Re: Meltdowns, holidays, things have gotten really bad--------

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I am a single parent. Except for an extreme panic attack on 4th of July while at

my parents, nobody has seen Joei's symptoms emerge except for myself and her two

best friends.  I was told that this is because she feels safe with us and partly

because her OCD uses me as a ritual (reassurance and question answering).  Hang

in there and try to remember that his sickness is doing this, not him.

~~Kathy

 Courage is not living without fear.

Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.

-Chae

[Guest guest]

But Kathy, doesn't she ask the people around her for reassurance when you aren't

there? 

Re: Re: Meltdowns, holidays, things have gotten

really bad--------

Hi ,

I am a single parent. Except for an extreme panic attack on 4th of July while at

my parents, nobody has seen Joei's symptoms emerge except for myself and her two

best friends.  I was told that this is because she feels safe with us and

partly because her OCD uses me as a ritual (reassurance and question

answering).  Hang in there and try to remember that his sickness is doing this,

not him.

~~Kathy

 Courage is not living without fear.

Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.

-Chae

[Guest guest]

No, she doesn't. She holds it all in, or she calls me or text messages me.  The

only other person she does that with is her best friend who was with us a lot

this summer when this all manifested. This other little girl even took an

ambulance ride with us during an anxiety attack. They have been friends since

kindergarten and are pretty much inseperable. 

She spends a lot of time with my parents and they don't see the symptoms and she

does her best to hold it all in. I can literally see the meltdown starting as we

are walking to the car when I pick her up.

Maybe it's because I am the only parent available to her, but I refuse to take

any of her behaviors personal. Between the OCD and just being a 6th grade girl,

it can all be really daunting to deal with as a parent sometimes.  I think I'm

getting a self defense system built in -- I'm sure it will be needed to deal

with the upcoming years!

 

~~Kathy

 Courage is not living without fear.

Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.

-Chae

 

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Sent: Sunday, December 28, 2008 9:01:59 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Meltdowns, holidays, things have gotten

really bad--------

But Kathy, doesn't she ask the people around her for reassurance when you aren't

there? 

Re: Re: Meltdowns, holidays, things have gotten

really bad--------

Hi ,

I am a single parent. Except for an extreme panic attack on 4th of July while at

my parents, nobody has seen Joei's symptoms emerge except for myself and her two

best friends.  I was told that this is because she feels safe with us and partly

because her OCD uses me as a ritual (reassurance and question answering).  Hang

in there and try to remember that his sickness is doing this, not him.

~~Kathy

 Courage is not living without fear.

Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.

-Chae

[Guest guest]

I do understand.  I had my kids as a single mom, so they only have me.  My

daughter definitely feels that if anything goes wrong, I am to blame because I

am supposed to make things right for her.  Then she gets angry with me and will

take it out on me by being moody and even being mean to me verbally.  I am

definitely her source for reassurance, but when she is really scared and since

she doesn't have a cell phone at only 9 years old, I do think she sometimes has

to let others know by asking them about what is scaring her.  

Re: Re: Meltdowns, holidays, things have gotten

really bad--------

Hi ,

I am a single parent. Except for an extreme panic attack on 4th of July while at

my parents, nobody has seen Joei's symptoms emerge except for myself and her two

best friends.  I was told that this is because she feels safe with us and

partly because her OCD uses me as a ritual (reassurance and question

answering).  Hang in there and try to remember that his sickness is doing

this, not him.

~~Kathy

 Courage is not living without fear.

Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.

-Chae

[Guest guest]

Good plan with the self defense system Kathy!!! I notice Chris

mentioned martial arts too. Can't be to " armed " to take on the stuff

teens will throw at you. I am mostly immune now to the " I hate

you " (don't get so much anymore, must figure I know this now), " You're

not doing anything " , " It's your job " ...

Now I'm ready for it, and either agree, or send the compliment back

to him, yes, I can be a child too....

Barb

I refuse to take any of her behaviors personal. Between the OCD and

just being a 6th grade girl, it can all be really daunting to deal

with as a parent sometimes.  I think I'm getting a self defense

system built in -- I'm sure it will be needed to deal with the

upcoming years!

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