. I read about it just about a month or so ago. And, from what our son's psychologist told us, the trigger for our guy was probably a childhood incident that was a trauma for him but not for us. We pinned it down to an insane landlord who cut our power (with a saw!) and waved a pistol in Louie's face when he was around 20 mos. old, give or take. But I think you may be right about things sorting themselves out when adulthood finally occurs, even though I'm talking through my hat here (not being autistic myself.....I think). It seems to be so in our Louie's case, anyway. Annie, who loves ya annie@... -- " I was thrown out of college for cheating on the metaphysics exam; I looked into the soul of the boy next to me. " --Woody . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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